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Radius
Joined: 20 Dec 2009
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 Posted: Tue Sep 28, 2010 6:10 am Post subject: |
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| 63 building aquarium? Screen Golf? |
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oldfatfarang
Joined: 19 May 2005
Location: On the road to somewhere.
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| Posted: Tue Sep 28, 2010 5:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't the K guys take their girls to love motels for dates??? |
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kneezah~
Joined: 08 Jan 2009
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| Posted: Tue Sep 28, 2010 6:15 pm Post subject: |
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the guy i'm dating plans "special dates" about once a month... he's korean, so this might give you a little insight into what she's looking for (or what some korean girls expect)...
last weekend he planned a weekend trip to the beach. we went to a sea food market and tried the local specialites (squid stuffed with japche, looked pretty gross, but actually tasted pretty good). then went on hiking on a mountain followed but a trip to the top of the mountain by cable car. it ended with couples massages at a spa.
he suprised me with the idea saying he wanted me to keep next weekend free and the activies he chose were based on my interests... (i love the beach, seafood markets, eating interesting food and massages).
granted this much planning is a lot of work... but if you plan a special weekend every once and a while it should score you major points. try to base activities on things you know she likes... |
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vDroop
Joined: 25 Aug 2010
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| Posted: Tue Sep 28, 2010 6:34 pm Post subject: |
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Would you plan all these events if you were back home dating a local girl?She wants to date a foreigner, there's no need to change to suit her whiny needs.
If she doesn't like your dating style, or is bored hanging out with you, guess what, you guys aren't going to last that long anyway.
If she wants the Korean boyfriend planning crap she can date a Korean. |
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crosbystillsstash
Joined: 12 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Sep 29, 2010 3:09 am Post subject: |
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| agreed. Why does princess not have her own ideas |
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sarahsiobhan
Joined: 24 May 2009
Location: Wherever I am , I am probably drinking tea.
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| Posted: Wed Sep 29, 2010 3:56 am Post subject: |
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| Agree with the 2 above me. |
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Radius
Joined: 20 Dec 2009
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| Posted: Wed Sep 29, 2010 3:58 am Post subject: |
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| crosbystillsstash wrote: |
| agreed. Why does princess not have her own ideas |
i never fall for my girls line," what can we do." pshhh, "YOU'VE LIVED HERE YOUR WHOLE LIFE!" is what i say. take ME somewhere! ive never been here before, i dont know where all the cool spots are yet, show ME a good time. Then she does. It totally turns the tables around. try it OP. |
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interestedinhanguk
Joined: 23 Aug 2010
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| Posted: Wed Sep 29, 2010 8:26 am Post subject: |
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I do agree that she should also be taking some charge for this. But, here's a few ideas (some already mentioned).
-Bicycle ride at a big park (like the Han if you're in Seoul)
-Picnic at the park. I don't know what her food preferences are, but if you're cooking for her, it sounds like she might like Western food. My girlfriend was so happy that we were eating (real) sandwiches and other homemade American food while everyone else in the park was just eating kimbap.
-63 Building
-Seoul Tower (Namsan)
-COEX and aquarium
-Han River cruise
-Sports game (baseball is tons of fun, but the season is ending). There's soccer now and basketball will be starting soon.
-Palaces/temples (express interest in Korean culture)
-Day trips around the region to special areas (Suwon Fortress, for example)
-Hiking
-Kite flying at the park
-if you don't have one, get an oven (or just toaster oven) and make some cookies together. If she's spent her whole life in Korea, she's probably never done it.
-Dr. Fish
-Lotte World/Everland
-Have her teach you to cook something (make kimchi) |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Fri Oct 01, 2010 11:40 pm Post subject: Re: my girlfriend thinks i don't |
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| machoman wrote: |
| plan enough dates. she wants me to book something in advance and take her out. but there isn't much to do besides go out, drink, watch a movie, eat dinner, walk around, go to a gallery. i cook her dinner all the frickin time, but it's not enough. do you guys have any ideas? i mentioned taking her to watch Nanta but she didn't seem too interested. |
How many times has SHE planned the date? Or does she expect you to wait on her hand and foot as she does nothing to advance the relationship? |
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crosbystillsstash
Joined: 12 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Sat Oct 02, 2010 1:14 am Post subject: |
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| probably. that's usually the case. If she is a good lay however it MAY be worth the spade work. |
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RMNC
Joined: 21 Jul 2010
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| Posted: Sat Oct 02, 2010 2:20 am Post subject: |
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| Yeah, if she's a good lay, then just hang on to her as long as you can while you search for a new girl who is a good lay and actually is motivated to do things on her own AND with you. Doing things with your significant other shouldn't be your only hobby/outlet, for either side. You don't know how long it might take, though, so string her along as best you can for as long as it takes. I'm serious. Don't think she isn't doing the same thing to you right now, for that matter. |
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crosbystillsstash
Joined: 12 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Sat Oct 02, 2010 4:32 am Post subject: |
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| RMNC wrote: |
| Yeah, if she's a good lay, then just hang on to her as long as you can while you search for a new girl who is a good lay and actually is motivated to do things on her own AND with you. Doing things with your significant other shouldn't be your only hobby/outlet, for either side. You don't know how long it might take, though, so string her along as best you can for as long as it takes. I'm serious. Don't think she isn't doing the same thing to you right now, for that matter. |
So right! thread over |
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mc_jc
Joined: 13 Aug 2009
Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I
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| Posted: Sun Oct 03, 2010 6:23 pm Post subject: |
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Uhm.....
It's not always what you do or where you go sometimes, but if you feel you could give the other person a good time going there or doing that.
Why does the play have to be in English? Can't you enjoy a Korean play and understand the physical context of what they are trying to convey?
There are literally millions of things to do in Seoul at any hour of the day- it just depends on how far you are willing to go out of your comfort zone to go to them and do them.
Again (as always) it helps a lot to know the language to know what is out there.
Also, and I know this is far-fetched, but do a lot of you guys actually ask your girlfriends what they like to do and where they would like to go?
That would help.  |
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Young FRANKenstein
Joined: 02 Oct 2006
Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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| Posted: Sun Oct 03, 2010 6:59 pm Post subject: |
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| mc_jc wrote: |
Also, and I know this is far-fetched, but do a lot of you guys actually ask your girlfriends what they like to do and where they would like to go?
That would help. |
Yes, because it's all about the guy doing everything in the relationship. If the woman is not constantly entertained, then she has to find a guy willing to do so 24/7. I mean, who ever heard of a woman doing something to make her guy happy for once, right? If he's not doing something only for her, then he's SO SELFISH and she should dump him.
OP, how many times has SHE asked YOU what you like to do and where you want to go. I have a feeling the answer to that question is very telling. |
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machoman
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Sun Oct 03, 2010 7:32 pm Post subject: |
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| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
| mc_jc wrote: |
Also, and I know this is far-fetched, but do a lot of you guys actually ask your girlfriends what they like to do and where they would like to go?
That would help. |
Yes, because it's all about the guy doing everything in the relationship. If the woman is not constantly entertained, then she has to find a guy willing to do so 24/7. I mean, who ever heard of a woman doing something to make her guy happy for once, right? If he's not doing something only for her, then he's SO SELFISH and she should dump him.
OP, how many times has SHE asked YOU what you like to do and where you want to go. I have a feeling the answer to that question is very telling. |
she's taken me out a few times.... although they aren't well thought out or planned in the way that she wants me to do. i brought it up with her that she should plan something, to give me an example of what she wants and she said "i did! i took u to caribbean bay and to art galleries!" but that isn't booking anything...... anyways.....
the thing is, we are always having a good time wherever we go, always having a laugh and doing silly things, but she says she wants to have 'memorable' experiences which i assume is going to a place where she can look back and say "remember that time we went to namsan tower" and not "remember that time we went to that restaurant/ walked down that street....etc"" <---- which is what we usually do.
another thing that came up was our age difference, she's 22 and i'm 28. i'm kind of in that 'been there, done that' phase where going to certain places doesn't make me uber excited (i mean, i don't mind going but it's not something i seek out) and she's in that stage in life where she wants to see everything, do everything. so i understand her side, because when i was that age, i was all about doing everything and trying everything and seeing everything. she's not the typical spoiled princess korean girl that many of you are assuming, although she is more spoiled than my ex gf's (americans) in the past.
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Also, and I know this is far-fetched, but do a lot of you guys actually ask your girlfriends what they like to do and where they would like to go?
That would help. |
yeah of course i've asked her. i'm not a caveman. but her response is: YOU should decide, i want you to put effort into this
it's a mystery thing with you females. you want guys to psychically know everything you're thinking. |
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