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MollyBloom · Joined: 21 Jul 2006 Location: James Joyce's pants

This goes for good friends and family; when do you muster up the courage to say something that will potentially hurt their feelings? What is appropriate to bring up, and what should you keep quiet forever? Sometimes there's a point in a relationship where you feel you can't take it anymore, and some things need to be said. Or, do you never take this route, always be the "good person," and keep quiet as to not hurt them? I'm interested in your opinions.

morrisonhotel · Joined: 18 Jul 2009 Location: Gyeonggi-do

I'm generally a very blunt person. If something needs said, I don't shy away.

NYC_Gal 2.0 · Joined: 10 Dec 2010

It really does depend on each individual situation. I know that with my parents, I can be pretty blunt, but I also know when it's better to just keep my mouth shut and say what they want to hear.

If someone is in a bad situation, I'll let them know. I wait until I have enough details, but sometimes people need to hear the truth. I know from experience that people put up their own blinders. Hell, I did it for years.

Bibbitybop · Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Location: Seoul

Molly, you can say anything you want to my face. I know my overeating bothers you, and I know you hate it when I leave my gym socks on your coffee table, but that's just me. I won't change for you or anybody else.

MollyBloom · Joined: 21 Jul 2006 Location: James Joyce's pants

Bibbitybop · Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Location: Seoul

cert43 · Joined: 17 Jun 2010

Hell yeah...I LIVE to shame people...already told The "Family" what they "were" a long time ago

but now "ellie glumac" is such a "horrible awful person" who needs to go to 'therapy' and be 'diagonsed" with some kinda 'manic disorder" all because she drove to CA ( instead of flying) in her 'fathers car" all because she wanted a life that didn't involve her "mothers" criticism

OMG!!! What a horrible thing for her to do!!!How "dare she" expect 'more" for her life?

Live on Nazi Live on

ZIFA · Posted: Wed May 25, 2011 9:12 am Post subject:

Just delete them off facebook.
They'll figure it out.

sadguy · Joined: 13 Feb 2011

DorkothyParker · Joined: 11 Apr 2009 Location: Jeju

I ask my parents about their health and I make suggestions for improvements in their diets. I don't really know what kind of truth a person would need. I'm not friends with meth addicts so I figure they're fine enough.

Edit: I was having some stresses with my husband regarding alcohol consumption and weight gain. I tried bringing it up from many angles (non-chalant, tough love, gentle concern, etc) and no matter what it started an argument. I turned my focus inward and I think he is being influenced by my example. Also, my refusal to eat "bad" foods limits his ability to eat unhealthily. So, again, lead by example maybe?