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waterbaby
Joined: 01 Feb 2003
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| tokki wrote: |
| Did it about 3 months into the relationship. They are great. Havent looked back since. |
'bout the same here, too... though I'm a girl... I moved in with his parents for a short time while my director was being a d*** and before we went to Oz to meet my family and then onto China together. They were & continue to be wonderful to me! They don't speak English, and they hate using my husband as a translater, so with my low level Korean we just try and muddle through the best we can. I often wonder if things would be different (ie worse) if I spoke good Korean 
My husband told his parents individually over the phone that we were getting married & they gave their immediate blessing, saying it was his life & decision etc... whatever makes him happy.
Now I'm a little confused with their behaviour... His youngest brother is head over heels in love with a Korean girl (they are just gorgeous together) but his parents aren't happy about him marrying just yet because his middle brother is not married yet (just split up with his long term girlfriend) ... he's been accepted 100% into her family... reeks a bit of the Taming of the Shrew, eh? |
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igotthisguitar
Joined: 08 Apr 2003
Location: South Korea (Permanent Vacation)
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| Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2004 4:29 am Post subject: |
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>. I went to visit my gf's family over Solnal this year. Her mother doesn't speak much English ( i think she understands a little ) and is really great & accomodating. Her brother is pretty cool, speaks a little English & i seemed to have hit it off w/ him. The little 3 yr. old niece really likes me, & because i can speak a LITTLE Korean, apparently thinks i can speak ALL korean 
Her FATHER meanwhile,  he actually studied in the US years ago. While the grouchy old guy purportedly speaks good English, because i'm not a wealthy Korean, he to this point at least refuses to even acknowledge me.
Hehe ... oh well. |
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Ilsanman
Joined: 15 Aug 2003
Location: Bucheon, Korea
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| Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2004 6:02 am Post subject: yes |
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Somehow, in a conversation with my girlfriend today, we started talking about marriage with a foreigner, and our parents reaction. She said she thinks her parents are ok with it, but if they aren't, she'll go against them. Gutsy girl.
I am lucky, I don't have to worry. My parents will be ok with anyone who makes me happy. |
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dogbert
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: Killbox 90210
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| Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2004 4:39 pm Post subject: Re: yes |
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| Ilsanman wrote: |
Somehow, in a conversation with my girlfriend today, we started talking about marriage with a foreigner, and our parents reaction. She said she thinks her parents are ok with it, but if they aren't, she'll go against them. Gutsy girl.
I am lucky, I don't have to worry. My parents will be ok with anyone who makes me happy. |
I'm curious....has anyone here's parents objected to him/her marrying a Korean? |
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sistersarah
Joined: 03 Jan 2004
Location: hiding out
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| Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2004 5:37 pm Post subject: |
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| we've been dating over six months, discussed marriage, and he's still afraid to introduce me to his family, says they're very traditional, conservative koreans.......i'm scared. |
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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2004 10:04 pm Post subject: Re: yes |
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| dogbert wrote: |
| I'm curious....has anyone here's parents objected to him/her marrying a Korean? |
Objected...no. Expressed concerns...yes. But the concerns (largely involving cultural differences) were valid. |
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dogbert
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Thu Feb 26, 2004 10:08 pm Post subject: Re: yes |
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| Corporal wrote: |
| dogbert wrote: |
| I'm curious....has anyone here's parents objected to him/her marrying a Korean? |
Objected...no. Expressed concerns...yes. But the concerns (largely involving cultural differences) were valid. |
Thanks.
Not to get too personal, but were your parents' concerns involving cultural differences relatively informed, or were they just assuming that there is naturally a wide gap between Korean - Canadian culture? |
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Homer
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| Posted: Fri Feb 27, 2004 2:24 am Post subject: |
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Interesting Corporal,
Were they valid indeed?
How so? |
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syclick
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Feb 27, 2004 6:00 pm Post subject: Re: Who has met their significant other's parents? |
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| The Lemon wrote: |
| My parents-in-law speak no English. I speak abysmal Korean, but they appreciate whatever I can squeeze out. I don't say a whole lot there -too busy being fed by my mother-in-law, who has a hard time accepting that I really am full. I'm told this is typical behaviour of mother-in-laws. |
YES. When I first met my future mother-in-law, she stuffed me like there was no tomorrow. She still does this.
When I came to Korea, I lost about 5 kilos or so right off the bat. Now my mother-in-law comes over most mornings and fixes a gargantuan breakfast for me, so I think I've gained it all back and then some.  |
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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Feb 27, 2004 7:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Homer wrote: |
Interesting Corporal,
Were they valid indeed?
How so? |
Valid in the sense that my father was worried about how we would communicate. (At the time, my Korean was almost nonexistent.) Also valid in the sense that he was worried about how we would handle cultural differences when it came to bringing up our daughter: would we both insist on having things our way, or would we learn to compromise? Naturally, no one can foresee issues arising until they actually do arise, so my father (although he trusts my judgment) was concerned that we would face a lot of opposition in our relationship, especially considering that we were going to be living here, a country which does not exactly embrace outsiders.
So, in that sense all his concerns were legitimate, because he wasn't subscribing to stereotypes, but rather looking at possibilities.
Hope that helps to answer both your questions.  |
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igotthisguitar
Joined: 08 Apr 2003
Location: South Korea (Permanent Vacation)
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| Posted: Sat Feb 28, 2004 2:18 am Post subject: |
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| sistersarah wrote: |
| we've been dating over six months, discussed marriage, and he's still afraid to introduce me to his family, says they're very traditional, conservative koreans.......i'm scared. |
Yeah Sister, and if you're a woman there's always the possibilty the mother may expect you to take on the traditional role of daughter-in-law.
Could be a bit of a problem mind you as you likely have little idea as to food prep, formal customs, kow-towing & the like. Hmmmmmmmm ...
All ya need is love. |
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Homer
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| Posted: Sat Feb 28, 2004 3:30 am Post subject: |
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Indeed it did Corp!
My dad had much the same reaction when he learned that I was to marry a Korean woman...
I think his exact words were "But your going to have yello babies"... 
Thanks for the input corp. |
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Ilsanman
Joined: 15 Aug 2003
Location: Bucheon, Korea
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| Posted: Sat Feb 28, 2004 8:14 pm Post subject: yes |
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I'd be worried if I was going to marry the oldest child in a family. They are expected to support the parents in old age.
The lesson is...marry the mangnae!! |
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Juggertha
Joined: 27 May 2003
Location: Anyang, Korea
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| Posted: Fri Mar 05, 2004 6:03 am Post subject: |
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| my mom was just exstatic i've decided to settle down. |
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ratslash
Joined: 08 May 2003
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| Posted: Fri Mar 05, 2004 4:27 pm Post subject: |
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| yeah, i have. a few times. nice people and they seemed to like me. i spoke english and my fiancee translated. they run a restaurant near bucheon - mmmmm, free food! |
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