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[swoodman]

I was hanging out with this girl a couple of times and getting along really well. Saw her 2 weeks ago, she texted me a bit afterwards asking how I was. Thing is, she speaks fluent English, swears all the time, is an engineer, is smart and very westernised. I havent texted for a week and a half except for today and I got no reply.

What should I do to follow this up? As in, i know Korean girl's expect a lot of attention but I didnt try that cos shes so westernised. It feels unnatural and uneasy to me to text just asking someone how they are, but I have a sinking feeling I wont see her again now. Should I text again, asking why she hasnt replied or should I call, or just ask her out again without mentioning it?

[reactionary]

This sounds better suited for "Yahoo! Answers." No one knows. Do whatever you think is best.

[lukas]

Who cares if she responds or not? Shoot her a text a week or so if you have nothing else planned, but you should have other things planned. You've only hung out with her a few times, and you really don't know anything about this girl. For all you know she could be a psycho, or maybe she lost her phone, maybe she's visiting her grandma. I wouldn't wrap my head around this too much, there's just no way of knowing.

[johnyv40]

If she is really westernized she is doing this thing called a mind game.. Just so you know it seems to be working, cuz ur beating ur head against the wall already.

My $.02 is text her in a few days, and say something like, "i had a lot of fun the other times we hung out we should do it again sometime soon." puts the ball back in her court so she can make a decision.

[Depths of My Soul]

Texting is the worst thing EVER. It gives people a get out clause (had no credit, didn't receive your msg, blah blah BS etc.)

Call her. If she (repeatedly) doesn't answer, it's all over!! But it's better to know either way.

Good luck

[jvalmer]

If she likes you you'll know, otherwise she isn't that into you and you're one of her backups.

[djsmnc]

She probably swore when she was getting it from her other western companion and your message arrived

[johnyv40]

[sharkey]

** Palm into face **

[jizza]

sometimes texts dont go through. it's possible.

i would just text her again and if she doesn't reply, just forget about her until she contacts u

[TheMeerkatLover]

If she likes you, she will keep in touch. If you didn't have that much of an impact, then you'll become a no-thought.

Meeting the right person at the right time is critical. Though many have not mastered nor realized that yet, I'd suggest that you just be yourself, and you'll find yourself pleasantly surprised at the +ve things in life that will come your way.

Meerkat

[swoodman]

I guess my question is less what should I do? (Ill text her again obv) but more - could not texting a Korean girl you like for a week and a half enough to get her so mad she wont ever be back in touch?

We did get aloing well and shes been in touch with me since I last saw her but I didnt send any how are you type texts myself

[dharma bum]

[raindrop]

Honestly, it's highly likely that she was put off by you not texting her for a week and a half and so decided to just move on. If you liked her, you should have returned her text within a few days after it was sent. If someone didn't return by text or call after 3 days (at the longest), I can surely take the hint and figure they weren't that interested in the first place. If she doesn't return your text by tomorrow, it's a safe bet that she doesn't really want anything to do with you. My advice is to start forgetting about her and try to find someone else.

[Khenan]

Yeah, you blew it. Regardless of how western they might seem, they still hold Korean standards. If you like her, you should be texting every day. If you want to keep her on the back burner, I'd say 3-4 days max. Sorry buddy.