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Cliff for King
Joined: 09 Oct 2006
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| Seems like they deserve each other to me - match made in heaven... |
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Triban
Joined: 14 Jul 2009
Location: Suwon Station
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| Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 12:38 am Post subject: |
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You guys are insane. Judging from the e-mail, the DIL was completely out of line. The MIL is simply concerned about her son and the future of him AND her in the family. The MIL made a statement about money because if the DIL family cannot provide any money to the wedding, the DIL should not be such a beach to try and have something extravagant.
Meh, and she's no looker either. I'd marry her in a discreet location.
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DorkothyParker
Joined: 11 Apr 2009
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 7:39 am Post subject: |
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| but it was so rude of the MIL to insinuate the bride's family erred in not keeping a savings for their daughter's wedding. Not everyone is made of money! Also, it's not her business, quite frankly. |
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Actually, I for one, think that it is their business. They are about to become relatives and share incomes and have their finances intertwined and the like.
Now she might have been more tactful about bringing up that point...probably she had to her son, but that all got pushed back and back |
I've been married for almost 8 years, guess how much money my husband or I have received from either of our perspective parents?
None! Excluding the usual $100 for birthdays/Xmas from my folks.
So, no, I don't think the in-laws should be involved in the finances of their adult children. Is this some weird third-world country where dowries are paid for matrimony? Absurd! Rich people are just so divorced from reality. Honestly, I really hate the upper and upper middle class. They have no idea how to be human at times. |
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northway
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
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| Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Honestly, I really hate the upper and upper middle class. They have no idea how to be human at times. |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 4:33 pm Post subject: |
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| but it was so rude of the MIL to insinuate the bride's family erred in not keeping a savings for their daughter's wedding. Not everyone is made of money! Also, it's not her business, quite frankly. |
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Actually, I for one, think that it is their business. They are about to become relatives and share incomes and have their finances intertwined and the like.
Now she might have been more tactful about bringing up that point...probably she had to her son, but that all got pushed back and back |
I've been married for almost 8 years, guess how much money my husband or I have received from either of our perspective parents?
None! Excluding the usual $100 for birthdays/Xmas from my folks.
So, no, I don't think the in-laws should be involved in the finances of their adult children. Is this some weird third-world country where dowries are paid for matrimony? Absurd! Rich people are just so divorced from reality. Honestly, I really hate the upper and upper middle class. They have no idea how to be human at times. |
Well in my view, generating wealth is an important part of one's family life, and if a family can work together to generate more wealth, then so much the better. I mean if the parents and their children are all involved in running different businesses, keeping things in the family can really help with boosting business.
Also, if I am wealthy, I would absolutely love to provide the opportunities to my children and grandchildren that wealth enables.
I would also caution that in the future, the independence route may not be so lucrative. I predict lean times in the future, and in lean times its more efficient for a family to consolidate their wealth. |
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DorkothyParker
Joined: 11 Apr 2009
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2011 12:18 am Post subject: |
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Unfortunately, my folks are on a set income (father's military pension and disability). Ain't no money to be had in my family. Never was. My husband doesn't have a family. Ahh well.
I've been very angry lately. Normally, as a registered Socialist, I don't get too worked up in class politics. I guess I just don't like the judgmental nature of things like this and as white/Latina trash, I get a bit defensive at times. |
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Gorf
Joined: 25 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Sun Jul 10, 2011 4:12 am Post subject: |
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At most households when you're a guest you're treated with extra compassion and kindness, not limited to but including: Being stuffed with delicious home-made food, being catered to gastronomically in whatever way you may ask, being allowed to sleep as long as necessary, and you flatter the hosts by taking more food.
I was always told to not start before others, but it's not something you start a chain mail about, just a slight breach of etiquette, likely from being raised differently. Essentially, the MIL sounds nuts. "You fall in line with house norms" - what in the hell? She's not there because of a dowry or something, it's not like they're depending on her to help bale hay for the winter or shear the sheep. |
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