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coolsage
Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: The overcast afternoon of the soul
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 6:50 am Post subject: A Sad Commentary on the Status of Women in Korea |
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After 6+ years in Korea I thought I was shockproof. Today I learned something that blew that away. A young woman who was a graduate of the uni where I now work (let's call it uni X), went to work at another uni in the same city (uni Y). in a secretarial capacity, a go-to person with a decent command of English, in the English Department. Saving her won, with ambitions to return to uni X to pursue a Master's degree in English. All good stuff. Then she was informed by her current employer (Y), that if she gives notice and follows her career path, he will see to it that a) she never graduates, and b) she never works in this town, or any other town, again. Yes, he's hopefully the last of a dying breed of tight-assed- Confucian-non thinking Koreans, but before he fades away he is dictating the outcome of the lives of vulnerable young women who have not yet developed the psychological resources to deal with a-holes like him, whom, it seems still pull the the strings here in the Termite Kingdom. She is tearful, and I, who can do nothing for her beyond lending a shoulder, am sickened. |
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just because

Joined: 01 Aug 2003 Location: Changwon - 4964
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 7:04 am Post subject: |
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Why is being such a *beep*????
If he is that angry to lose her she must be a damn good worker. I would walk if I were her(easier said than done) as it sounds like the longer she is there the harder it will become for her to leave.
Best you can do is probably just be a good friend. i bet you would love to punch the living shit out of him though. |
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Mr. Pink

Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Location: China
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 4:03 pm Post subject: |
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The Korean woman should get some guys to beat him...preferably so that he visits the hospital. It would be hard for him to ruin her chances if he has a pipe coming out of his throat. |
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Barking Mad Lord Snapcase
Joined: 04 Nov 2003
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 4:37 pm Post subject: |
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When I read stories like this, I realise that Korea losing its "culture" isn't always a bad thing. |
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Paji eh Wong

Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 7:12 pm Post subject: |
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My old boss threatened one of my Korean coworkers with "never working in this town again". It was all bulls#it.
I don't know how universities here work, and I don't know the guy, but chances are, there's nothing he can do besides make nasty phone calls. If your friend is just discrete about it, I'm sure things will be fine.
Why can't you do anything for her? If she wants to follow her path badly enough, she'll do it eventually. Maybe she just needs to be talked into it. |
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rapier
Joined: 16 Feb 2003
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 7:22 pm Post subject: |
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Situations like this is what gangsters are for. Pay the men to do a job.. |
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diver
Joined: 16 Jun 2003
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2004 7:36 pm Post subject: |
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I'll beat him for free |
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weatherman

Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: Korea
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2004 6:17 am Post subject: Re: A Sad Commentary on the Status of Women in Korea |
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coolsage wrote: |
Yes, he's hopefully the last of a dying breed of tight-assed- Confucian-non thinking Koreans, but before he fades away he is dictating the outcome of the lives |
Koreans love to control others and it what I find the most deeply disturbing about this soceity, that others want a piece of your soul outside of love. We as foreigners are mostly outside of it, but we see it a bit with our housing, or plain wacked out work protocol. |
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tokki

Joined: 26 Jul 2003
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Posted: Sat Mar 20, 2004 6:49 am Post subject: |
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Get him beat down. Thats the best policy in my book. Chances are that efter a visit from a few gangsters, he will change his stance without the boys having to even land a punch. |
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Pyongshin Sangja

Joined: 20 Apr 2003 Location: I love baby!
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Posted: Sun Mar 21, 2004 10:17 pm Post subject: |
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You said she was a graduate. Maybe she is wating for the actual diploma. How can a prof at one uni influence the registrars at another? This guy should have his balls set on fire. |
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peppergirl
Joined: 07 Dec 2003
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Posted: Sun Mar 21, 2004 10:43 pm Post subject: |
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Seems completely opposite to my prof here (I'm a researcher at a uni). He is always concerned with our future careers, both male and female grad students/post docs. |
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TheUrbanMyth
Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Retired
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Posted: Tue Mar 23, 2004 7:19 am Post subject: Re: A Sad Commentary on the Status of Women in Korea |
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coolsage wrote: |
After 6+ years in Korea I thought I was shockproof. Today I learned something that blew that away. A young woman who was a graduate of the uni where I now work (let's call it uni X), went to work at another uni in the same city (uni Y). in a secretarial capacity, a go-to person with a decent command of English, in the English Department. Saving her won, with ambitions to return to uni X to pursue a Master's degree in English. All good stuff. Then she was informed by her current employer (Y), that if she gives notice and follows her career path, he will see to it that a) she never graduates, and b) she never works in this town, or any other town, again. Yes, he's hopefully the last of a dying breed of tight-assed- Confucian-non thinking Koreans, but before he fades away he is dictating the outcome of the lives of vulnerable young women who have not yet developed the psychological resources to deal with a-holes like him, whom, it seems still pull the the strings here in the Termite Kingdom. She is tearful, and I, who can do nothing for her beyond lending a shoulder, am sickened. |
Likely it is all bull****. I had one hakwon director tell me that if I quit, he would see to it that not only would I never work in Korea again, he would see to it that I would never work in any country again as a teacher. I'm still here and still a teacher. Ignore him. What power has he demonstrated, besides blowing some hot air? |
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Real Reality
Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Wed Mar 24, 2004 3:57 am Post subject: |
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coolsage,
Are you aware of the economic participation of women in Korea?
When we look at the Korea's 2002 female economic participation rate of 49.7 percent, it was dead last in the OECD; the average for that organization was 69.8 percent. Moreover, we often find women employed in the nonprofessional and other more insecure job sectors. In this current situation where jobs are segregated by sex, our high-quality female work force cannot find its proper place.
http://english.chosun.com/w21data/html/news/200403/200403220031.html
TheUrbanMyth may be right.
"What power has he demonstrated, besides blowing some hot air?" |
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Butterfly
Joined: 02 Mar 2003 Location: Kuwait
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Posted: Wed Mar 24, 2004 4:09 am Post subject: |
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Paji eh Wong wrote: |
My old boss threatened one of my Korean coworkers with "never working in this town again". It was all bulls#it.
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Exactly, it's all hot air, you know how these guys are, puffing themselves up to save face when the reality is he can't do sh*t to her. She'll be alright. |
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