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[curiousaboutkorea]

first date (we met once before while out with a mutual acquaintance). We had a good time talking and I get her number.

We're set to go out soon for dinner and whatever. I get a message tonight asking me if it's ok if she brings her friend. Turns out to be a friend I also met that night when I met her, with whom I also spoke. I felt like I didn't have much of a choice so I agreed. Still, I feel a bit strange out about it. Granted, she's 20 western age (I'm 24) and I'm fairly certain she has had minimal contact with foreigners outside an English class. So, I wanna give her the benefit of the doubt.
Anybody been in a similar situation? Any advice? Thanks.

[JMO]

i've had this happen before and ended up going out with her for quite a while. She wants to be comfortable and to have an escape plan I'd expect.

[blackjack]

try to impress them both, you won't go home with either. If you impress them both you may get a third date/second.

If you have a mate that isn't an idiot txt back and ask if you can bring an extra, try to make it a double date

[JMO]

[The Happy Warrior]

Relax. This is normal.

Your strategy should be to impress her friend first and foremost, and that way you'll impress her.

This is really a good opportunity for you. But I've never had a girl ask for a friend to come on a second date.

I also agree with JMO. Go alone.

[Senior]

Pretty normal in my experience. My tactic is to hit mercilessly on the friend till the girl you are "dating" becomes insanely jealous. This usually drives her into your arms and you can get the friend's number as a back up if need be. Win-win in my opinion.

[The Happy Warrior]

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[misher]

[bobbyhanlon]

its very normal, it doesn't mean she's not interested. don't flirt outrageously with the friend, but do act like what she says is more interesting, funny, etc than the girl you made the date with. this will make her jealous but not think you're a sleazebag.
say goodbye, and later she'll probably send you a text message. don't mention the friend, and just arrange to meet again. very unlikely she'll bring the friend the second time.

[hellofaniceguy]

I have been in korea long enough to know this....if she is REALLY interested in you, she'll come alone. Don't go for that BS..."if/when she feels comfortable she'll come alone or it's a korean thing, etc."
Either you're dating girls or a woman. A woman/lady will meet you alone even on the first date in a public place...girls..which most korean females are...have not grown up until they are in their 30's..if that.
Many guys have been on dates with korean women coming alone.
Now, the flip side, if she brings along her friend....the three of you just might get along......or you can choose one or the other.....

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[sharkey]

I think its funny/sad when adults post relationship questions here.

[Fox]

[nautilus]

If she had her own mind, was independent of the opinion of the group, was adventurous and individualistic, was not a wimp, did not rely on rigging everything in her favour as a pre-requisite...

....then she would meet you by herself.