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[PeterDragon]

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[offtheoche]

This is standard Asian women double standard behavior. Personally, I'd give her a simple choice,

You agree to disagree and both of you don't say anything personal or negative about each other's countries whilst in the same place at the same time. If she doesn't accept this, then I'd 100% divorce her.

[Radius]

Yep, you beat me to it in your last sentence: she's in denial. I feel bad for you OP, my girlfriend at least acknowledges with me that Korean (mostly men) people are incredibly xenophobic...maybe use the word "xenophobic" from now on instead of racist. If she still gets upset, then either play hard ball with her and continue to say it, or let it go and don't talk about it anymore (I'd sooner go with the latter because I hate arguing; I'm much too lazy to put forth the physical effort to carry out an hour-long ego match.)

If she ever comes to America with me, I'll allow her to say anything she wants about my country (and I'll probably agree with her), because I'm amazed on how much she allows me to vent about her country. I put Korea down constantly, and she never gets mad.

[offtheoche]

[PeterDragon]

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[interestedinhanguk]

Has your wife ever really experienced much racism? She may very well not have (at least to a significant degree) depending on where you live. Can you bring up the point that maybe she can't judge what it's like to be discriminate against. Let's say for instance you've lived in the US for just a short time in a major city with a large Asian/Korean population. She may have no gauge.

[Lastrova]

[PeterDragon]

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[hondaicivic]

[hondaicivic]

[PeterDragon]

[PeterDragon]

[legrande]

You won't ever begin to treally understand Korean attitides toward foreigners until you take a serious (not mainstream media) look at what actually caused the war and what really went down during the conflict.

A lot of Koreans themselves don't begin to understand until they get older and outgrow the pap they were fed in school, where MacArthur is touted as their liberator and capitalism/Christianity as the only valid belief system.

Once they get to a certain age, their grandparents tell them what they and everyone had to endure. Of course, the whole thing is complicated by those who collaborated with the military gov't to advance their own interests. Hence, Koreans are always fighting with each other, especially when it comes to politics, in short, the war's actually still on in a number of ways, and foreigners inevitably get a share of the blame, whether they actually deserve any of it or not on an individual level.

But if you remain in the dark about the actual causes and consequences of the war, you are headed for difficulties, as all of your actions and outlook will be based on erroneous assumptions, and you will never truly be able to understand modern Korean society, and therefore won't be able to come to some basic understanding of many of its people.

Of course, the easy solution is to blow it off, which a lot of foreigners end up doing; I mean, why bother, right? All the adjimmas and ajossis are pathetic. Just let me make my money, mix with the few enlightened natives, do a few girls, and then right back home.

But you've married a Korean, and you've got a child who's half, so there are a few more things in the mix.

I think you'll figure it out, you seem to be a little more open-minded and forward thinking than most. So long as you don't put too much stock into the dailies and news channels/sites.

[PeterDragon]

[legrande]

don't put too much stock in the dailies regarding the Korean war and current Korean political situation. That article that Hondacivic put up has some food for thought.