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[bbud656]

My girlfriend is ready to pack her bags at the slightest press release about the North. I am not in a hurry to leave and don't think the situation is as bad as she does. She really doesn't grasp the politics or history of the region. She gets calls from poorly informed family members that freak her out. I seriously think she is going to book a flight out of here without talking to me and expect me to follow. I have tried everything to get her to calm down. I know the situation isn't as predictable as I would like, but I don't feel there is a urgent need to evacuate. Any advice on handling the situation. I have tried everything, but she doesn't want to listen to reason.

[Triple007]

Sounds like her heading back home would be the best thing for you right now.

[Robert23]

I say if a woman wants to act ridiculous, then let her go. But that's just me.

Look at it this way. If she'll flee the RoK at the first sign of trouble, what does that say about her character type and how she'll react to adverse changes in your relationship?

[Hyeon Een]

Do you want to marry this crazy flighty woman and spend the rest of your life with her? If not, don't complain if.when she books a ticket. Let her go and move on.

The grass may be yellow on the other side of the fence, but it's damn good grass.

[bbud656]

it kind of pisses me off that the media back home sensationalizes everything. Her mom is probably probably having a nervous breakdown. The situation is far from perfect here, but this isnt Saigon 1975 by a long shot. Most people back home don't understand the history or politics here. *beep*, most people there probably think Korea has Panda bears and couldn't find South Korea on a map of just North and South Korea.

[brento1138]

Wow, that must be so frustrating. Uneducated people all too often refuse to educate themselves about a subject since it takes too much time and they've already made up their minds on the subject. It'll be tough for you to convince her to stay here. But keep trying.

I think you should stay put and tell her you think it is important to make decisions together and not for her to flee alone if she wants the relationship to work.

From the male perspective, it is logical and obvious to stay here: nothing is going to happen. There is a very valid reason North Korea won't go to war: they'd be utterly destroyed. That's logic. It makes good sense. If she flees, it makes no sense because there's no real possibility of war.

From the female perspective, she may be losing faith in you because of your lack of support for her worries, valid or not. It does not matter to the female whether a worry is valid or not, all that matters is your support of her. Without even knowing it herself, she may be using this as a sort of 'test' on you to see if you are willing to sacrifice leaving Korea for her. In her head, it will be "Korea or me." But I say: don't allow her to play that game with you in the first place. Stick to your guns and don't give in on this one. The worst possible thing for a man to do is give in to women in this way.

[samd]

[jdog2050]

[bbud656]

It is really frustrating because I want to be with her and I would leave with her if push came to shove because in the end this is just a job. I think it is tragedy to waste an opportunity like this over something that isn't likely to happen.

[bbud656]

I should clarify that it is a lot more than just a job and the real tragedy is missing out on the experience. However, the experience is not worth losing the relationship I am in. Hopefully she will calm down and realise what she would be giving up.

[tanklor1]

[bbud656]

Haven't heard anything that wacky, but my gfs mom keeps sending her links like we don't have access to the same internet she does.