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Have you heard Domestic Violence through your walls?
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Have you ever heard Domestic Violence--through your walls?
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Radius



Joined: 20 Dec 2009

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 3:27 am    Post subject: Have you heard Domestic Violence through your walls? Reply with quote

I for one am sick of it--sick of hearing it, sick of imagining a blood soaked face by the time he's done, sick of the damn screams.

Its a young couple, maybe late 20's, and she gives out these blood curddling screams at all hours of the night. It almost sounds exaggerated its so loud so other people will hear it. Maybe its the only way she can cry for help because she scared to report him on her own so she wants one of the neighbors to do it. Or, maybe she's trying to embarrass him for doing it to her.
This happens roughly once a week, and i admit, when he starts the pounding, i turn off my tv and listen like its some horror flick--its just sounds so horrifying (her screams) that its entertaining---in a bad way, please dont get me wrong---its very BAD..its just hard to ignore it.

Funny thing is a couple days ago i saw him outside in our hallway and he had a little red bucket of soapy water, i thought he might have killed her and was cleaning up the mess (honest to God), but she's alive because i just heard her getting beat a few minutes ago. She IS a trooper, thats all i can really say about her.
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lprice001



Joined: 13 Sep 2010

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah, I heard some pretty loud screams from my neighbor last night. At first I thought it was people on the street, but it sounded so close to my house that I realized it was her. She lives alone, so I am not sure why she was screaming like that....maybe her boyfriend was being a jerk.
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sojusucks



Joined: 31 May 2008

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I will say that I've heard a great deal of loud arguing. There probably has been some violence, but who knows for sure who is doing what unless you can see what is actually happening? You can't blame it all on the men until you know the entire story. There are women who start fights and get physical, too.
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tophatcat



Joined: 09 Aug 2006
Location: under the hat

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes! Crying or Very sad
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machoman



Joined: 11 Jul 2007

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:37 am    Post subject: Re: Have you heard Domestic Violence through your walls? Reply with quote

Radius wrote:
I for one am sick of it--sick of hearing it, sick of imagining a blood soaked face by the time he's done, sick of the damn screams.

Its a young couple, maybe late 20's, and she gives out these blood curddling screams at all hours of the night. It almost sounds exaggerated its so loud so other people will hear it. Maybe its the only way she can cry for help because she scared to report him on her own so she wants one of the neighbors to do it. Or, maybe she's trying to embarrass him for doing it to her.
This happens roughly once a week, and i admit, when he starts the pounding, i turn off my tv and listen like its some horror flick--its just sounds so horrifying (her screams) that its entertaining---in a bad way, please dont get me wrong---its very BAD..its just hard to ignore it.

Funny thing is a couple days ago i saw him outside in our hallway and he had a little red bucket of soapy water, i thought he might have killed her and was cleaning up the mess (honest to God), but she's alive because i just heard her getting beat a few minutes ago. She IS a trooper, thats all i can really say about her.


maybe they just have really weird sex.
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Boodleheimer



Joined: 10 Mar 2006
Location: working undercover for the Man

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

yes.

doubt this thread will make live much longer, btw.
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bobbybigfoot



Joined: 05 May 2007
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 6:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yup! A few times and then it stopped. I used to hear a baby crying and that's now gone completely. I'm thinking the girl and the baby moved out. I like the silence.

I've also witnessed pushing and shoving from my balcony. Seen couples screaming at each other at 6 am. Seen the police arrive a couple of times.

My guess is that the rampant alcohol abuse that goes on here plays a big role in the abuse.

Just sad.
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diarmuid2k



Joined: 29 May 2010
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 8:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Couple upstairs used to go at it. Mid 30s, kid in elementary school.

First couple times it happened while I was still awake, but about 8 months ago, they woke me up. I called the security guy and had him come up. He knocked, the man said there was nothing wrong, the security guy went away. I went back to sleep. An hour later I'm woken up again. I just lost it. Went upstairs, punched the crap outta their front door and used graphic body language via the video phone to enforce my point.

I don't know if you're a big guy and can pull it off, but I haven't heard so much as a sneeze out of that apartment since. Sometimes with violent a$$holes, the only language they understand is violence (or the threat of it).
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Globutron



Joined: 13 Feb 2010
Location: England/Anyang

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 8:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Eerily silent here. I don't imagine the walls are THAT thick, but I don't hear a pip. I know he's there, I see him come in and out, and I hear in the hallway people are active coming in and out. But when they're in, nothing. I put my music on fairly loud on the assumption that it can't be heard and I don't get any complaints.
Maybe it is just severely good soundproofing, but I doubt it.

No sound from above and nothing below me I don't think. The occasional random screams in the street but thats about it.
I often overlsleep because it sounds so peaceful all the time (other than the times war sirens go off and I think it's the apocalypse, and times those vans go blasting their shit around).

But, I love it. It's not like the place is dead outside, it's bustling with activity. Just... quiet activity.

I've heard a couple of very distant vague screams that I immediately assume to be abuse of some sort - I dunno why. Maybe everybody assumes that in this day and age.
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Radius



Joined: 20 Dec 2009

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 8:56 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

sojusucks wrote:
I will say that I've heard a great deal of loud arguing. There probably has been some violence, but who knows for sure who is doing what unless you can see what is actually happening? You can't blame it all on the men until you know the entire story. There are women who start fights and get physical, too.


That may be true for many people, but as for me, i leaned my head out the back window tonight and i could see their silhouettes against the building closely across from us, and there was some definite arm flailing followed by sounds of slaps on skin and screams by the girl.

The screams are not the ones from arguing, on the contrary they are torturous, terrified screams of being attacked. They are the kind of screams that start off like please dont hit, please dont hit me--then the oh sh** he's coming after me scream--then bam--he hits her and she then lets out the painful, he just f***** up my face scream.
I hear him (or her) throwing things into the wall, too. there's some crazy stuff happening through those walls.

I cant believe he can get away with this. Im not reporting anything, but id love to walk in there and break it up sometimes. He sounds like he's going to kill her. Sometimes it spills out into the halls (theres only 4 rooms per floor in my apartment building) and i leave my room door open just in case she needs somewhere to run in and get away from him.

As you can see im not making this stuff up, Ive just never really heard or witnessed anything like this and its kind of making an impact on me. I feel bad for her.
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interestedinhanguk



Joined: 23 Aug 2010

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I never hear noise from my neighbors through the wall. Once and a while I hear shouting outside my door (and smell cigarette smoke wafting in somehow). It's somebody shouting through and pounding on my neighbor's door across the hall while ringing the bell constantly. It's done late at night. They seem like a shady bunch. Could be gangsters for all I know.
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Radius



Joined: 20 Dec 2009

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

diarmuid2k wrote:
Couple upstairs used to go at it. Mid 30s, kid in elementary school.

First couple times it happened while I was still awake, but about 8 months ago, they woke me up. I called the security guy and had him come up. He knocked, the man said there was nothing wrong, the security guy went away. I went back to sleep. An hour later I'm woken up again. I just lost it. Went upstairs, punched the crap outta their front door and used graphic body language via the video phone to enforce my point.

I don't know if you're a big guy and can pull it off, but I haven't heard so much as a sneeze out of that apartment since. Sometimes with violent a$$holes, the only language they understand is violence (or the threat of it).


thats funny, you really did that? Im 6 foot, 190 lbs., not really big, but i can look intimidating if he's shorter. Yea but that just not my style, i usually just endure things the best i can before going off on people because then i just feel like a dick for the rest of the day for loosing my cool.
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diarmuid2k



Joined: 29 May 2010
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Radius wrote:
diarmuid2k wrote:
Couple upstairs used to go at it. Mid 30s, kid in elementary school.

First couple times it happened while I was still awake, but about 8 months ago, they woke me up. I called the security guy and had him come up. He knocked, the man said there was nothing wrong, the security guy went away. I went back to sleep. An hour later I'm woken up again. I just lost it. Went upstairs, punched the crap outta their front door and used graphic body language via the video phone to enforce my point.

I don't know if you're a big guy and can pull it off, but I haven't heard so much as a sneeze out of that apartment since. Sometimes with violent a$$holes, the only language they understand is violence (or the threat of it).


thats funny, you really did that? Im 6 foot, 190 lbs., not really big, but i can look intimidating if he's shorter. Yea but that just not my style, i usually just endure things the best i can before going off on people because then i just feel like a dick for the rest of the day for loosing my cool.


Noone is allowed to wake me up.
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Jane



Joined: 01 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:57 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah, I heard an altercation upstairs last night. Ear-piercing screams and shouting around 1am. It died down and started again 10 minutes later with the screaming and yelling again. It really is horrible and didn't know what to do really.
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BoholDiver



Joined: 03 Oct 2009
Location: Canada

PostPosted: Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I had a neighbor who used to beat the shit out of her kids. I kicked her door down one night and shouted at them. They got the point.

My beef with them was mostly with the noise. Trailer trash families hit each other. That's their way.
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