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misher
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
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 Posted: Sat Apr 24, 2010 11:38 am Post subject: |
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| It's a strategy that's prone to backfire as many of these rich guys are players who find it quite difficult to adapt to a monogamous lifestyle and in fact, see little reason to do so. If the lucky girl does end up landing one of these guys, she shouldn't be too surprised at his philandering ways.l |
That was the case with the last few generations of Korean women. Most of them married out of duty and money and weren't really surprised when their husbands went out whoring. It was actually expected and just not something that was talked about. Kind of a don't ask don't tell thing.
This generation of women is quite different. Most Korean men beg and grovel now (increased competition) and Korean women have been raised with television programs like sex and the city and have different ideas on what a marriage should be. The kicker is however, the money/duty aspect is still quite strong. Therefore you have a Korean woman that expects $$$ as well as complete and utter fidelity as she ages which usually ends up not being the case. Rich guys usually are players and/or work in chaebols that require frequent Huaysiks (business "meetings") that usually happen in one of the thousands of room salons. When a 10/10 Korean woman, scantly clad is paid to service a guy already drunk and stressed out, like hell he is going to refuse over and over and the Korean wives are naive in thinking they do. I probably would have a hard time refusing too if I had the stress that is put on Korean men.
2 of my gfs friends who got married last year are already having this problem. THeir husbands are always out late on weekdays on "meetings" and their wives are in complete denial about where they go and what they do. They do however know deep down on what the score is. These girls deliberately only dated rich guys and as my gf said, they sort of got what was coming to them. It is one reason why my gf is interested in me. Because I'm a pauper/esl teacher (we're considered quite low here in terms of class) she therefore feels a bit more safe about me in terms of having time to spend with her and not be out whoring. Meh. I'm certainly no saint but meh she can think what she wants. |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Sat Apr 24, 2010 5:59 pm Post subject: |
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| This generation of women is quite different. Most Korean men beg and grovel now (increased competition) and Korean women have been raised with television programs like sex and the city and have different ideas on what a marriage should be. The kicker is however, the money/duty aspect is still quite strong. Therefore you have a Korean woman that expects $$$ as well as complete and utter fidelity as she ages which usually ends up not being the case. |
Korean dramas really reinforce this too. Wealthy men who are weepy little girls, totally devoted to women who don't really do anything to earn that devotion. |
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GoldSoundz
Joined: 12 Jun 2008
Location: Pohang
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| Posted: Tue Jun 29, 2010 8:36 am Post subject: |
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Printed out this article and shared it with a University class of medical students. They thought that money was indeed important as you gotta have it to live and survive. I guess it has to do with the "hungry spirit" as mentioned in the book "Korea Unmasked".
One kid wanted to know what it was that Americans valued instead. The article doesn't say though.
They were a good class though and seemed to know about Albert Schweitzer already. I told 'em all to join "Doctors Without Borders". I gave examples of rich Koreans who killed themselves despite being rich, pretty, etc...
It does seem like materialism leads to suicide. Not that Korea has a high rate of suicide though. |
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bacasper
Joined: 26 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Tue Jun 29, 2010 9:04 am Post subject: |
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| They were a good class though and seemed to know about Albert Schweitzer already. I told 'em all to join "Doctors Without Borders". |
Another good, non-materialistic thing they could do wold be to join Korean Physicians for Peace, the local affiliate of International Physicians for the Prevention of Nuclear War. |
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Summer Wine
Joined: 20 Mar 2005
Location: Next to a River
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| Posted: Tue Jun 29, 2010 7:48 pm Post subject: |
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| Have we lost big bird, Pluto and Kuros? Seems you and I are the last of an era BB. |
Not the only one, but I have noticed that the number of people who I used to read on here has changed quite drastically over the past year and a bit.
I was actually thinking about it the other day, how many people that I have met in Korea over the years are still here.
I met Ireland back in 2005 though I don't know if he knows me. I have probably met a few others without realising it. I know Oliver, but he is still quite new to Korea.
I first came in Feb. 2001 and still here, I have met a number of people over the years, most of those who were my friends are now back home or in other countries, but still it would be interesting to have a meeting of everyone who was here in 2001 and is still in Korea. |
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BoholDiver
Joined: 03 Oct 2009
Location: Canada
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| Posted: Tue Jun 29, 2010 11:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Not that Korea has a high rate of suicide though |
The highest or 2nd highest in OECD.
It's funny how someone said ESL teachers are considered low. My wife and I are doing better financially than any of her other married friends. The only one who makes more than me of all of her friends is the one whose father is the CEO of a medium sized company and gave his son a high paying job. |
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jomiro
Joined: 10 Jan 2010
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| Posted: Wed Jun 30, 2010 12:49 am Post subject: Re: Koreans Most Materialistic People in the World |
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Koreans Most Materialistic People in the World More than two-thirds of Koreans consider money the most important sign of success, according to a Reuters/Ipsos poll released Tuesday. Korea and China topped the poll of 24,000 people in 23 countries on the question at 69 percent.
They were followed by India (67 percent) and Japan (63 percent).
But respondents in Western countries regard money as a less important indicator of success. A mere 27 percent of Canadians thought money spells success, followed by Swedes (28 percent), Dutch (29 percent), and French (32 percent).
Even in the U.S., only 33 percent of Americans agreed that money means success, and 67 percent disagreed. The worldwide average is 43 percent.
The young are more materialistic, with 48 percent of the under-35s seeing money as the hallmark of success, compared with 35 percent of those aged 55 and older.
Eighty-four percent of Koreans, Japanese and Chinese said money is more important than it used to be.
http://english.chosun.com/site/data/html_dir/2010/02/24/2010022400421.html |
no surprise here..
japan: they work crazy hours, make crazy money. just cant spend it, due to the lack of time. and with the crazy prices there, they dont even have a choice of working less. that also contributes to the high suicide rates. i think they actually beat korea and hold the #1 spot.
korea: very much driven by money. hold rank 2 for suicides committed out of money problems or social background problems. sick, and sad really!
china: should be on top of the list imho. chinese are the most money driven and money oriented people i know. theyve perfectionized the combination of communism and capitalism to a point where the communism only hits those who dont want to contribute to the capitalism. |
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