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hockeyguy109
Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Location: Daegu
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 4:01 am Post subject: Do I get her a promise ring? |
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As many of you have followed, I'm trying to decide on a promise ring for my girlfriend. We have been dating for 3 months and things have gotten serious very fast. I'm leaving Korea in 4 weeks back to America. She's a Canadian who will still be here till her contract ends in the beginning of September.
We have decided to keep dating after I leave. We've made solid plans to meet and move in together in September. We're going to get our CELTA degrees together and continue traveling.
During a drunken night, we started talking about engagement, marriage, etc. I asked her if she would someday marry me. She said "Without a doubt." In our drunkenness, I asked her what she would do if I gave her a ring. Her face lit up and mentioned a promise ring. That's about all there was to the conversation.
Anyways, we haven't mentioned it since (this was a month ago). Do you think I should give her a promise ring before I go back to America? 5 months is a long time, maybe it would help let her know that I'm true to her and serious about our life after Korea.
What do you think? |
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mc_jc

Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 4:03 am Post subject: |
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I'm sorry- but unless it is a Korean girl, no. |
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hockeyguy109
Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Location: Daegu
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 4:23 am Post subject: |
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mc_jc wrote: |
I'm sorry- but unless it is a Korean girl, no. |
Why? |
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peppermint

Joined: 13 May 2003 Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 4:34 am Post subject: |
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Normally, I'd think promise rings are for high school kids, but under these circumstances, I'd say go for it. You guys are going to be apart for a while, her family and friends will be curious, and she can show them the ring and say, " Look, we're committed to each other."
You were dead set on getting the ring, before the guys around here started telling you not to. Taking relationship advice from people on this board is like taking advice on music from a deaf person. |
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blackjack

Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Location: anyang
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 5:03 am Post subject: |
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do it!
just make sure it is cheap  |
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djsmnc

Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 5:11 am Post subject: |
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Well, depending on how much you plan to spend for a ring, this item might be an alternative option |
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jmuns
Joined: 09 Sep 2009 Location: earth
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 5:23 am Post subject: |
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if you aren't sure and you come to an online forum to ask a bunch of strangers about buying a girl a ring, then not a chance. |
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flipa77
Joined: 12 Jan 2010 Location: Anyang
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 5:28 am Post subject: |
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I say no and break up with her now if you are not interested in a long distance relationship |
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.38 Special
Joined: 08 Jul 2009 Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 9:15 am Post subject: |
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I'll repeat what I said before...
If you're true to your promise, she'll glow when she shows the promise ring to your children someday.
If you're not true to your promise, it will give her the satisfaction of having a physical representation of your infidelity to toss into the river.
It all depends on you two. If you have a lot of faith in your relationship, go for it. Just be sure not to rush things.... divorce is a bitch.  |
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mc_jc

Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 12:52 pm Post subject: |
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A "promise ring" is used for;
- 12 year-olds in middle school
- Korean girls who want to feel attached to a guy
Being that you both are 20-something non-Koreans with a college education, it really doesn't make any sense.
Now if it were an engagement ring- then I'd say "go for it". |
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sesyeux
Joined: 20 Jul 2009 Location: king 'arrys
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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why not. don't take what cynics on here say. i'm a bloke and if i thought it was the right thing to do, i'd buy her one too. |
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djsmnc

Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 3:19 pm Post subject: |
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sesyeux wrote: |
why not. don't take what cynics on here say. i'm a bloke and if i thought it was the right thing to do, i'd buy her one too. |
Then have your heart hand pulled, kicked around, and tossed in the river like every other bloke has happen at some point. Of course, that's what we men do: live and learn... |
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TheUrbanMyth
Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Retired
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 4:30 pm Post subject: |
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Maybe I'm just an old fogey but I think 3-4 months is a bit short to be making firm plans.
Then again I agree with peppermint about taking advice from this board... |
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0ju
Joined: 30 Sep 2009
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 8:00 pm Post subject: |
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Yes, if you're serious about what it means. |
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reactionary
Joined: 22 Oct 2006 Location: korreia
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Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2010 8:02 pm Post subject: |
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I stopped reading as soon as I saw it wasn't a Korean girl. What are you thinking??? A promise ring?! |
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