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calicoe · Joined: 23 Dec 2008 Location: South Korea

I'm sorry to say this, but she sounds horrid and I know someone like her, with the exact same pretty/entitlement complex.

I have observed that many of these people become extremely defensive and angry at the slightest criticism, so the only thing you can do is watch them as they set themselves up for a fall. And, they will fall, because their entire self-esteem has not been built from the inside, but is dependent on others approval and judgments.

All you can do is hope that they will learn something one day, and become less artificial. As for your parents, well, if they are enablers that is the flip side of the coin, isn't it? None of them will listen to you.

NYC_Gal · Joined: 08 Dec 2009

comm · Joined: 22 Jun 2010

People are emotional and ridiculous and generally have to left to fail on their own. You just need to sit back and see if the failures are learned from or not.

(the advice applies to both the parents and sister)

EDIT:
I did want to add that I see you as one of the more valuable posters on Dave's and I'm sorry to hear you're in the predicament. I've seen it and it's not fun, but I don't think there's much to be done.

Globutron · Joined: 13 Feb 2010 Location: England/Anyang

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fjFzUVCQ1vM

Personally I'd make use of a particularly thick hard-back book.

BaldTeacher · Joined: 02 Feb 2010

Tell your sister that she's 26 now. Within 10 years, her looks will most likely be faded. She'll get less and less attention from men until she's just another old cat lady. Tell her that she better sort her issues out now so that she can have a fulfilling life beyond the next few years and that she better start treating your parents with some god damn respect.

And pressure your mother into kicking her out.

WadRUG'naDoo · Joined: 15 Jun 2010 Location: Shanghai

I wouldn't handle it.

southernman · Joined: 15 Jan 2010 Location: On the mainland again

Suggest to her she has two options, because frankly your parents do not deserve to put up with a spoilt brat at their age.

I think its quite alright for you to say that she is causing undue stress and strain on your elderly parent's lives. They should be kicking back and enjoying the toils of their labour. So she should...

Move out of home and live with her fabulous bf or..

Tell her to come o Korea and she'll have her debts paid off in two years if she grows up and stops acting like a self absorbed baby

If she doesn't grow up at laest she will fit right in with Korean girls of the same ilk.

She definitley has the 'princess complex'

RMNC · Joined: 21 Jul 2010

Stop talking to all of these wet rags/nuts.

recessiontime · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2010 2:22 am Post subject:

you know, maybe I'm thinking about this the wrong way. Perhaps my parents like the fact at least one of their kids are living with them. They might occasionally complain but they are happy to stay close.

And yes in spirit I do agree with all of you that she is super vain and needs a 'reality check' whether it's boot camp with maury or being sent to some 5th world nation where she can learn to appreciate just how fragile life is.

Captain Corea · Joined: 28 Feb 2005 Location: Seoul

She will get what she needs. For you, just try to look out for your parents.

asylum seeker · Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: On your computer screen.

You;re not in Korea?

cert43 · Joined: 17 Jun 2010

I don't understand the issue. She has a job.

Maybe the parents are enabling her to continue living

there ( for thier own selfish and illegimate reasons).

Just don't deal with it. You can't continue to emotionally

bring yourself down with negativity.

Give your parents the support they need and let the rest

be.

Mr. Pink · Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Location: China

Sounds like my sister, except, instead of living at home, she lives on her own and then cries begging for cash when she cannot pay her rent, or pay for food. Oh and she is in her 30s. My mom doesn't complain to me, as she knows where I stand on that BS. I hear it through my other siblings how my mom and dad are feeding her cash here and there.

I've worked my butt off for the last 10 years...in that time I don't think my sister has held a job for longer than a year, and she hasn't had a job in the past 4 years. Yeah, don't ask how she pays rent...I have a feeling she owes everyone she has a blood connection with, as well as all her friends, banks, credit cards, etc.

I wish she would date and marry a rich guy. She was dating a guy who owned his own company, but she "didn't want to be tied down again" and broke it off...dumba$$.

To the OP, I can promise you two things:

1) When your parents need to retire and need help, your sister won't be anywhere need them...you will be the one doing all the heavy lifting, especially if bills need to be paid.
2) When your parents die, your sister is going to be ALL over their stuff like a fat kid on a smartie. I hope your parents have a very specific will.

Just so ya know, the person living with them will be able to get their hands on any stuff of worth first if there isn't a will. This is reason #1 I am glad my sister isn't living with my parents, she would move all the valuable stuff to a "friends" house or something...

Family...sure wish you could pick em like you can friends.

recessiontime · Posted: Sat Oct 30, 2010 10:17 pm Post subject:

Mr. Pink · Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Location: China