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balzor
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 Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 5:13 pm Post subject: Re: if your gf has cramps |
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and she says it's terribly painful, what's the right thing to do?
i stayed at home, took a nap and went to the gym. now i'm in the pooper with her bc she says i should've came over and comforted her. but what can i really do? the pain is temporary and there's not much i can do. am i such a jerk about this? |
Why are you sitting in the bathroom with her?   |
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schlotzy
Joined: 10 Mar 2010
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 5:19 pm Post subject: |
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| And, even though I am western I am not one of those die-hard uber feminist types...Those women ruin it for the rest of us girls. They are the reason many men are not nice and caring anymore...I mean, geez, my uncle's wife's brother said he held the door open once for a woman, and she bit his head off...He said he will never hold the door for a woman again...Thank you feminists...Feminists are also the reason why some Korean men are scared of us white girls...they think we are all a bunch of dominant bossy women...when in fact, I am quite submissive...submitting to a man is hot...Not to mention, feminism and Gloria Steinem are backed by the evil new world order puppets...they know it leads to the breakdown of the family unit. |
I'm just speechless right now. About most of this paragraph really. |
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Louis VI
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
Location: In my Kingdom
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 6:33 pm Post subject: |
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| ... she has taught me to think of others (her) needs more than my own. |
We have men like that back home. Whipped! |
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Gom
Joined: 05 Oct 2010
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 6:35 pm Post subject: |
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| having someone who will treat you like a princess? |
You don't think men want to be treated like the apple of your eye as well? THIS is why chivalry died: women expected men to always be at their beck and call, and they did not reciprocate.
Put yourself in his shoes and think about the man sometimes...the good ones do it for you everyday. We aren't robots.
I treat my girlfriend like a princess and she also gets to show off and brag, but I demand reciprocity (however I don't reciprocate the "OMG look at the sweet tie my girlfriend bought me! Aren't you soooo jealous?")
Also, women make as much as men nowadays, so it isn't fair for the man to always pay for dinner so the woman can buy a Prada bag. |
Agreed.
Reciprocity is not a dirty word. Some people seem to forget that. Any relationship that is not balanced, will sink sooner or later - fact. Whether or not there is a culture clash here is irrelevant. A lack of balance is laziness. That is all.
Sexual equality > Chivalry. |
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pangaea
Joined: 20 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 6:55 pm Post subject: |
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princess wrote:
And, even though I am western I am not one of those die-hard uber feminist types...Those women ruin it for the rest of us girls. They are the reason many men are not nice and caring anymore...I mean, geez, my uncle's wife's brother said he held the door open once for a woman, and she bit his head off...He said he will never hold the door for a woman again...Thank you feminists...Feminists are also the reason why some Korean men are scared of us white girls...they think we are all a bunch of dominant bossy women...when in fact, I am quite submissive...submitting to a man is hot...Not to mention, feminism and Gloria Steinem are backed by the evil new world order puppets...they know it leads to the breakdown of the family unit. |
I'm just speechless right now. About most of this paragraph really. |
 Ditto.
Ah, yes, feminism. Causing the breakdown of modern society. 100 years ago, women didn't have the right to vote. They couldn't go to college and study much of anything besides teaching or nursing because they weren't considered intelligent enough. They couldn't play sports. Their husbands could legally beat them and abuse them.
Feminism is the reason women can vote, hold political office, go to college and study a subject of their own choice, go to work and have the legal right to be paid as much as their male counterparts. It's the reason women don't have to be dependant on a man to support them financially. It's the reason they don't have to put up with abuse because they have no choice.
I'm sure there are women out there who are happy to submit to their husbands. I prefer my relationship to be a partnership. I do not need or want decisions to be made for me. I prefer to have a say over what happens in my home and my life. I don't think respecting a woman's opinion or intelligence is a bad thing or that it will lead to the "breakdown" of the family unit. Personally, I think the only people who are complaining about the evils of feminism are right-wing fundamentalists who think they have the right to power over others because they are white and have penises.
Ok, rant over.  |
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Summer Wine
Joined: 20 Mar 2005
Location: Next to a River
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Femanism to me is the statement made by my lecturer at Uni when I stated that Femanism is about equality between the sexes.
She said that "femanism is not about women being treated equally, its about women having greater rights than men and only when women have greater rights than men will they truly be equal".
She was pretty hard core in the feminism issue. She also thought that husbands/boyfriends should pay thier partners if they wanted to have sex.
I could never understand how she couldn't understand that was basically calling women prostitutes. |
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nukeday
Joined: 13 May 2010
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 8:31 pm Post subject: |
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Femanism to me is the statement made by my lecturer at Uni when I stated that Femanism is about equality between the sexes.
She said that "femanism is not about women being treated equally, its about women having greater rights than men and only when women have greater rights than men will they truly be equal".
She was pretty hard core in the feminism issue. She also thought that husbands/boyfriends should pay thier partners if they wanted to have sex.
I could never understand how she couldn't understand that was basically calling women prostitutes. |
LOL. Live-in prostitutes. Awesome! Would she get jealous when I frequented other prostitutes whom I didn't live with? |
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machoman
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 8:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Summer Wine wrote: |
Femanism to me is the statement made by my lecturer at Uni when I stated that Femanism is about equality between the sexes.
She said that "femanism is not about women being treated equally, its about women having greater rights than men and only when women have greater rights than men will they truly be equal".
She was pretty hard core in the feminism issue. She also thought that husbands/boyfriends should pay thier partners if they wanted to have sex.
I could never understand how she couldn't understand that was basically calling women prostitutes. |
she must've had daddy issues
anyways, i wanted to know some of the females perspective on the board... |
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misher
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 9:12 pm Post subject: |
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You don't think men want to be treated like the apple of your eye as well? THIS is why chivalry died: women expected men to always be at their beck and call, and they did not reciprocate.
Put yourself in his shoes and think about the man sometimes...the good ones do it for you everyday. We aren't robots.
I treat my girlfriend like a princess and she also gets to show off and brag, but I demand reciprocity (however I don't reciprocate the "OMG look at the sweet tie my girlfriend bought me! Aren't you soooo jealous?")
Also, women make as much as men nowadays, so it isn't fair for the man to always pay for dinner so the woman can buy a Prada bag. |
Amen brother. Amen.
I treat my gf like gold and she reciprocates 2 fold. If she didn't reciprocate like many of my ex girlfriends my eyes would wander and the relationship would be over after the sex got a bit dull.
Also, I'm not trying to rag on Korean men here but according to the Korean women I know (aged 26-32) Korean men treat Korean women like absolute gold until marriage. After the deal is sealed around age 28-30 all of that princess treatment goes out the door. This is changing mind you but it happened to all of my gf's girlfriends. Family obligations get locked in, the guy puts his mind entirely on making money for the family etc etc. This happens back in the west too though but I don't think it is exactly like one extreme to the other so quickly. It is one of the reasons why my gf is scared of marrying a Korean man. She has seen to many horror stories in the last 4 years. |
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PCRamplified
Joined: 25 Jun 2010
Location: PA, USA
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 9:27 pm Post subject: |
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anyways, i wanted to know some of the females perspective on the board... |
About feminism or cramps?
I think feminism started out all well and good, and I certainly wouldn't want to live in a world without it, but now some of it has gone too far.
I'm probably not too helpful on the cramps front. I guess I'm awfully lucky, but I only get cramps bad enough that I even consider taking anything for them a couple of time a year. And even then, an ibuprofen is enough to make them almost completely go away. So I can get annoyed at girls who complain about cramps too. Probably cause I can't really understand.
I basically agree that she probably wanted your attention (ok, maybe a little bit clingy, but... guess it depends on how much it happens). Sure you can't do much for cramps, but you can be the person she can vent to. Showing up with chocolate , a back massage, and a little bit of sympathy would probably have been what she was looking for. Going out for a stroll would have been good too. A little exercise is really good for cramps. |
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liveinkorea316
Joined: 20 Aug 2010
Location: South Korea
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She is indeed too demanding. Your gf.
If you let this continue then it will never stop and you will wake up at 40 years old, whipped into whipped cream - a shadow of the man you once were.
I think your girl, needs to take some lessons on "how to commmunicate with a partner without resorting to guilt-tripping" 101. |
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tottenhamtaipeinick
Joined: 05 Sep 2010
Location: Canada
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:08 pm Post subject: |
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ok do this picture your gf angry or upset? Does she make you boil up to the point you cant take it? Or when she is upset or grumpy do you want to comfort her?.....
If you want to comfort her when she is at her worst, I say stay with her...
If you want to ditch her everytime she gets angry or goes off sad, I say get out of there...
Maybe I am 2 young to comment with little experience though I couldnt imagine being with a girl I constantly have to question what I am doing with her when she is angry or upset about something I cant fully understand!
If you respect the person she is you will try to understand her feelings and wants better and will become less selfish in the relationship....
just my opinion you dont have to take it on board but good luck! |
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nobbyken
Joined: 07 Jun 2006
Location: Yongin ^^
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Sometimes women just want to share their problems. They don't always want the man to solve the problems, just listen and either guess what'll make her feel better or ask her if there is anything that can be done. |
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Kaypea
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:26 pm Post subject: |
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| I think it's embarrassing to tell a boyfriend when I have cramps. |
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Gamecock
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| Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 1:30 am Post subject: |
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machoman said:
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| and she says it's terribly painful, what's the right thing to do? |
Trust me, no matter what you do...it will be wrong! |
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