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[glassandshells]

think i have a shot with taeyang?

[Giant]

Coming to the point of why its hard for a woman to date a serious man in Korea, the truth is... most men who come here looking for a relashionsip are socially dysfunctional. They cant hack it back home, so they come here where they can be treated as kings even when they would never be given a second look back home. I have lost count how many times I have seen a sorry to say 'average/borderline ugly' guy with a pretty good looking Korean girl. They could NEVER pull that off back home.

Also, Korean men just like most western, just want the foreign experience. I hate the way korean men look at my wife (who is non-Korean BTW), simply because she has big boobs. I almost wanted to punch a few the way they stare.... Korean men dont really have any social skills and I would guess still prefer the matchmaker scene. No work for them, just go on blind dates and hope for the best.

My advice is look for someone from your own culture.

Just my 2 cents which comes from being in Korea for over 10 years now.

[the_curious]

Wow, a lot of you sound like you should be on boycottamericanwomen.blogspot.com. Every time I hear some guy complaining about how selfish and horrible Western women are, I picture some fat, middle-aged slob who couldn't land girls back home.

A lot of Korean men here are "curious" about white women (sexually). That doesn't mean they will want to be in a relationship with you. Beware.

Korean men also LIE a lot more than men do back home. Or if not outright lie, bend the truth in ridiculous ways.

Finally, it's difficult to land a "top of the heap" guy for any number of reasons--but not because Western women are fat, ugly, or inherently less desirable than Korean women. I think one big factor is that there is an increasing gap between the number of educated women and the number of educated women in Korea, with the higher number on the girls' side (http://joongangdaily.joins.com/article/view.asp?aid=2938319). This means you will be facing a lot of competition for a guy who is your equal in looks and schooling. A great deal of that competition will speak Korean language fluently and know the ins and the outs of the culture far better than you, placing you at an automatic disadvantage.

Most of the women I know who have married Korean guys here are in unconventional relationships, with the wife being the primary breadwinner. The husbands, while not necessarily uneducated, lack steady jobs or other characteristics that would make them choice prizes in the eyes of the general populace. However, there are always exceptions to the rule. Like some of the other posters have said, the more you bring to the table, the better you will do.

Also, if Korean guys aren't your thing, don't worry too much. Plenty of the "foreign" guys here *aren't* bitter losers and are also into non-Korean girls. You can have your pick--European, American, Aussie, Middle Eastern, etc. etc.

[Ribena]

Surely you can go a year without dating? Why spend alot of time worrying about who can or can't date because this or that cultural reason. Why not just enjoy your time and see what happens. You might meet someone you like or not. Doesn't seem something worth worrying about.

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