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ZIFA
Joined: 23 Feb 2011
Location: Dici che il fiume..Trova la via al mare
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 Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 9:21 am Post subject: The real reason men dump women |
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Lol. Thought this was kinda funny. Seems pretty accurate.
But it also makes me glad I'm away from all the angst of the western dating scene. Particularly when you read some of the comments below the article.
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the REAL three reasons men dump girls�
Oats
A common complaint from mates of mine in relationships is that they haven�t slept with enough people. It�s undoubtedly one of the stupidest reasons for splitting up with someone, while also being one of the most popular.
What a chap deems �enough people� can vary wildly � it might be 5 or 50. Either way, many men have a strong sense they are entitled to a quota of sex during their lifetime, and that a girlfriend presents an unfair barrier between him and other vaginas.
This isn�t just about regret; it can also have a tangible effect on a relationship. For instance, a man who feels he has oats to sow is more likely to lust agonisingly over random hot girls, and therefore be more likely to cheat if the opportunity arises.
Sometimes men leave relationships to get this feeling �out of his system�. But the plan is normally flawed, firstly because he won�t know when he�s reached his �quota�, and secondly because there�s no guarantee any other women will want to have sex with him anyway.
In summary, there are few better examples of how men are misguided by the petty need to despatch the contents of their testes over a wide area. But it could be worse... they could try doing it and NOT dump you.
Don�t fancy them anymore
Sexual attraction in men can be as fickle as cats. Just because he�s desperate to have his grubby way with a girl when he meets her, it doesn�t mean that interest will be sustained. Various things can disrupt a man�s mojo from a dodgy new haircut to an unexpected fart. Or most commonly, familiarity and boredom.
Whatever the reason, once a man�s sexual gratification is compromised he will deem it a legitimate reason to flee. But men are incapable of telling a woman they don�t fancy them anymore because they fear her head may literally fall off with shame. I don't know, would it?
Never liked them in first place
Men commonly become embroiled in serious relationships with girls who fall some way short of their idea of perfection. Quite often they�ll marry them and create delightful children. But if a get-out clause or a better option presents itself along the way, it will be gobbled up.
Geezers will draw on an array of elaborate excuses to explain this apparently sudden change of heart but in truth they would always have been secretly eyeing an escape, like a much-loved budgie in a chain-smoking pensioner�s living room.
Of course, this doesn�t mean that once they spread their wings and go it alone, they won't regret it.
http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/love-sex/the-real-reasons-men-dump-women-blog-34-dan-juan.html |
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Louis VI
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
Location: In my Kingdom
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 3:51 pm Post subject: |
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Hogwash.
I dated my high school sweetheart for four years and wanted to marry her but university took us in different directions and later it was too late to get back together as she had married someone else.
All through the animal kingdom one can find those who mate for life: primates like gibbons, wolves, coyotes, beavers, bald eagles and plenty of other birds like albatrosses, pigeons, turtle doves and of course swans, fish like the French angelfish, even some rodents like the prairie voles, and microscopic organisms like schistosoma mansoni worms. So it should be no surprise that among humans there are some more inclined to mating and others not.
Some guys want to sleep around, others are happy with one woman. It really depends on the man and the relationship. The article is overly simplistic and reads like the thoughts of a Grade 9 student. |
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Zackback
Joined: 05 Nov 2010
Location: Kyungbuk
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 5:03 pm Post subject: |
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The real reason for me is that once I get INVOLVED they just nag and nag.
I just keep things on a superficial level as long as I can but once it starts getting to "committed" I know for sure it's time for me to leave. |
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ESL Milk "Everyday
Joined: 12 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 5:29 pm Post subject: |
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| I also thought it was pretty accurate. |
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Kaypea
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 7:56 pm Post subject: |
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| It sounds similar to reasons why I've broken up to guys. There's nothing wrong with him, it's just that I'm not in it for the long haul. Not rocket science, and not surprising! |
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CtotheB
Joined: 03 Sep 2010
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 9:34 pm Post subject: |
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| The sex isn't good enough. If it's mindblowing, then you'll stay with that girl no matter what. |
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legrande
Joined: 23 Nov 2010
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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| CtotheB wrote: |
| The sex isn't good enough. If it's mindblowing, then you'll stay with that girl no matter what. |
Not if she's psycho. |
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ZIFA
Joined: 23 Feb 2011
Location: Dici che il fiume..Trova la via al mare
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Kaypea wrote: |
| It sounds similar to reasons why I've broken up to guys. There's nothing wrong with him, it's just that I'm not in it for the long haul. Not rocket science, and not surprising! |
Thats it with me too. When I've said "its not you, its me" then I have meant it. I like my freedom too much.
But still..strikes me that the real reasons for break-ups are rarely confided. Certainly in the instances when I've been dumped. |
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CtotheB
Joined: 03 Sep 2010
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| Posted: Tue May 10, 2011 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| legrande wrote: |
| Not if she's psycho. |
Naw, even if she's psycho, as long as she's a freak it's okay. |
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DorkothyParker
Joined: 11 Apr 2009
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Wed May 11, 2011 2:26 am Post subject: |
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| For instance, a man who feels he has oats to sow is more likely to lust agonisingly over random hot girls, and therefore be more likely to cheat if the opportunity arises. |
I am too lazy to find it, but on livescience.com there was an article a ways back regarding flirtation. When an attractive woman flirts with a man, he will begin to doubt his relationship (not always, but they measured it in some way that social scientists do). When an attractive man flirts with a woman, this will solidify her relationship. They speculate it's because it raises her self-esteem and is just a solid ego boost all around.
From a female perspective, it seemed legit.[/quote] |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Wed May 11, 2011 4:27 am Post subject: |
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While the western dating scene can be grotesque if done with the wrong people, I think I'd rather take my chances there considering here it seems that doing anything with a woman means that she expects a marriage proposal.
Of course, I've just arrived recently and have yet to be exposed to the young'ens but from the distance I'm at now, I can see all the wanting of wealth, looks, and power.
All - in - all, no matter where I go, finding a woman worthy of my communication will be difficult. |
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