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shifter2009



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PostPosted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 9:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Underwaterbob wrote:
shifter2009 wrote:
...Christianity is socially harmful...


Well...


My point using a bunch of loonies as proof does nothing for me. Show me the Westborro Baptist church, I can see it as just a weird element of the religion. Show me the Catholic church as a bunch of pedophiles and I am more inclined to stand with you. Fox's enlightened "men joke around" argument is pretty sad too. Your an adult in the work place, act professionally. Save your winks and nod jokes for at home with your buddies and quit acting put upon that people expect you to keep your jokes to yourself in the workplace. I know a lot of us dudes long for the days when people like Dom Draper ruled the work world but I don't blame women at all for calling bullshit on it.
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Unposter



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PostPosted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 9:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have to agree witht shape shifter on this one. Some of you are just cherry picking something and then seem to be saying that feminism is wrong. If you are arguing that some aspects of feminism have gone too far, you may be making a valid point in the same way we could say some capitalists or some socialists have gone too far. Guess what? Name one idea on this planet that is perfect. Now, if you are using isolated ideas to smear the whole idea, then I think you got some serious problems. So, which is it?

Are you basically pro-feminist but you think it on occasion has gone too far -or- are you saying that feminism is in essence bad?
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Fox



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PostPosted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 9:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

shifter2009 wrote:

Your argument is a sham. You cherry pick extreme elements of a very large group and then say it proves the whole thing is some sort of crazy sham.


There are more than enough examples of this kind of behavior to demonstrate this is hardly some sort of lunatic fringe at work. This is mainstream modern feminist thought, and it's having an effect, both politically and culturally.

shifter2009 wrote:
Fox's enlightened "men joke around" argument is pretty sad too. Your an adult in the work place, act professionally.


I don't want the world turning into a sterile, humorless factory. Work places are where a huge portion of human interaction occurs. The fact that feminists insist that male behavior is unacceptable there just demonstrates yet again the nature of their movement. There's a huge difference between "being professional" and "never so much as making a joke lest someone take offense." Our society is drifting far too close to the latter category, and a reasonable portion of the culpability for that lies on the shoulders of feminism.

shifter2009 wrote:
It's intellectually dishonest.


What's intellectually dishonest is mischaracterizing my case the way you're attempting to. I'm sorry, but your commentary in this thread has been both lacking in insight and frankly mildly dimwitted. I was willing to politely engage you despite that, but now that you've started being insulting, I no longer feel inclined towards generosity.

People like you are exactly the reason modern feminism gets away with so much of what it does; you're like the sheep from Animal Farm, useful for nothing more than making noise to drown out dissent. Example after example of modern feminist behavior has been dropped in front you, and you just shrug it all off, preferring to believe "it's just a few loonies." Hell, even Rach made at least some sort of basic argument. You are essentially just sniveling that I'm unfairly judging the entire movement by the goals the movement is working towards.


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mises



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PostPosted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 10:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Fox's enlightened "men joke around" argument is pretty sad too. Your an adult in the work place, act professionally. Save your winks and nod jokes for at home with your buddies and quit acting put upon that people expect you to keep your jokes to yourself in the workplace. I know a lot of us dudes long for the days when people like Dom Draper ruled the work world but I don't blame women at all for calling bullshit on it.


Men do joke around. Men need to understand that women aren't men. Women are sensitive and fragile compared to men. It is inappropriate to treat them like men. Our culture tells us that men and women are extremely similar, and men treat women as if we are similar. We're not.


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I've had a couple guy friends that have been bothered by gay men and it was such a big deal for them... how would they feel if it was a regular occurrence? But it's ok if women are bothered by men, then it's just joking around. As far as my work experiences, were you there? Do you know what *kind* of wink it was? Hmmm, guess I'm just over sensitive. And I should be flattered, right? Also, the "joke" was overtly sexual toward the women in a law firm meeting... and the partner later apologized, I guess I should be grateful.


Your male friends need to grow a pair. I lived in a very gay neighborhood for a while. Oh lord, the stuff I saw. Guys would pull up in their car and shout at me while holding their dick. "It's one of those days bro" was the line. In Singapore while walking though a club a guy grabbed me and tried to kiss me. I didn't have a cry about it. I didn't whine to some diversity thug. Part of life is dealing with the behavior of other people. Life is as easy or difficult as you make it. If a wink or joke is so painful it may be best to leave the workforce, get a couple cats and a mumu and say adios to life in public.


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Fox



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PostPosted: Mon Nov 01, 2010 10:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Unposter wrote:
Some of you are just cherry picking something and then seem to be saying that feminism is wrong.


Talking about the stated goals of active feminists isn't cherry picking. It's giving examples of what feminism works towards.

Unposter wrote:
If you are arguing that some aspects of feminism have gone too far, you may be making a valid point in the same way we could say some capitalists or some socialists have gone too far. Guess what? Name one idea on this planet that is perfect. Now, if you are using isolated ideas to smear the whole idea, then I think you got some serious problems. So, which is it?


I think you're misunderstanding. There are some legitimate possible goals for feminism, but those goals have all ready been achieved in the West. As such, we can reasonably predict that any continued activity by feminists in the West will result in socially destructive behavior. Unsurprisingly, when we look at real world examples this prediction is borne out.

This isn't about feminism being imperfect. It's about what feminism itself currently is: a pro-women social lobbying movement that actively works against equality and justice. At best it's doing good works in a needlessly sexist fashion (for example, programs to help or empower young girls while specifically excluding young boys). At worst, it's actively harming society (for example, by insisting that every man who has consensual sex with a female for money is engaging in a crime while the woman is not, or by actively opposing paternity tests to give women the upper hand in reproductive law, or so forth).

Unposter wrote:
Are you basically pro-feminist but you think it on occasion has gone too far -or- are you saying that feminism is in essence bad?


I don't see how much clearer I can be. I'm saying feminism is a pro-female lobbying movement and that given legal equality has all ready been achieved, that's a bad thing which will lead to social problems if indulged. Examples have been given, and plenty more exist. There's still a place in the world for feminism, but it's not in the west. The fact that feminists still direct so much of their attention towards western causes just demonstrates their true nature all the more.
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recessiontime



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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 12:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I thought this feminism thing was a cult girls in colleges go to. Turns out it's real. Shocking.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 2:16 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Since you adressed my question but didn't directly answer it, I will interpret your answer which is that you feel that feminism is now dangerous and you are against it. You do not seem to think that the equality women have gained is precarious and that the rights that women have fought for could ever be lost.

You also complain that women lobby only for women and are less concerned (or not concerned) about men.

Yet, you do not seem to worry about other organizations such as the AARP (American Association of Retired Persons), lets say, that lobby only for old, retired people rather than young people as well.

You seem to be only concerned about feminism. I think this is a significant weakness in your argument. You don't seem to see the big picture about the nature of lobbying or even the nature of "studies" - as in woman's studies should directly include the study of men in of themselves rather than just tangentally as a gender that women sometimes interact with. There is something extremely narrow about your argument in only addressing women - despite this being a thread about feminism. If you would include other groups as examples that you also oppose and see as dangerous than maybe you wouldn't sound so shrill about women.

Another weakness in your argument is that you seem to think that feminism is a singular ideology that all feminist adhere to and follow rather than an amalgaration of different women's voices about what it is to be a women. In fact, feminism is often divided into small "l" liberal feminist, large "L" liberal feminist and radical feminists. You seem to be especially concerned about radical feminism which tends to see conflicts between social classes including gender in a way that they see it impossible for men to ever give up "power" to women. While no doubt there are a number of successful radical feminist academics and writers that is not all that feminism is about. Your argument would be stronger if you would accept that some aspects of femism are important and valuable and at that same time we need to be concerned about the more radical voices within the movement.

Another crticism I have is that you seem to think that feminism is a phenomenon that destroys everything it touches. But, you don't seem to address the businesses, governments and quite often the men that have made decisions that you disagree with. You don't address why they made those decisions other than that feminism has somehow "brainwashed" various people, including men, to do its bidding. This does not seem reasonable.

I still don't understand how feminism has become so powerful. One article seemed to argue that divorce lawyers were behind inequalities in divorce laws (whatever those inequalities are). But, it does not address all the legislative bodies (mostly men) that have passed laws and all the judges (mostly men) that have found merit in these laws. This is not to say that these laws are necessarily correct but obviously well-educated, powerful people have found merit in them and you don't address what merits they see in it (or how divorce lawyers have become so powerful). It may be because these laws are not as bad as you have described them. It may be that feminism is just as powerful as you have describe it. You have left too many loose threads in your criticism to sway a reasonable person.

I admire your sense of equality but I am not sure your solution would lead to the equality you seem to advocate.
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Fox



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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 2:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Unposter wrote:
Yet, you do not seem to worry about other organizations such as the AARP (American Association of Retired Persons), lets say, that lobby only for old, retired people rather than young people as well.


My opinion on group-specific lobbies is one of three things:

1) They're trivial or ineffective.
2) They're effective but their group all ready has full legal equality, and as such they're socially problematic.
3) The group they lobby for suffers from serious social discrimination, and as such, the group has a limited amount of socially constructive work to be done.

I'm talking about feminism because this thread is about feminism, and because feminism is a prominent example of a #2 group. Other good examples of a social group in category #2 are African Americans and Jews. An example of a social group in category #3 would be homosexuals. An example of group #1 would be white supremacists.

I'm not only concerned about feminism.

Unposter wrote:
Another weakness in your argument is that you seem to think that feminism is a singular ideology that all feminist adhere to and follow rather than an amalgaration of different women's voices about what it is to be a women.


I understand different individual women have different individual conceptions of feminism. As far as I'm concerned, that's not especially important; trying to address -- or even consider -- each individual feminist's conception of feminism is totally impossible. From a social perspective what matters is what the results of collective feminist thought are, and that's what being discussed here.

Some past feminism-driven developments have been good. Recent ones have been overwhelmingly bad. This is something I've yet to see a defender of feminism successfully dispute in this thread.

Unposter wrote:
Another crticism I have is that you seem to think that feminism is a phenomenon that destroys everything it touches. But, you don't seem to address the businesses, governments and quite often the men that have made decisions that you disagree with. You don't address why they made those decisions other than that feminism has somehow "brainwashed" various people, including men, to do its bidding. This does not seem reasonable.


I think you underestimate the political and social power feminism can bring to bear. A complete response to this objection would require too much writing; I appreciate your concern here and feel that in a serious academic venue it would need to be addressed. As much as I like writing on this forum, though, I'm not willing to write an essay on the subject.

Unposter wrote:
I still don't understand how feminism has become so powerful.


From a social perspective there is a certain strength in weakness, especially in a society like ours. By portraying women as an endlessly vulnerable and disadvantaged group (by means of propaganda like that from one of mises' earlier links), they gain substantial political and social force. No matter what gains are made, feminists will continue to insist women are at a disadvantaged, even if it means construing occasional jokes and winks as serious sexual harassment.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 6:28 am    Post subject: Re: Problem with feminism Reply with quote

Taiwantroll wrote:
Another post inspired me so I thought I would write my views...

The problem with feminism as I see it is simple, it is bad science. Perhaps that is a poor choice of words, however it is just that. It is an accepted branch of the social sciences and it has had considerable impact' on common thought.

First, the notion of a male-dominated society is flawed. It is flawed because it depends on an agreed upon definition of the term 'power'. And to define 'power', as is done is feminism, lends itself to support the outcome of any feminist research. In other words, if you define power as 'those who work and make money', then that tends to support the notion that men are in power and women are not. But why not define 'power' as 'those that have a primary role in rearing children'. Then clearly women have traditionally held more power than men. One argument is just as valid as the other.

Let's for a moment accept the common definition of 'power'. Feminism tends to suggest that in a male-dominated society men have domination over women. That seems to suggest to me that men choose to dominate women; that there is a conspiracy of sorts; a big men's club to which we all belong. Clearly that is not the case. So the opposite must be true. Men, and women for that matter, have no real choice, or very little choice in such a society. Men are pressured to adhere to social expectations just as women are. Men are pressured to be men and women to be women, according to the roles defined by the society in which they live. So clearly men cannot be blamed anymore than women can be.

Korean society is no exception. I hear how Korean women are treated so poorly by their husbands. That they must do all the work. That they have no choice. But clearly they have just as much choice as men do. They can change or not. It is as simple as that.

Your thoughts?


I studied feminism and gender studies for 4 year it's your argument that is flawed.
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BaldTeacher



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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 7:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can't believe that this is even being debated.

Then again, reason doesn't go very far these days.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 3:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

More "cherry picking":

Feminists in NYC are proposing a smart phone app which would allow women to immediately report "unwelcome advances from strange men".
http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/10/31/a-totalitarian-streak-a-mile-wide/
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 4:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

http://www.newsweek.com/2010/09/22/why-women-need-the-paycheck-fairness-act.html

Equal eh? Fox apparently lives in this equal world where woman have triumphed over sex discrimination and now are just looking to steal children from men. Only 3% of fortune 500 companies are run by women. 17% of the house of reps are women (same as the Senate). Feminism exist to further the cause of women for an equal standing in society which the clearly don't have at the moment. If you were truly so concerned about feminism running wild all over you, why not help the feminist pass the Equal Rights Amendment?
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 4:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The pay discrepancy aside (I agree it is unjust), I believe the senate, house of reps and fortune 500 CEOs can be accounted for simply by looking at the numbers of women in politics and business versus the number of men in the same fields. If women truly want equal representation in those fields, then more of them will have to start getting into those fields. There are certainly no laws preventing them from doing so.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 4:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

shifter2009 wrote:
If you were truly so concerned about feminism running wild all over you, why not help the feminist pass the Equal Rights Amendment?


The ERA is simply superfluous. Women already enjoy protection as a "discrete and insular minority" under substantive due process analysis.

State and Federal laws forbid discrimination, and passing that Paycheck Fairness Act wouldn't be aided at all by an ERA.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 5:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kuros wrote:
shifter2009 wrote:
If you were truly so concerned about feminism running wild all over you, why not help the feminist pass the Equal Rights Amendment?


The ERA is simply superfluous. Women already enjoy protection as a "discrete and insular minority" under substantive due process analysis.

State and Federal laws forbid discrimination, and passing that Paycheck Fairness Act wouldn't be aided at all by an ERA.


The point being it would likely lead to the eroding of women's protections as they would be considered entirely equal in the eyes of the law. If you want things entirely equal for men and women the ERA would actually be something you should be in favor of.
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