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[kentucker4]

My Korean wife's father called her from Korea for the first time in two or three years the other day and told her he wants her back in his life and to come to Korea and he will pay off all of her debt there and will pay for our wedding. He currently works for the government there, doesn't like foreigners and used to be a high ranking member of a gang in Busan, according to my wife. He also used to cheat on her mother and even beat her and my wife from time to time.

Quite frankly, this guy scares me as he seems to have a lot of power over there and connections. Just don't know if I can trust him from everything I have heard thus far. I know for a fact that he despises the idea of his daughter marrying a foreigner. My wife and her mother both told me that. I am thinking all this wedding talk is BS and he has other plans once we get there and he meets me.

Now my wife wants to go back to Korea, which I have been trying to convince her to do for a long time. Just don;t know about her father. I know he won't approve of me no matter how nice I am. He already told her that I need to get my act together and learn to speak Korean if I want to ever speak to him. Not saying he is not right about that, because I should. But still, this guy seems very rigid. My wife always tells me stories of how he put so many of her exes in the hospital and how he taught her all the main points on a person's body to kill them with one stab of a knife and exactly how to do it...something about twisting it or something.

Maybe I am being paranoid.

[Panda]

Make a baby asap.

[Hater Depot]

I wouldn't go. Is your wife considering it?

[hellofaniceguy]

Knowing what you now know...and you'd still risk a serious confrontation with your out-laws? And involve your wife in it? She has to pick sides if it comes to it...and if she is in her father's grasp...she is not picking you.
Why whould you want to risk problems? You're.....I don't know K.....safe and sound where you are......

[kentucker4]

[Forward Observer]

ASK YOURSELF WHAT YETI BIGFOOT WOULD DO.

[Steelrails]

Sounds like one of my friends' from back in the states dad's...all the details...only instead of pressure points, his preferred survival tip for young ladies was "carry toothpicks in every pocket. When they're trying to rape you just grab one and stick it in the eye."

Man...they probably know each other...He's from Busan also.

My friend has been like "You should visit my parents one weekend" and I'm like "No". Sad thing is he's a really smart and interesting guy, if only he wasn't a complete psychopath.

I'd probably get the reverse, being ethnically Korean, he'd probably try and force me to marry his daughter (who understandably, does not date Korean guys) and make it an "or else" proposition. His other daughter (good friend of mine too) is already married to an American, and at least he didn't try to kill her...so maybe he's a bit more 'liberal'...

Nothing like psychotic Korean former gangsters turned govt. officials...

[T-J]

[PRagic]

Have her tell him that if he's serious, have him get his own arse on a plane and fly over to see you two!

Wife chooses dad over hubby. Problems ahead, my friend. Stay away from Korea until the guy is just a memory.

[red_devil]

[xingyiman]

Yes kentucker4 please come back. This board could use some livining up.. Always enjoyed your posts.

[exercise_in_futility]

it's like Korean Meet the Parents
one thing that could work, although i'm not even close to getting married but i would imagine old-school korean father-in-law types... have some soju with them and proceed to drink him under the table... then he will respect you. make sure to eat as much as you can before drinking to give yourself and edge.

[eIn07912]

We've all seen what qualifies as good kentucker logic when you decided to get into a car in the middle of the night with two strangers you just drunkenly stumbled into.

So, here's what I suggest.

Think this out carefully. Weigh every pro and con, then decide what would be the best course in your mind...... then do the opposite.

[ThingsComeAround]

^^ like George Costanza

[Old Gil]