Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Radius]

[wuzza]

A lot of the people in this country of dating age weren't able to travel much growing up, have been indoctrinated into certain ways of thinking, and most of all have been encouraged to go along with the crowd and avoid being opinionated.
While this can be true of people everywhere, I have found it especially among Korean women (and men) here.
She could be waiting to see if you guys are possible marriage material before she really opens up to you.

Also, no matter how good her English is, she's probably nervous about it. Try making a fool of yourself speaking some Korean and she might talk up a bit more when she sees she doesn't have to be "perfect".

[ACT III]

Bad idea- just whip it out and see what happens. I think there was a sienfeld episode about that for reference.

Better idea- when the date is going badly ask her if she would like to go to a DVD room.

Even better idea- ask her to first drink soju then go to a Norae bang. That way at least something will happen. Discussing anything in someones second language on a first date is a bad idea. Do something.

Best idea- group of friends first. That is more in line with how things are done in Korea. Then it will evolve into eithier lots of drinking than a norae bang or more drinking. The one on one date is only reserved for girls you've already played a game of 007 or titanic or some other drinking game. That's my humble opinion.

[ca86108]

ive been in similar situations with chicks in the states.. but just take them to a bar.. once they get a little liquid courage in them they yap away like there is no tomorrow

[tall_dave]

[beercanman]

Good words dave. If she has lived abroad it helps.

[madtownhustl]

I've ran into girls who don't talk very much. Very boring and annoying.. Try NOT talking. Its actually not as uncomfortable as it sounds.... There also is that point where you can ask TOO many questions and the girl starts to get annoyed. Just be yourself and dont be afraid to not talk. The girl will break the silence, if you can hold out.

[itaewonguy]

because most of them are social retards!
its the culture! but... once they get to know you then they will play the girlfriend card.. and then you can't stop the F*&King whining!

[Old Gil]

OP how long are you here for? Life? Do you really a sweet nice girl to spend your days with? If she doesn't drink, well, move on. Unless you're wife shopping. There are plenty of girls who just want to have fun and fun is not a euphemism for 'sex' either. It seems like there's a ton of girls who are in between jobs, 'taking a rest', or whatever, who are just looking for something exciting to do. Keep at it.

[gakduki]

Radius, read some books on how to communicate? Try asking her some questions that cannot be answered with a one word reply. If you know anything about this country or women in general, ask them questions about things they usually talk about. When they answer, ask them a related question and soon you two will be sharring stories, interview is over. Ask them about clothes, favorite places in town to shop or go out, brother's, sisters, friends, blood trype, what they like to do.
Korean girls can have a lack of personality at times, but everybody can be taken out of their shell. Just get them interested, tell them general funny stories, and engage them.
A lack of English is not a problem, I've been on many sucessful dates unable to speak a few hundred words in a common language. JUST SLOW DOWN! maybe bring a note pad. Talk about simple things and you will be speaking the language of love in just a few more dates.

[tall_dave]

[J Rock]

[quote="ACT III"]Bad idea- just whip it out and see what happens. I think there was a sienfeld episode about that for reference.

Is this really a bad idea? Probably yes! Is this idea hilarious? Even more so. My cousin told me a story about how he took some girls back home after the bar and tried this method and they got up and walked out in disgust. I was like what did you expect, but to this day I still think it's the funniest stories he ever told me because I totally believe he is the type that would do something like this. Keep in mind he lays carpet for a living and hasn't had a license in 8 years because of DUIs. MY hero!

[stevieg4ever]

the disproportionate number of guys with gold and platinum accounts compared to women on Koreancupid is astounding. a lot of competition out there.

I am sure some of us have been doubling up on these girls. some of the accounts on this thread are almost a replica of what I went through. dated one who was with a canadian 14 years her senior lol and asked me to go to New York with her on the second date.

[djsmnc]

I had this silence issue my first year in Korea, but once I was able to find common ground it's been fun ever since. Start simple, make jokes, and ask questions. If it doesn't move on from there, you're with a deadbeat.

[PatrickGHBusan]