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[carleverson]

If you're married to a Korean woman, how is your relationship with them?

My Korean wife's mother loves to come over to our house and overstay her welcome. My wife loves it because her mother cooks and cleans and likes to look after the baby. For me, I find my mother-in-law a textbook case of passive aggressive behavior towards me. She won't say anything in front of me, but complains like the dickens about me with my wife. Then my wife lashes out at me as my MIL plays the victim again and again.

Rant over.

[ThingsComeAround]

im not married- yet

but so far my future MIL is damn cool. In some ways cooler than my gf.

Why not let her take care of the baby, cook, clean, slip her an Oh-Man every now and then- and take it easy?

[T-J]

Not likely to get many people commenting here.

You will have a much better conversation on this subject here.

[kingplaya4]

Mine treats me like a son, although she can't speak a word of English and my Korean has failed to progress much in the last two years. But we can communicate with the help of my wife. She's more like a mother than my real mother actually.

[Fox]

[sublunari]

We had an incredibly strange first meeting, where I walked over and said nervously hello to her in very polite Korean while she was sitting inside a car; she didn't really say anything back to me as she assumed that I was incapable of speaking or understanding Korean (largely true at the time). My theory is that she also thought I was just a fad her daughter would eventually grow out of.

After her daughter and I went to America for Chuseok we gave her a call and I spoke to her for about twenty very long seconds entirely in Korean--I said something like "My mom thinks [my girlfriend] is very beautiful", and although the grammar was mixed up and surely quite idiotic she still got the picture. When she spoke to me she sounded incredibly warm--my fiancee has said people call her mother an angel (for being nice and not speaking down to people in a society where this is apparently acceptable and commonplace behavior), and I think this notion may carry some weight.

I'll probably be having dinner with her parents in a few days...I haven't met her father yet and apparently he is very much the typical Korean father from that generation...

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[freshking]

[definitely maybe]

My mother-in-law is very cool. She's always willing to help, but never pushes too hard.

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[misher]

Future MIL is one of the coolest people I have ever met. She treats me like a son and she isn't an adjumma. Not controlling, let her kids go their own ways etc etc. Her style (hair,clothes, the way she carries herself) is also very European and she looks 10 years younger than she actually is. She made me spaghetti the other night actually because she is worried about me not eating enough. Really cool woman and my gfs friends have always been jealous of her and her relationship with her mom. They love their mothers too but they sure don't want to be around them very much.

[carleverson]

Wait till you get married and spend some time with your Korean in-laws... everything will be peachy or things won't be after you take off the the rose colored glasses...

[The Grumpy Senator]

[Juregen]

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