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naturegirl321
Joined: 18 Jul 2006
Location: Home sweet home
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 Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:33 am Post subject: |
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they made the single accomodation an issue.
we're a married couple, not a pair of teenagers.
I had to reassure GEPIK of this as well, but they were understanding. they just told me that they didn't want any complaints about the single apartment later. i told them the size of the apartment would not be an issue.
and we have literally spent weeks living in something that was smaller than some of the single sized apartments that i've seen on you tube.
all that matters is that we are together. it sounds slushy, but i'm happy to be so slushed up. beats being in a relationship where you fight all the time. |
To be honest with you, one rooms ARE difficult. I have three married friends who are in the same situation as me (and you) the woman is the bread winner. Two of these couples live in a one room. Well, actually only one couple, since the other couple moved. BUT, for a year, they lived in a one room, with a baby as well. the third couple has a bigger place.
I'll be honest. it's tough making money and not having your husband work. Forget about working at mcDonald's. that's not legal. He MIGHT be able to work at a hagwon if he has a degree. If not, then try www.talk.go.kr .
We fought more living in a one room, we had a nice apt back home. You really have to know what you're getting yourselves into. My husband left after only 10 weeks. It was a combination of feeling useless due to no job, his mom being sick, him needing tutors for his studies, and us wanting to fix up our house back home. he should be back early next year and I just hope things are different.
What you might want to try is getting a housing allowance in leiu of housing. Trust me. Living in one room is hard. LIke you said, you're not teenagers, but if your husband wants to stay up watching footie, or you fight, it's nice to be able to go to another room. |
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naturegirl321
Joined: 18 Jul 2006
Location: Home sweet home
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:35 am Post subject: |
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| How long are you guys planning on staying in Korea? I will say though some things are tough, we'd like to stay here for a while and are planning kids for next year. we figure we should just take the plunge before we back out. |
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elliot79
Joined: 08 Oct 2010
Location: England
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:46 am Post subject: |
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I'm not sure how long we're staying for, if things go well, a few years. we have a mortgage in england we are going to let the house out, so we don't have to worry about monthly repayments.
in korea we have the chance to live a better quality of life and we can save money.
we would be able to afford to go out. right now,we come home,w e're tired and we can't afford to go out. travel fare costs a fortune as well.
we weren't offered a housing allowance.
i'm hoping that my husband won't be watching the football too much. we have both said that we want a more refreshing life out there; where we can go and see new things and experience new things.
just talk your husband out of worrying about being the breadwinner hun. what's important is that you're togrther, let's not get turn this into an ago issue. |
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naturegirl321
Joined: 18 Jul 2006
Location: Home sweet home
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:55 am Post subject: |
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| elliot79 wrote: |
I'm not sure how long we're staying for, if things go well, a few years. we have a mortgage in england we are going to let the house out, so we don't have to worry about monthly repayments.
in korea we have the chance to live a better quality of life and we can save money.
we would be able to afford to go out. right now,we come home,w e're tired and we can't afford to go out. travel fare costs a fortune as well.
we weren't offered a housing allowance.
i'm hoping that my husband won't be watching the football too much. we have both said that we want a more refreshing life out there; where we can go and see new things and experience new things.
just talk your husband out of worrying about being the breadwinner hun. what's important is that you're togrther, let's not get turn this into an ago issue. |
My husband just watched that international match, the one that took place in spring. I know I shoudl know this, but I dont'. World cup maybe?
My husband is latin, so it's kind of the chauvanistic thing. But it's also because he had decent jobs in Peru. Crappy pay, but prestigious positions, according to him.
Since we're thinking about having kids, he's not too keen about just staying home and being a househusband. Nor am I, as he's not much of house husband at the moment.
Hopefully though, we're thinking that I'll put him through school for 2 or 3 years, and then he'll find a good job as an engineer. Though he'd have to learn English first.
Funny that you're leaving Europe. We're looking at going there. Spain, Italy or Romania.
I think for me, the main thing about being the breadwinner is that since he's not working, he spends freely. You'd think it'd be the opposite, but it's not. |
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cert43
Joined: 17 Jun 2010
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 8:11 am Post subject: |
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I am really surprised.
Married couples usually get better perks here. |
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elliot79
Joined: 08 Oct 2010
Location: England
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 1:07 pm Post subject: |
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I'm very frugal, my husband went to boarding school, and i think that helped him to be a good guy and be more responsible. because often Pakistani men tend to be a bit spoilt.
i think chaage is coming in our generation though, but my husband is very cool, i think he would like to work becuase he doesn't like the idea of depending upon me. he wouldn't want to depend upon anybody, it's not just a gender thing.
but i keep telling him that this is a great opportunity for him to pursue other things.
life in europe is way too expensive hun, so please just research thouroughly before making nay decisions.
we're all going through a rough recession, especially Spain and Greece. England is just expensive  |
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naturegirl321
Joined: 18 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 2:48 pm Post subject: |
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| Married couple may get better perks if they BOTH work. We'll be in Korea for a while, if I have any say over it. |
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edwardcatflap
Joined: 22 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Why would you ever sign onto a place where you had to live in a dorm? This isn't University anymore. I live in a nice apartment and I don't pay a won. Living in a dorm... LOL |
When Universities say 'dorm' they're often just referring to the building where some of the students live. These buildings often have apartments built inside the main building for visiting lecturers or permanent staff that can be pretty nice. I lived in a 'dorm' once that had three bedrooms and a living room twice the size of the one I have now. It also had a huge picture window taking up the whole wall, looking out over the mountains. |
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