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bamboozler
Joined: 18 Jan 2011
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I saw the fattest white girl today outside Jamsil Station.
Probably a good 285 pounder. A "White Whale" as we say. On top of that greasy hair and tight clothing. Four sparetires. A real keeper.
Keep your ear to the grindstone. |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 8:35 pm Post subject: |
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| BaldTeacher wrote: |
Oh yeah, someone left this comment on a blog. Don't let this become you:
A friend of mine was screwed many years ago in the same way. He married his college girlfriend shortly after graduation. She was planning on starting law school that Fall. He spent the next three years �supporting� her and even paid the portion of tuition that wasn�t covered by her scholarship. What did this hard earned work earn him? A divorce. She moved out the day after she graduated to live with one of her professors, a family law guy.
Apparently she had learned in law school that in the state they resided she would have no obligation to pay alimony even though she contributed absolutely no income to into the marriage and the husband had paid tens of thousands into her tuition. To top it off, she had taken out some students loans unknown to him and maintained those funds in a separate account with only her name on it. Despite this a judge found that those funds were marital property because she testified she used it for joint living expenses. (In actuality she used it for a spring break trip with the girls where she bopped two different guys and a lot of designer clothes.)
So what did three years of supporting his wife get this beta provider? 40% of her debt, 60% of his retirement, and 60% of his savings. (Don�t worry the battle axe wielding feminist judge showed compassion by making the distribution 60/40 in his favor to compensate for the fact he paid her tuition.) Oh and he got stuck with part of her legal tab too. You know who represented her? The family law prof. So, the beta provider served as nothing more than both a convenient scholarship and loan repayment service.
I lost contact with the friend a few years back, but I did hear that eventually an appeals court benchslapped the trial judge for her ruling. I don�t know if on remand he got a better deal, but I would hope for the sake of humanity he did.
Moral of the story. 1) Don�t get married, 2) If you get married keep separate finances, 3)make a spouse fund her own education either through her savings or loans solely in her name, 4) or better yet get a pre-nup. |
5) Don't marry a lawyer or anyone studying to become one. |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 9:02 pm Post subject: Re: Those Married to Koreans: Do You Miss Western Girls? |
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| Radius wrote: |
I've wondered for those that are married to Koreans girls, do you miss a girl that shares your own culture and language? A girl that can relate to you and understand your slightest attempt at humor and all of the nuances of the English language? Be honest.
Ive been dating a Korean girl for a year, and I was wondering what it would be like to take the next step maybe sometime down the road. |
OP, I don't think you're ready to be married yet.
But to answer your question anyway, no. Which is why I'm here. But I remember feeling the way you do now when I was in Japan. It was a big deal to me then, but when I did go back to the west, found that no one there really shared my culture either.
Only thing I missed was blond hair. That's it. |
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Radius
Joined: 20 Dec 2009
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| Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 10:41 pm Post subject: Re: Those Married to Koreans: Do You Miss Western Girls? |
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| isitts wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
I've wondered for those that are married to Koreans girls, do you miss a girl that shares your own culture and language? A girl that can relate to you and understand your slightest attempt at humor and all of the nuances of the English language? Be honest.
Ive been dating a Korean girl for a year, and I was wondering what it would be like to take the next step maybe sometime down the road. |
OP, I don't think you're ready to be married yet.
But to answer your question anyway, no. Which is why I'm here. But I remember feeling the way you do now when I was in Japan. It was a big deal to me then, but when I did go back to the west, found that no one there really shared my culture either.
Only thing I missed was blond hair. That's it. |
Well, Im nearly 30 years old, and have been engaged once in America. I'd say I'm about as ready as they come... |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 12:32 am Post subject: Re: Those Married to Koreans: Do You Miss Western Girls? |
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| Radius wrote: |
| isitts wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
I've wondered for those that are married to Koreans girls, do you miss a girl that shares your own culture and language? A girl that can relate to you and understand your slightest attempt at humor and all of the nuances of the English language? Be honest.
Ive been dating a Korean girl for a year, and I was wondering what it would be like to take the next step maybe sometime down the road. |
OP, I don't think you're ready to be married yet.
But to answer your question anyway, no. Which is why I'm here. But I remember feeling the way you do now when I was in Japan. It was a big deal to me then, but when I did go back to the west, found that no one there really shared my culture either.
Only thing I missed was blond hair. That's it. |
Well, Im nearly 30 years old, and have been engaged once in America. I'd say I'm about as ready as they come... |
Sorry. I didn't mean that the way it sounded.
Um...I talked to my Japanese co-teacher's husband (American) about cross cultural marriage. I'd asked him the same thing you're asking. He said some of the language/cultural barriers are always there. But in some ways, it gave them less to argue about. |
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Radius
Joined: 20 Dec 2009
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| Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 1:20 am Post subject: Re: Those Married to Koreans: Do You Miss Western Girls? |
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| isitts wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
| isitts wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
I've wondered for those that are married to Koreans girls, do you miss a girl that shares your own culture and language? A girl that can relate to you and understand your slightest attempt at humor and all of the nuances of the English language? Be honest.
Ive been dating a Korean girl for a year, and I was wondering what it would be like to take the next step maybe sometime down the road. |
OP, I don't think you're ready to be married yet.
But to answer your question anyway, no. Which is why I'm here. But I remember feeling the way you do now when I was in Japan. It was a big deal to me then, but when I did go back to the west, found that no one there really shared my culture either.
Only thing I missed was blond hair. That's it. |
Well, Im nearly 30 years old, and have been engaged once in America. I'd say I'm about as ready as they come... |
Sorry. I didn't mean that the way it sounded.
Um...I talked to my Japanese co-teacher's husband (American) about cross cultural marriage. I'd asked him the same thing you're asking. He said some of the language/cultural barriers are always there. But in some ways, it gave them less to argue about. |
You know, he's exactly right. I've noticed this also.
Dating a Western girl is sort of like dating your sister (in a way) because you know each other really well and know how to push their buttons, whereas if you would say the same things to a Korean girl she may not react the same way or it could just totally go over her head completely. That IS a good thing. |
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