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jhicks99
Joined: 04 Mar 2009 Location: Seoul, South Korea
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Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:37 pm Post subject: "Korean Time" frustrations... |
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I teach kinder at a hakwon in Seoul. We follow a loose schedule in that we basically have to manage how we teach our material over an entire day. There is only a schedule for special classes like gym. There are no Korean teachers at our school so it's all on us. Anyway, I usually save quite a bit of work for after lunch, I find time goes by much quicker when we're doing the whole learning thing. So I walk into class after lunch to see the manager doing one of those standardized tests with my kids (I was not informed of this). She tells me it will be 10 minutes, no biggie, I can squeeze in the work after that no problem. 20 minutes later (I am sitting there doing nothing all this time) I ask how much longer, she tells me just 5 minutes... After 15 more minutes the first student finishes, 15 minutes later the rest of the class was all done. My Friday's are insanely busy so I really want to get through our reading and writing today... but now I have all of 15 minutes left to teach, 5 of which is just cleaning up.
My point, she knew it was going to take longer than 10 minutes, MUCH longer, yet still told me 10 minutes. I notice this happening a lot when meeting Korean friends. I've probably spent hundreds of hours of the past year and a half standing at various subway exits (Sinchon exit 4, Hongdae exit 5, Gangnam exit 6/7 are all particularly painful memories for me, I'm sure you've seen me standing there at some point) waiting for people who are late. Almost every time, no matter who the person, "I'll be 5 minutes" is always an extra 15 minutes AT LEAST.
Am I the only one who notices how incredibly non-punctual a lot of locals are here and how they always completely underestimate how long they're really going to be? Is there something about Korean culture I don't know that causes people to have no concept of being on time or what 5 minutes really is?
The transportation system is remarkably reliable, it just baffles my mind as I always manage to always be on time and if I am late, I am fairly certain of how long it will take me to get there and always send a text or call as soon as I'm aware I might not be on time as a heads up.
Maybe I'm just venting, but this isn't an isolated incident for me, it happens nearly every freaking time... |
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Caffeinated
Joined: 11 Feb 2010
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Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:41 pm Post subject: |
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I get the Armed Forces Network on my TV and they have commercials talking about local customs. For Korea the commercial says that being 30 minutes late for a dinner invitation is acceptable.  |
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balzor

Joined: 14 Feb 2009
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Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:59 pm Post subject: Re: "Korean Time" frustrations... |
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jhicks99 wrote: |
I teach kinder at a hakwon in Seoul. We follow a loose schedule in that we basically have to manage how we teach our material over an entire day. There is only a schedule for special classes like gym. There are no Korean teachers at our school so it's all on us. Anyway, I usually save quite a bit of work for after lunch, I find time goes by much quicker when we're doing the whole learning thing. So I walk into class after lunch to see the manager doing one of those standardized tests with my kids (I was not informed of this). She tells me it will be 10 minutes, no biggie, I can squeeze in the work after that no problem. 20 minutes later (I am sitting there doing nothing all this time) I ask how much longer, she tells me just 5 minutes... After 15 more minutes the first student finishes, 15 minutes later the rest of the class was all done. My Friday's are insanely busy so I really want to get through our reading and writing today... but now I have all of 15 minutes left to teach, 5 of which is just cleaning up.
My point, she knew it was going to take longer than 10 minutes, MUCH longer, yet still told me 10 minutes. I notice this happening a lot when meeting Korean friends. I've probably spent hundreds of hours of the past year and a half standing at various subway exits (Sinchon exit 4, Hongdae exit 5, Gangnam exit 6/7 are all particularly painful memories for me, I'm sure you've seen me standing there at some point) waiting for people who are late. Almost every time, no matter who the person, "I'll be 5 minutes" is always an extra 15 minutes AT LEAST.
Am I the only one who notices how incredibly non-punctual a lot of locals are here and how they always completely underestimate how long they're really going to be? Is there something about Korean culture I don't know that causes people to have no concept of being on time or what 5 minutes really is?
The transportation system is remarkably reliable, it just baffles my mind as I always manage to always be on time and if I am late, I am fairly certain of how long it will take me to get there and always send a text or call as soon as I'm aware I might not be on time as a heads up.
Maybe I'm just venting, but this isn't an isolated incident for me, it happens nearly every freaking time... |
welcome to Korea. This is normal. Get used to it. They won't tell you information that they know you won't be happy about it (being late, changing your schedule). This is common to the culture. How you adapt will determine how well you do here. |
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Pa Jan Jo A Hamnida
Joined: 27 Oct 2006 Location: Not Korea
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Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 11:04 pm Post subject: |
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Yep. One day I wasn't told about exams and of course the tapes weren't cued up. While addressing the unexpected task, my co-teacher then called me an idiot in front of the class.
Information is power indeed! |
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bluelake

Joined: 01 Dec 2005
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 12:35 am Post subject: |
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It's much better than it used to be. Back when I first lived here in '84, "Korean Time" meant 1-2 hours difference. Nowadays, if I have an appointment, the other person will generally be within ten minutes of the time. I think a lot of it has to do with the automobile.
In '84, most people didn't drive. Most cars were owned by rich people (who had drivers) and taxi companies. There was a very small middle class, so there tended to be few private drivers. Most people used mass transportation--buses, taxies, trains. Plus, they also walked or used a bicycle. In other words, the time factor often really wasn't up to them. Because of that, people tended to sit back and relax more than they do nowadays. Today, cars are very commonplace, so people have the potential to get where they need to go as fast as their car will get them there--now, there is the bballi bballi mentality and people try to get where they're going as quickly as possible. It's just my observation over the past 2-1/2 decades... |
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jhicks99
Joined: 04 Mar 2009 Location: Seoul, South Korea
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 1:15 am Post subject: |
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welcome to Korea. This is normal. Get used to it. They won't tell you information that they know you won't be happy about it (being late, changing your schedule). This is common to the culture. How you adapt will determine how well you do here. |
I couldn't be any more aware of how normal it is. I'm simply wondering WHY this is or how it came to be acceptable in a seemingly modern society?
The me-first attitude of many Koreans is readily apparent in any crowded area. The difference between how people act in Seoul and Tokyo is quite amazing. They couldn't be any more opposite. Not once in Tokyo did I walk into somewhere who had their head buried in a tv program on their phone, or who was walking diagonally across the sidewalk and straight at you (favourite move of the ajoomas) or of course whipping around a corner on the very left without seeing if someone is coming there way and completely ignoring the notices to keep right.
Pa Jan Jo A Hamnida, that sucks. I've never been afraid to turn such situations around. Simply tell them to give you fair warning next time and you'll be prepared, and that without it there's nothing you can do. Koreans don't like it when you counter them with logic and reason, but it sure puts the stupid blame back on them (not to imply that Koreans are stupid, just in this instance you were called an idiot).
bluelake, interesting observation. I find that those with cars (in Seoul anyway) are just as unpredictable. Traffic in Seoul is a lot harder to predict than public transportation. With apps like Next Bus I can almost tell you exactly when I'll arrive somewhere before I step out of the apt. |
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Gamecock

Joined: 26 Nov 2003
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 1:23 am Post subject: |
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In my experience, if you are meeting with a Korean and they are late, they will often call you and say they will arrive in "5 minutes." When you hear this, expect a minimum wait of 20-30 minutes. They tell you 5 because they think it will make you feel better!
Definitely a different mentality. |
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nero
Joined: 11 Mar 2009
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 8:32 am Post subject: |
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Actually, I find that North Americans are really finicky about time. If you say '4pm' to me that means 4pm - 4.15pm without being rude. Some of my friends turn up early and get pissed when I am on time!
Just differences, but yeah, in the classroom circumstance that would really annoy me. |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 10:33 am Post subject: Re: "Korean Time" frustrations... |
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balzor wrote: |
welcome to Korea. This is normal. Get used to it. They won't tell you information that they know you won't be happy about it (being late, changing your schedule). This is common to the culture. How you adapt will determine how well you do here. |
Exactly. They are terrible at giving bad news, so they just tell you what they think you want to hear--until the last possible moment.
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 10:36 am Post subject: |
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nero wrote: |
Actually, I find that North Americans are really finicky about time. If you say '4pm' to me that means 4pm - 4.15pm without being rude. Some of my friends turn up early and get pissed when I am on time!
Just differences, but yeah, in the classroom circumstance that would really annoy me. |
It's a respect thing. Being late to meet someone (without a good reason) shows you do not respect them or value their time. Being habitually late is a sign of selfishness and narcissism.
When I meet Korean people I always assume they will be 30 minutes late. If I show up 30 minutes after the appointed time, and then I still have to wait another 30 minutes, I just leave.
But I agree with bluelake, it must be better than back in the old days. Koreans are pretty punctual compared to a lot of other country people. |
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Young FRANKenstein

Joined: 02 Oct 2006 Location: Castle Frankenstein (that's FRONKensteen)
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 3:50 pm Post subject: Re: "Korean Time" frustrations... |
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jhicks99 wrote: |
My point, she knew it was going to take longer than 10 minutes, MUCH longer, yet still told me 10 minutes. |
This is not "Korean time". It's called life.
Try getting married and asking your wife how much longer she'll be getting ready to go out for dinner. "I'm coming down right now" translates to another 15 minute wait.
Not exactly a trait we can pin on the Koreans. |
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tanklor1
Joined: 13 Jun 2006
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 4:09 pm Post subject: Re: "Korean Time" frustrations... |
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jhicks99 wrote: |
I teach kinder at a hakwon in Seoul. We follow a loose schedule in that we basically have to manage how we teach our material over an entire day. There is only a schedule for special classes like gym. There are no Korean teachers at our school so it's all on us. Anyway, I usually save quite a bit of work for after lunch, I find time goes by much quicker when we're doing the whole learning thing. So I walk into class after lunch to see the manager doing one of those standardized tests with my kids (I was not informed of this). She tells me it will be 10 minutes, no biggie, I can squeeze in the work after that no problem. 20 minutes later (I am sitting there doing nothing all this time) I ask how much longer, she tells me just 5 minutes... After 15 more minutes the first student finishes, 15 minutes later the rest of the class was all done. My Friday's are insanely busy so I really want to get through our reading and writing today... but now I have all of 15 minutes left to teach, 5 of which is just cleaning up.
My point, she knew it was going to take longer than 10 minutes, MUCH longer, yet still told me 10 minutes. I notice this happening a lot when meeting Korean friends. I've probably spent hundreds of hours of the past year and a half standing at various subway exits (Sinchon exit 4, Hongdae exit 5, Gangnam exit 6/7 are all particularly painful memories for me, I'm sure you've seen me standing there at some point) waiting for people who are late. Almost every time, no matter who the person, "I'll be 5 minutes" is always an extra 15 minutes AT LEAST.
Am I the only one who notices how incredibly non-punctual a lot of locals are here and how they always completely underestimate how long they're really going to be? Is there something about Korean culture I don't know that causes people to have no concept of being on time or what 5 minutes really is?
The transportation system is remarkably reliable, it just baffles my mind as I always manage to always be on time and if I am late, I am fairly certain of how long it will take me to get there and always send a text or call as soon as I'm aware I might not be on time as a heads up.
Maybe I'm just venting, but this isn't an isolated incident for me, it happens nearly every freaking time... |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 4:48 pm Post subject: Re: "Korean Time" frustrations... |
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Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
jhicks99 wrote: |
My point, she knew it was going to take longer than 10 minutes, MUCH longer, yet still told me 10 minutes. |
This is not "Korean time". It's called life.
Try getting married and asking your wife how much longer she'll be getting ready to go out for dinner. "I'm coming down right now" translates to another 15 minute wait.
Not exactly a trait we can pin on the Koreans. |
Yeah honestly, given how un-punctual people in some other cultures are, I think that complaining about "Korean time" is really just looking for something to complain about. In the grand scheme of things, Koreans are not that bad about being late. Lateness is very, very low on the list of my complaints about the country.
If you think "Korean time" is bad, try "African time." |
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Underwaterbob

Joined: 08 Jan 2005 Location: In Cognito
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 5:04 pm Post subject: |
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I honestly haven't noticed that it's any different from anywhere else I've ever lived.
The perpetual string of last minute bad news on the other hand... Actually, now that I think about it, I don't mind it: it gives me a great excuse to be a bit half-assed now and again, which I likely would have been anyway. |
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stephorama
Joined: 19 Sep 2010
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Posted: Thu Oct 14, 2010 5:14 pm Post subject: |
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Are you sure you're not talking about Israelis? I've never met an Israeli who is on time. |
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