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tomato
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: I get so little foreign language experience, I must be in Koreatown, Los Angeles.
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 Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 6:28 am Post subject: Re: a student made me feel very uncomfortable today |
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| Radius wrote: |
| the little ones, usually the girls, always try to sit on my lap and i quickly brush them off or stand up. I feel bad bc they think im dismissing them, but it just wouldnt look right if a K-teacher just happens to walk by my door. |
It's hard to predict WHAT the other teachers will think.
I once had a preschool job in which I bestowed affection on every child who wanted affection.
The other teachers accused me of using the children to gratify my own needs.
So the next time I got a preschool job, I kept my hands off.
The other teachers said, "What's the matter? Don't you have any affection for the children?" |
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chellovek
Joined: 29 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:22 am Post subject: Re: a student made me feel very uncomfortable today |
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| tomato wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
| the little ones, usually the girls, always try to sit on my lap and i quickly brush them off or stand up. I feel bad bc they think im dismissing them, but it just wouldnt look right if a K-teacher just happens to walk by my door. |
It's hard to predict WHAT the other teachers will think.
I once had a preschool job in which I bestowed affection on every child who wanted affection.
The other teachers accused me of using the children to gratify my own needs.
So the next time I got a preschool job, I kept my hands off.
The other teachers said, "What's the matter? Don't you have any affection for the children?" |
The eternal minefield of paedishness. |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 9:22 am Post subject: |
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| A tomato made me feel uncomfortable today. |
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Robbo
Joined: 05 Sep 2010
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| Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 11:57 am Post subject: |
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| Surely these kids understand "NO", right? I wouldn't have a problem reprimanding them this way. |
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NYC_Gal 2.0
Joined: 10 Dec 2010
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| Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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I get hugs from a lot of my 3rd graders, mostly girls though, but one of the boys has hugged me twice and both times put his face on my boob. The first time I though it was just a bad angle. The second time (a couple of weeks later) he said "Mmmm!" and I frowned at the other teacher and she started cracking up, but I didn't want to hurt the kid's feelings. He's sweet and hasn't even come close to puberty. I've been doing a lot more high fiving and a lot less hugging, though.  |
Classic. I don't think that males of any age are disinterested in boobs. They taught me to eat. I could never thank them enough. It's the front bum that only becomes interesting at puberty. |
Yeah, I know  The kids still seem to want the hugs, so I give them, but limit them more. It's hard not to want to hug these sweeties. |
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nathanrutledge
Joined: 01 May 2008
Location: Marakesh
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| Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 5:16 pm Post subject: |
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만지지마새요. Please don't touch.
Nothing wrong with not wanting to be touched. I have one of those "sticks of love" that the teachers use for hitting the kids. I use it for poking sleeping girls to wake them up because I do NOT want to ever have a problem or even the appearance of a problem.
Hugging young kids when there are other teachers around, okay, fine. But this just doesn't sound right. I think a simple yet stern command/request of "Please don't touch me" is appropriate. |
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gypsymaria
Joined: 08 Jun 2010
Location: Anyang-si, Gyeonggi-do
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| Posted: Fri Dec 31, 2010 8:24 am Post subject: |
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The only kid I've ever had try to hug me or even really touch me was so little he only reached my knees. What a darling. I couldn't possibly have felt offended or weirded out by that.
Most of the kids I've dealt with are pretty respectful about personal boundaries, but I think it's because I told my Korean co-teacher right away that I'm not comfortable with physical affection around kids (and she probably passed that along). The "petting" thing thoroughly creeps me out. An occasional hug is ok, but touchy-feely stuff has never been my thing.
If this kid's touching is making you uncomfortable, try telling him (gently, but firmly) to please stop it. I've had a couple of the little ones try to all but crawl up onto my lap during story time, and I've had to (very gently, and usually laughing because it really is cute) shove them over a bit. Kids are very physically affectionate in this country, it seems, more than I ever expected. They're also very curious about foreigners, sometimes to the point of rudeness (or so it seems), and some will want to touch your skin just to see if it feels different from theirs. I've had THAT before, and while it's uncomfortable, it helps to understand why.
Good luck, and I hope you and your student can come to an understanding! |
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