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pucciniphile
Joined: 23 Jun 2011
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 Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 12:16 am Post subject: Should children be forced to hug their relatives? |
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Another thread got sidetracked on this question.
I would like to hear other opinions. |
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tatertot
Joined: 21 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 1:05 am Post subject: |
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| Another thread got sidetracked on this question. |
I like your use of the passive voice here. It really sounds better than the way I would have written it: "I hijacked and derailed another thread with my crazy talk."
You've done a good job of making it seem like there was some sort of debate in the other thread, even though there wasn't. For the record, I don't think anybody in that thread was saying that children should be "forced" to hug their grandparents. That was a complete non-sequitur that you created (after you compared hugging one's grandparents to child prostitution). |
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tatertot
Joined: 21 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 1:06 am Post subject: |
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| And for the record, I selected no. |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 3:36 am Post subject: |
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| Not forced, but encouraged. |
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DorkothyParker
Joined: 11 Apr 2009
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 3:53 am Post subject: |
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Unless the relative is "off" in some way (creepy, wearing a soiled diaper, etc), kid's should do things they don't want to do. Adults do things they don't want to do all the time.
"Forced" is such a strange word. I won't physically restrain my child as my mom smothers them in kisses, but they would certainly would receive a firm browbeating insisting that they hug her. I don't care if they reluctantly allow it, but grandma loves them and it's happening.
Slightly off the point, I come from a small family so it would just be 1 set of grandparents and 2 sets of aunts and uncles who are kickass. I would never subject them to my extended family or people I wouldn't hug myself. |
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2i2dk1ny2i3
Joined: 26 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 11:43 am Post subject: |
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chose No
but its not the worst thing in the world for a Child to hug their Grandparents |
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Zyzyfer
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: who, what, where, when, why, how?
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 5:00 pm Post subject: |
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| 2i2dk1ny2i3 wrote: |
| but its not the worst thing in the world for a Child to hug their Grandparents |
Think about the asphyxiated children lol |
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Koreadays
Joined: 20 May 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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which relatives is important.
my mother and father, and my wifes parents.. YES.
my sisters husband, or my sisters husbands brother.. NO..
depends... |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 6:08 pm Post subject: |
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Children are "forced" to do things all the time.
OP, are you a parent? |
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Mix1
Joined: 08 May 2007
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| Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 5:56 am Post subject: |
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Poor Grandma,
Her husband died years ago and all she's got now is her nightly gin and tonic. Yes, encourage (and if need be, force) little snot nose spoiled johnny grandson to give her a damn hug. If he was raised properly, he'd probably want to anyway.
But since the mom thinks forced hugs amounts to child prostitution, she defers to Johnny and grandma gets no hug, and so grandma wonders "What the heck is wrong with these people?" Poor grandma; better make it a double tonight; your visiting relatives are wack. |
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pucciniphile
Joined: 23 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 6:42 am Post subject: |
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| Children are "forced" to do things all the time. |
Yes, I am aware of that.
I am aware that children are drafted as soldiers in Libya and in Chad.
I am aware that children were drafted as soldiers in Sierra Leone.
I am aware that child prostitution abounds in Thailand, the Philippines, India, and Sri Lanka.
I am aware that an estimated 1 in 6 children are engaged in child labor, including work in dangerous mines and work operating dangerous machinery.
I am aware that many of these children are being deprived of a good education and are therefore being deprived of a better future.
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| OP, are you a parent? |
No.
Why? If I were a parent, would I approve of all this? |
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Konglishman
Joined: 14 Sep 2007
Location: Nanjing
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| Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 6:48 am Post subject: |
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| pucciniphile wrote: |
| Captain Corea wrote: |
| Children are "forced" to do things all the time. |
Yes, I am aware of that.
I am aware that children are drafted as soldiers in Libya and in Chad.
I am aware that children were drafted as soldiers in Sierra Leone.
I am aware that child prostitution abounds in Thailand, the Philippines, Sri Lanka, and India.
I am aware that an estimated 1 in 6 children are engaged in child labor, including work in dangerous mines and work operating dangerous machinery.
I am aware that many of these children are being deprived of a good education and are therefore being deprived of a better future.
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| OP, are you a parent? |
No.
Why? If I were a parent, would I approve of all this? |
Congratulations! You have just won the Taken-Out-Of-Context Award! Come on up and collect your prize! Hahaha! |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 12:06 pm Post subject: |
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| pucciniphile wrote: |
| Captain Corea wrote: |
| Children are "forced" to do things all the time. |
Yes, I am aware of that.
I am aware that children are drafted as soldiers in Libya and in Chad.
I am aware that children were drafted as soldiers in Sierra Leone.
I am aware that child prostitution abounds in Thailand, the Philippines, India, and Sri Lanka.
I am aware that an estimated 1 in 6 children are engaged in child labor, including work in dangerous mines and work operating dangerous machinery.
I am aware that many of these children are being deprived of a good education and are therefore being deprived of a better future.
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| OP, are you a parent? |
No.
Why? If I were a parent, would I approve of all this? |
pucciniphile...
Just because two things have similar aspects does not make them the same.
A speedboat and a pickup truck both have motors, but they are vastly different things.
Telling your kid that if they aren't polite and hug grandma they'll get a paddlin is not the same as shoving an AK in their hands and telling them to wipe out the tribe in the village down the road.
Again, I have to ask you, have you ever considered that A)You might be wrong and B) That you might be suffering from some sort of disorder involving reality and perception? |
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flakfizer
Joined: 12 Nov 2004
Location: scaling the Cliffs of Insanity with a frayed rope.
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| Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 3:42 pm Post subject: |
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| Perhaps the OP really, really hates her grandma. Why else would she liken forcing kids to hug grandma to prostitution? Why else would she bring up examples of forced conscription as if those incidences were parallel to hugging grandma? I think most normal people would think things like forcing kids to eat their veggies and forcing kids to say "please" and "thank you" would be a little more on par with forcing them to hug grandma. But for the OP, hugging grandma seems to be a very disagreeable experience. |
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Greyjoy
Joined: 12 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 6:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Captain Corea wrote: |
Children are "forced" to do things all the time.
OP, are you a parent? |
If you raise your child not to be a maladjusted brat, you don't feel compelled to force them to do things. There's also a big different between "forcing" them to go to school and "forcing" them into a situation where they feel physically violated. Both don't work out well in the end.
But there are different situations. It seems like alot of families have at least one Uncle Touchy or lonely grandpa. |
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