Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Isehtis]

So I've been here for a month now, and have been dating a lot (I was told it was easier here, but didn't realize it was this much easier...) And I've got it down to a handful of potential candidates, with varying levels of English ability.

In the next few weeks, I'm considering picking one and moving things towards a long term relationship, I wanted to hear from people who've been in relationships with girls who don't have good English ability to see how much of an impact it made, and whether or not anyone's had any good experiences.

I don't speak Korean, and have no intention of mastering the language, but I will learn enough to hold a basic conversation. All those that I've dated so far have told me that they want to learn English properly- I don't know how long that takes though.

[northway]

Having dated a couple girls for about six months in my time here, I can say that English ability is pretty crucial. That's not to say that perfection is a necessity, but the more ability to communicate you have the less likely you are to get bored with the person. Having dated one girl whose conversational ability was less than fantastic and another who has passed TEFL, communication is a lot easier with my current girlfriend, personalities aside. Also, don't be surprised if their English doesn't improve much, unless they're really committed and studying simultaneously.

In any case, this is all pretty much common sense.

[Dazed and Confused]

My husband spoke barely passable English when we first met. I didn't speak a word of Korean. I think the first year (or more) was fueled by physical intimacy more than anything else. As time went by, his English skills improved to the point where he is now bilingual and I'm still struggling with Korean. Granted it took him about 5 years to get his English to a level where he could win an argument against me. OHHHH how I miss the days of getting what I want all the time.

[Panda]

[Zackback]

I love meeting Korean girls who can't speak any English. Those are the most exciting to hang out with!

[red_devil]

If you can't understand each other it's not a relationship. It's just sex.

[Globutron]

Haha. It's utterly astounding that anybody could even consider it past a week of sex. I'm completely befuddled by the concept. A year? FIVE years?? Holy cripes.

It's like what I said about most TV shows. Watch enough of anything and your brain makes you like it, regardless. Working a job in horrible situations may seem ok after a while, but then you find better and realise what crap you've been going through.

Surely Love can't come out of no communication... Actually I'm not even suggesting uncertainty. It's impossible.

Arrrgh.

[ssuprnova]

Just multi-date and have lots of fun. The 20-somethings that can't speak English aren't exactly looking for a serious relationship, much less with a foreigner.

[sirius black]

[RMNC]

[redaxe]

[goniff]

my most successful relationships have been with girls who have had limited english language skills

in every case one of the words they didn't know was "no"

[Globutron]

Yeah, I've been told 'no' but it was more like 'no... NO... NO!!!'

[AmericanBornKorean]

I'm semi-fluent in Korean and dated a Korean-only speaking girl. It lead to huge problems. But she was also a bit psycho, too. Conveying humor is tough, and carrying on a conversation while busting out a dictionary half the time can get annoying.

[mfsnakesmfplane]

I prefer women that dont speak english. you can teach them what you need (kitchen, bedroom)