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brento1138
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| sirius black wrote: |
Totally dsagree with posters that said don't leave. First, its your life. For whatever reason a move to Korea is good for YOU. Staying and putting yourself in a lesser position for someone is WORSE.
If your relationship is strong it will endure it. If it can't, then its best you find out now rather than later. Marriage or someone that is marriage material should be stronger than a year in Korea. I know people when I was in HS who went to a lesser school so they could be with a girl and the relationship still didn't last. The person gave up a prestigious uni for someone. NEVER let anyone be too important for what is best for you right now. After you are married, yes, comproimise on things but if you're not married you should be thinking of what is best for you and your bf should want that for you IF he truly loves you.
Modern technology makes it easier to have a long disance relationship, get a camera phone for your skype. Both of you save and plan to have him visit you here.
Strong marriages and relationships have lasted military tours in Iraq and Afghanistan, different colleges, etc. A strong one should last a year in Korea. If it lasts your relationship should be even stronger. If it doesn't it may an indication it would probably have not survived eventually. |
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Sirius black knows wassup. |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2011 7:32 pm Post subject: |
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djlee
Joined: 05 Apr 2011
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2011 7:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I like how this thread went off onto a tangent about her long term relationship instead of actually helping her nervousness or informing her about Korea. |
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mkpopcorn
Joined: 22 Apr 2011
Location: Oregon
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| Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2011 8:13 pm Post subject: |
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| sirius black wrote: |
Totally dsagree with posters that said don't leave. First, its your life. For whatever reason a move to Korea is good for YOU. Staying and putting yourself in a lesser position for someone is WORSE.
If your relationship is strong it will endure it. If it can't, then its best you find out now rather than later. Marriage or someone that is marriage material should be stronger than a year in Korea. I know people when I was in HS who went to a lesser school so they could be with a girl and the relationship still didn't last. The person gave up a prestigious uni for someone. NEVER let anyone be too important for what is best for you right now. After you are married, yes, comproimise on things but if you're not married you should be thinking of what is best for you and your bf should want that for you IF he truly loves you.
Modern technology makes it easier to have a long disance relationship, get a camera phone for your skype. Both of you save and plan to have him visit you here.
Strong marriages and relationships have lasted military tours in Iraq and Afghanistan, different colleges, etc. A strong one should last a year in Korea. If it lasts your relationship should be even stronger. If it doesn't it may an indication it would probably have not survived eventually. |
Thanks! This helps a lot! He does want me to go, because he knows it is what is what I want and what is best for me...and I do think that he is marriage material and that we will last. He is coming for almost 2 weeks in December, so I will see him. Thanks so much for your advice sirius, it helps and makes me feel better! |
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mkpopcorn
Joined: 22 Apr 2011
Location: Oregon
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| Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2011 8:13 pm Post subject: |
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| sirius black wrote: |
Totally dsagree with posters that said don't leave. First, its your life. For whatever reason a move to Korea is good for YOU. Staying and putting yourself in a lesser position for someone is WORSE.
If your relationship is strong it will endure it. If it can't, then its best you find out now rather than later. Marriage or someone that is marriage material should be stronger than a year in Korea. I know people when I was in HS who went to a lesser school so they could be with a girl and the relationship still didn't last. The person gave up a prestigious uni for someone. NEVER let anyone be too important for what is best for you right now. After you are married, yes, comproimise on things but if you're not married you should be thinking of what is best for you and your bf should want that for you IF he truly loves you.
Modern technology makes it easier to have a long disance relationship, get a camera phone for your skype. Both of you save and plan to have him visit you here.
Strong marriages and relationships have lasted military tours in Iraq and Afghanistan, different colleges, etc. A strong one should last a year in Korea. If it lasts your relationship should be even stronger. If it doesn't it may an indication it would probably have not survived eventually. |
Thanks! This helps a lot! He does want me to go, because he knows it is what is what I want and what is best for me...and I do think that he is marriage material and that we will last. He is coming for almost 2 weeks in December, so I will see him. Thanks so much for your advice sirius, it helps and makes me feel better! |
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mkpopcorn
Joined: 22 Apr 2011
Location: Oregon
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| Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2011 8:13 pm Post subject: |
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| sirius black wrote: |
Totally dsagree with posters that said don't leave. First, its your life. For whatever reason a move to Korea is good for YOU. Staying and putting yourself in a lesser position for someone is WORSE.
If your relationship is strong it will endure it. If it can't, then its best you find out now rather than later. Marriage or someone that is marriage material should be stronger than a year in Korea. I know people when I was in HS who went to a lesser school so they could be with a girl and the relationship still didn't last. The person gave up a prestigious uni for someone. NEVER let anyone be too important for what is best for you right now. After you are married, yes, comproimise on things but if you're not married you should be thinking of what is best for you and your bf should want that for you IF he truly loves you.
Modern technology makes it easier to have a long disance relationship, get a camera phone for your skype. Both of you save and plan to have him visit you here.
Strong marriages and relationships have lasted military tours in Iraq and Afghanistan, different colleges, etc. A strong one should last a year in Korea. If it lasts your relationship should be even stronger. If it doesn't it may an indication it would probably have not survived eventually. |
Thanks! This helps a lot! He does want me to go, because he knows it is what is what I want and what is best for me...and I do think that he is marriage material and that we will last. He is coming for almost 2 weeks in December, so I will see him. Thanks so much for your advice sirius, it helps and makes me feel better! |
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bellum99
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| Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2011 5:16 am Post subject: |
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TeaTime
Joined: 12 Jan 2011
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| Don't leave him. |
Don't put your life on hold for someone else. You'll only end up resenting it later. Been there, done that. |
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cert43
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Yeah..I agree, butyou've made your decision, now it's only a matter of how long.. 
Also do you have a car here..that is the hardest part about living in the States is the public transportation issue ( you pretty much have to drive or walk everywhere that there is no bus or train station).
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cert43
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but, some "people" still move without you..I mean they don't "consider" your "shoes"..how could "they"?By "the "way"-I DID NOT appreciate that "yesterday"..so "do" it again and they'll be "hell" to pay...
Your stealing my "game" man..so sick of it "yo"....
Pick up script
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cert43
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| Posted: Thu Jun 30, 2011 9:18 am Post subject: |
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| This "will" go "on" forever |
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Kimchi4Me
Joined: 17 Nov 2010
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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| Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2011 12:36 pm Post subject: So... |
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| I would be interested in knowing how this all turned out...? I'm on my way over next week. I'm not leaving a BF behind though. How are you getting along, MKpopcorn? |
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madoka
Joined: 27 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2011 12:51 pm Post subject: |
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but, some "people" still move without you..I mean they don't "consider" your "shoes"..how could "they"?By "the "way"-I DID NOT appreciate that "yesterday"..so "do" it again and they'll be "hell" to pay...
Your stealing my "game" man..so sick of it "yo"....
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Cocaine . . . it's a helluva drug! |
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fermentation
Joined: 22 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2011 5:47 pm Post subject: |
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| From my experience of traveling abroad, its nice to have an idea of what you're gonna do as soon as you land. The first few days or weeks could be pretty depressing if you suddenly find yourself in a foreign country with nobody to talk to. Make a plan to go out, know your environment when you land or use this forum or other medium to contact other foreigners/english speakers in your area. Take some books or something that you can use to occupy your time when you're not exploring your environment. Do as much research on Korea and specifically the area you're going to be living in. Korean sites like Daum and Naver have street and ariel view features on their maps like google, so use that as an intel asset. Employ the tactical breathing exercise to calm your nervousness. |
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johnnyrook
Joined: 08 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2011 6:23 pm Post subject: |
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If you hate it at first just bare with it, the first three months are the worst, and things will get better.
If you love it at first don't think it's gonna last forever, the first three months are the honeymoon period and it's all downhill from there. |
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