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[sirius black]

[sirius black]

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I don't know about that...most of the attractive western women generally had boyfriends who looked decent or alright IMO.

Quite a few come with ones.

I'm not sure why any reasonable women would come to Korea solely for money with next to no expectations of dating any local. Sounds likes a real prize


Also, quite a few of those single attrative women people mention here are dating Koreans.

I remember during SMOE orientation, the asian guys got laid like bandits.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I think girls aren't so eager to yell out their yellow/jungle/brownie/ fever around guys.

I know korean women who like white foreigners exclusively who make it a point to hide that fact around me(I'm not white). So I wouldn't expect white women to name drop their K-boyfriends around most male expats they meet casually.

I'm susprised how many had k-boyfriends....some just don't date them any more becuase it was difficult.

[humlae]

I agree with the people who suggested joining a group based on your interests. I've also found that I've met a lot of people in my 'local' area of Seoul just by going to the gym, my regular cafe etc and smiling and I think therefore looking approachable.
Seoul is definitely harder to meet people than smaller cities where there are more close knit expat communities, but much easier to meet Koreans who are very open minded (IMO).

I'm engaged to a Korean guy and we've been together for two years. We met through a mutual friend just randomly out one night, and I do think that if he hadn't been drinking already then he probably wouldn't have been quite as relaxed and easy to talk to as he was. We did really hit it off from the beginning and it was particularly because we share a love of travel and got talking about a lot of the same countries that we'd been to. Definitely meeting someone with common interests and great sense of humour was the most important factor for both of us.

Overall, I've found that I am approached more often here than at home by both Westerners and Koreans. I've met awesome guys and tools from both camps....so it just seems to be humanity, though I do find that these days (maybe I'm getting older), but Western guys seem to be getting worse with their behaviour here. When I first came to Korea (2008) I met a bunch of awesome people who came for the fun and adventure of living in another country and gaining the added bonus of being paid to do it. These days those people are hard to find, it's all just about the money and ease of the work.

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[Paddycakes]

Once you've had black, you never go back.

[Seoulman69]

So when the guy lived in his home country he couldn't get laid,

therefore he came to a country where he would get laid.

Seems pretty clever to me.

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[NYC_Gal 2.0]

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[blackinque]

K-dudes feel inferior to western women. K-girls also feel the same towards western men, but that is a normal thing in a relationship as far as Asian culture goes, k-girls can cling to their oppa for protection. However, I guess for a K-man, being the dominating figure when put up against a western woman is difficult. To put it simple, they're often shy, insecure about their looks, about their English skill etc.

A few k-men I've asked about this said they don't think western women have any reason to be attracted to them. They lose their inhibitions fairly quickly in clubs though, so a good bet for girls is a night in a fairly high-rated Gangnam club. The ones that charge 20~30k won per entrance and are usually full of Koreans.

[def PD]

I think being an attractive female (in Korea) is kind of a double-edged sword. One one hand, they have their pick of the litter, but for many guys they'll just be intimidated or too scared to approach them.

The unattractive female however has to work her ass off to get a guy to notice and talk to them.

Maybe you ladies need to do a little "work" and approach the guy(s) instead, take the initiative. Korean guys aren't the most aggressive (if that's what you're looking for). I know for me personally when a girl starts talking to me it immediate takes the edge off. A lot of guys actually prefer it (even if they deny it).

Beyond that I wouldn't know the first place for a girl to try and find a decent guy would be. Although I did hear about this thing called, "booking" which is supposed to be all the rage there. j/j

What's the mindset like for people finding dates online in Korea? I'm genuinely curious. I have no intention on doing that sort of thing but I am interested in maybe doing the language exchange thing since I'd like to up my abysmal Korean.