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Steelrails

Joined: 12 Mar 2009 Location: Earth, Solar System
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 3:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Lastrova wrote: |
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I get the same vibe from griper NETs. Fortunately most NETs, and from my experience, most Koreans are much more laid back. And even if you do something that ticks them off momentarily, they are willing to forgive and forget.
Don't get me wrong though, Seoul like any big city, is pretty cold and a near-meatgrinder. That's why I like living in the boonies. |
Oh, I got you wrong, all right. You may not like my reality, which is a very sane one, but then, yours is a fragile ego. And you're Korean. I'm sure you fit right in. |
Uhm, first off, go re-read what I wrote. I was accepting that there are a good many rude people in Seoul, after all it IS a big city.
As for what made the people rude, you said coldness ( I think you were pretty cold just now), whispers spoken to colleagues (I think these postings on Dave's would qualify), puffed up nationalistic, xenophobic veneer (I think your bit about me being ethnically Korean qualifies), an inability to accept any kind of difference (again, your assertion that me being ethnically Korean somehow disqualifies me from this discussion), and this feeling of stubbornness and pride that is so obvious (again your attitude).
I tried walking on eggshells with you and you still flipped out.
Now, I may not be the king of tenderheartedness on this forum, in fact I'd be quite the villain of it. But before you label a large swath of people as rude, make sure you aren't engaging in the same behavior yourself.
And I still maintain that some NETs (as I said before, a small minority, but a visible one on these boards suffers from exactly what you wrote. I wouldn't be surprised if many of them live in Seoul. Big cities make people jerks.)
And yes, Seoul is more unique in the parts I didn't highlight- The pushiness in crowded areas, bad traffic, etc.
Then again Seoul has probably the politest panhandlers in Korea. And I avoid the rudeness of there being a large no-go zone where if I walk around at 2AM I'm liable to be robbed at weaponpoint. |
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Mr. BlackCat

Joined: 30 Nov 2005 Location: Insert witty remark HERE
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 7:47 pm Post subject: |
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Obviously a poll like this is unscientific and not only is 'rudeness' culturally specific but we all have different definitions as well. For myself, I would define rudeness as making others around you uncomfortable for no good reason and only thinking of yourself while putting others in unncesscary duress. Based on that, I have to say Seoul is one of the rudest cities I have ever been in. It's all ME ME ME FIRST!!! shove shove, spit, shove, stand in a doorway talking on my phone, shove, shove shove, screaming loudspeakers, etc. Neighbours being unreasonably loud at all hours, cars driving on the sidewalk honking at pedestrians. At the same time, customer service goes above and beyond usually and once a Korean gets to know you they will generally be very polite.
Toronto may be the rudest Canadian city, but the fact that it's listed above any pick of a dozen American cities discredits the whole exercise, in my opinion. If you've been to Philly or DC or LA and then go to Toronto you'll feel relieved. And this isn't typical US bashing on the part of Canadian superiority. Many American cities are fine, much better than Toronto, but the ones I listed along with several others, are definitely not.
I was just in Toronto and while I was waiting for a bus more and more people showed up. After living in Korea for so many years I got ready to shove my way to the front when the bus came, but at that time everyone filed into a civil line and patiently boarded the bus. A young man immediately gave his seat to a middle aged woman and the driver waited for everyone to be safely on board and then proceded to not blindly re-enter traffic and even stopped at red lights. Amazing. Personally I find Montreal to be terrific. People are warm and friendly for the most part. I also didn't have a problem with Paris at all. I find people who do have a problem with these cities go more on stereotypes than reality. The French are rude, it's a given. Montreal isn't perfect, but I don't really see how it's any more rude than a similar sized city. To the poster who said that people who think Montreal isn't rude probably just found a girl one summer, I have to say in my experience people who did find it rude were the ones (usually from Toronto or the US) who visited over spring break, got angry that people spoke French, went to really bad cheesy clubs and got annoyingly drunk/high, got ignored by the girls and then spent the next day roaming Old Montreal hungover and complaining about how expensive it was. |
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eamo

Joined: 08 Mar 2003 Location: Shepherd's Bush, 1964.
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 8:03 pm Post subject: |
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Easy. Paris. By a long shot. Parisiennes hate tourists. Especially English-speaking ones. So their rudeness is a more pre-meditated, malevolent rudeness.
Seoulites, on the other hand, although they don't always observe basic manners, whether that be western manners or their own, do so in a much more oblivious way. People are so very rarely called out for their bad manners here. So people have got used to ignoring what they know is polite if it doesn't suit them, or they are in a rush, or if they think they are richer or more important than the next person.
But never, never make the mistake that manners are all cultural and relative. When Koreans are being bad-mannered, they know they are. Spitting on the sidewalk, smoking in peoples faces, talking too loudly on the phone, pushing into the elevator before others get out, not saying sorry when you bump into someone......etc.....all these things are well known by virtually all Koreans to be bad manners. |
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Lastrova
Joined: 30 Dec 2010
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 9:28 pm Post subject: |
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| Steelrails wrote: |
I tried walking on eggshells with you and you still flipped out.
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You sure are long winded. I didn't bother reading your post. I already know what kind of person you are. You're a fixture here for Pete's sakes. And I didn't flip out. I really couldn't give a toss. My assessment still holds true. And you can write till you're blue in the face. |
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Steelrails

Joined: 12 Mar 2009 Location: Earth, Solar System
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Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 10:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Lastrova wrote: |
| Steelrails wrote: |
I tried walking on eggshells with you and you still flipped out.
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You sure are long winded. I didn't bother reading your post. I already know what kind of person you are. You're a fixture here for Pete's sakes. And I didn't flip out. I really couldn't give a toss. My assessment still holds true. And you can write till you're blue in the face. |
In other words that "logic" and "reading" stuff is too much for you, so you'll just resort to personal insults and asserting that what you say is true because you say it is.
I don't think writing something in 300 words or less makes me long winded. Someone who thinks that is long winded has the attention span of a child. |
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enchoo

Joined: 04 Jul 2004 Location: Heading to a reality show near you
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Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 7:22 am Post subject: I second tealeeds observations. |
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I was given six different directions when asking locals. I was told to go to a restaurant to exchange money then they said sorry we don't do that. I exchanged money in an official location with 50% commission. I tapped on a man's shoulder to ask for directions and he was wiping his shoulder as if I put dust on it. Subways are $4 and buses are $2. I guess they never forget the American Revolution.
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1. London
2. London
3. London
4. London
5. London
6. London
7. London
8. London
9 = London
9 = Paris
never ask for directions in london. never ask for change. never ask for your photo to be taken. never ask about student discount. never ask what admission price is. never say 'excuse me, please' if someone is stood in your way. never ask if the seat next to someone on a bus is free. and before you get on the bus, never ask what bus to take, let alone when it might come.... never verbally interact with a person you dont know in london, no matter how good your intentions.
unless of course, you are a lowlife degenerate with some bloody cheek to interrupt a londoners busy lifestyle for even 30 seconds. then you can, but you will be treated as such. |
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goniff
Joined: 31 Dec 2007
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Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 8:22 am Post subject: |
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as the song says:
"Ain't no love in the heart of the city"
(my favourite version was Cafe Jacques) |
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Junior

Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Location: the eye
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Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 8:46 am Post subject: |
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Seoul doesn't seem to be as rude as it used to be. A few years back it was hardcore.. blatant barging, shoving, gobsmacking, rudeness. The death stares and constant allergic reactions to foreigners. The bald-faced xenephobia.
Now its a bit more chilled. Or maybe I just got used to it. |
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allovertheplace
Joined: 02 Aug 2009
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 8:03 pm Post subject: |
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why does Rio get roman numerals why everyone else has to settle for boring numbers?
Thus rio is the worst because they think they are special. |
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Lastrova
Joined: 30 Dec 2010
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 10:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Steelrails wrote: |
In other words that "logic" and "reading" stuff is too much for you, so you'll just resort to personal insults and asserting that what you say is true because you say it is.
I don't think writing something in 300 words or less makes me long winded. Someone who thinks that is long winded has the attention span of a child. |
You're just boring, dude. You ramble. You repeat yourself ad nauseum. Betcha I've read more "stuff" than you have. And I'm still right because I said so. And because you're boring. |
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earthquakez
Joined: 10 Nov 2010
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 10:59 pm Post subject: |
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If I were a Londoner, I'd be perpetually pissed as well.
After all, you're living in a preposterously overpriced city that gets maybe 60 days of sun during the year and you're surrounded by millions and millions of unattractive people each and every day. The only attractive ones are immigrants and tourists, fortunately there are plenty of both in London, otherwise it'd become suicidal.
(and yes, I've been there)
Seoul isn't rude at all. You're essentially ignored for the most part and the "personal questions" is simply a cultural difference. Amongst themselves Koreans don't find such questions nosy.
Paris remains the "gold standard", at least in the developed world, but you'd be amazed at how this can change if you can speak decent French with at least somewhat proper pronunciation. ( < reference to Americans) |
Ha, yes as a Londoner I will admit your truths except for the exaggeration abou the non attractiveness of the natives. There are plenty of hot women in London who are not immigrants, I'm thinking of the classic look along the lines of how Emma Watson (Harry Potter) will look in her late 20s. Plenty of gorgeous tall, classic fair women along with the hot women from African/Indian etc backgrounds.
As far as tourists are concerned though - dowdy mainland Chinese tourist groups dressed in tracksuits shoving their cameras everywhere don't do anything for me, and a lot of tourists from elsewhere turn up looking as if they're dressed to trek through a muddy field.
I disagree about Koreans - if you don't know somebody you don't ask them personal questions, even if they're acquaintances it's not appropriate in many cases. Personal questions among peers is different, in your in-group etc.
I agree about Paris and France. Speak French with a decent accent and know enough to get around without bothering people and you usually have few problems. |
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Steelrails

Joined: 12 Mar 2009 Location: Earth, Solar System
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Posted: Tue Jan 25, 2011 11:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Lastrova wrote: |
| Steelrails wrote: |
In other words that "logic" and "reading" stuff is too much for you, so you'll just resort to personal insults and asserting that what you say is true because you say it is.
I don't think writing something in 300 words or less makes me long winded. Someone who thinks that is long winded has the attention span of a child. |
You're just boring, dude. You ramble. You repeat yourself ad nauseum. Betcha I've read more "stuff" than you have. And I'm still right because I said so. And because you're boring. |
Well as long as you put it that way, I'm fine with that. |
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Vagabundo
Joined: 26 Aug 2010
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 12:56 am Post subject: |
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| allovertheplace wrote: |
why does Rio get roman numerals why everyone else has to settle for boring numbers?
Thus rio is the worst because they think they are special. |
Rio, as in Rio de Janeiro?
is on this list?
preposterous nonsense.
with possible exceptions of the posh neighborhoods in Zona Sul like Ipanema and Leblon, where the upper and upper middle class Brazilians are predispositioned to be anti American, but a little language facility goes a long way. |
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Vagabundo
Joined: 26 Aug 2010
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 12:59 am Post subject: |
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| earthquakez wrote: |
| Vagabundo wrote: |
If I were a Londoner, I'd be perpetually pissed as well.
After all, you're living in a preposterously overpriced city that gets maybe 60 days of sun during the year and you're surrounded by millions and millions of unattractive people each and every day. The only attractive ones are immigrants and tourists, fortunately there are plenty of both in London, otherwise it'd become suicidal.
(and yes, I've been there)
Seoul isn't rude at all. You're essentially ignored for the most part and the "personal questions" is simply a cultural difference. Amongst themselves Koreans don't find such questions nosy.
Paris remains the "gold standard", at least in the developed world, but you'd be amazed at how this can change if you can speak decent French with at least somewhat proper pronunciation. ( < reference to Americans) |
Ha, yes as a Londoner I will admit your truths except for the exaggeration abou the non attractiveness of the natives. There are plenty of hot women in London who are not immigrants, I'm thinking of the classic look along the lines of how Emma Watson (Harry Potter) will look in her late 20s. Plenty of gorgeous tall, classic fair women along with the hot women from African/Indian etc backgrounds.
As far as tourists are concerned though - dowdy mainland Chinese tourist groups dressed in tracksuits shoving their cameras everywhere don't do anything for me, and a lot of tourists from elsewhere turn up looking as if they're dressed to trek through a muddy field.
I disagree about Koreans - if you don't know somebody you don't ask them personal questions, even if they're acquaintances it's not appropriate in many cases. Personal questions among peers is different, in your in-group etc.
I agree about Paris and France. Speak French with a decent accent and know enough to get around without bothering people and you usually have few problems. |
the Emma Watsons are diamonds on the rough. You could be correct about the Caribbean element and I'm sure there are some fine ones among the Pakistanis as well, but most of them look like Prince Charles and Camilla.
hottest women walking around I saw were either Eastern European or French students/tourists
of course this was a good 12 years ago. Perhaps things have changed but I somehow doubt it. |
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WilliamThomas
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Posted: Wed Jan 26, 2011 9:56 am Post subject: |
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| to be fair I live in London and havent dated someone English for like 3 years.. its all about the swedes and thankfully there are loads in London. |
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