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Dev · Joined: 18 Apr 2006

when women curse. After teaching in Korea for a few years, I am now living in a major city in Canada and what gets to me over here is women swearing. That's almost as bad as smoking. I don't know why. I hear it almost everyday and it sounds like nails on the chalkboard for me. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I hold women to a higher standard than men. I generally thought they had more class. Maybe things have changed in recent years.

Do Korean women swear as much as western women? I don't even know any swear words in Korean so I was not able to notice when I was there.

This thread is open to other habits you don't like.

Women posters, please start a thread about the habits you don't appreciate in men.

onlyinkorea87 · Joined: 16 Feb 2010 Location: Gimhae

yingwenlaoshi · Joined: 12 Feb 2007 Location: ... location, location!

Not posted by me.

guava · Joined: 02 Sep 2009

Black Eyed Peas member Fergie does 4 letter words in song lyrics. She can talk nasty to me N E time.

kabrams · Joined: 15 Mar 2008 Location: your Dad's house

This isn't breaking the TOS?

Oh, I see.

Add sexism to the long list of things the mods don't GAS about.

NYC_Gal · Joined: 08 Dec 2009

I can't stand it when men are idiots.

Alas, 'tis often the case.

Bramble · Joined: 26 Jan 2007 Location: National treasures need homes

Oreovictim · Joined: 23 Aug 2006

As far as the swearing, I hear it mainly with the younger, fresh-out-of-uni girls. I don't really hear it as much when I'm around women in their late '20s and up.

.38 Special · Joined: 08 Jul 2009 Location: Pennsylvania

There are different cultural expectations for men and women. While this has largely been changing, the institution is alive and well.

Speaking generally:
Men like it when women shave their legs.
Women like it when men shave their faces.

Men don't like it when women audibly release gas.
Neither do women of men.

Men don't like it when women excessively use offensive language.
Neither do women of men. Hey, it's called offensive for a reason.

Men and women aren't so different in their many cultural expectations.

Frankly, I see nothing wrong with finding displeasure in offensive language. It's not a religious thing, for the most part, but more so about civility, politeness, and respect.

And I'm not fond of hearing it in public (or excessively in private) either, from any gender.

I must be abhorredly misogynistic for enforcing a Fascist-Puritanical credo upon the unwitting people of the world Shocked

DorkothyParker · Joined: 11 Apr 2009 Location: Jeju

I don't like double standards.

That said, I don't mind cursing so long as it isn't towards me or said in a vigorous manner where the person is clearly becoming worked up.
I generally don't curse but I do in karaoke or when I drink. I like the juxtaposition of a feminine woman adapting sailor-like characteristics.

guava · Joined: 02 Sep 2009

Dev · Joined: 18 Apr 2006

calicoe · Joined: 23 Dec 2008 Location: South Korea

I can hold my own in many settings, and in casual settings amongst people I know, I'll swear if I feel like it. Because that's the thing: women like me, don't give a *bleep* what men like you think.

And I am strong; it's not a front.

BaldTeacher · Joined: 02 Feb 2010

Don't you get it? Womyn of the West are empowered rockstar princesses. Whatever image they choose for themselves its empowering. There's only one image for men that's acceptable. You have to wear dorky glasses, not work out, wear vintage clothing that's ironic and too small even for your skinny ass and make a smart-ass comment about everything.

Every time womyn swear they're saying f-you to the patriarchy. They don't have to watch their weight either because big is beautiful.

They swear because they're strong, empowered womyn. And then when they cry because you kind of yelled at them they're also strong and courageous because they're showing their emotions, which is empowering.

Now I'll start with the shaming language- You're just not man enough to handle a Western womyn. (Even though I'm always saying that womyn can be anything man can be, I shame men by saying they're not man enough. Double standards are empowering). Real men don't look for beauty and class. Only chauvinists do. You must have an Asian fetish. You must have been a loser back home. Sour grapes is an empowering defense mechanism for us feminists.

Anyway, I hope you learned your lesson. Now me and my fat oops, I mean empowered friends are going to go eat ice cream and watch Sex & The City and bitch about how men don't want us because we're too strong and beautiful.

VanIslander · Posted: Tue Feb 23, 2010 8:12 am Post subject:

i used to think so too, but...

then after university i had a girlfriend who swore mighty fierce IN BED...

Laughing

now it doesn't bother me in the slightest