Korean Job Discussion Forums

[seoulsucker]

[madoka]

[Illysook]

My mother is a retired public servant and she can't afford to loan me money. The bleepstorm in the news about greedy and lazy public servants and teachers in the U.S. couldn't be less true.

[DorkothyParker]

My folks are on a set income (my father's military retirement pay & disability plus my mum is on some program that pays her to go to college). I think even if they could afford it, I wouldn't see the point. I love my folks but I don't need to see them all the time.

I let my folks take me out for a meal or a baseball game and they give me money and gifts for my birthday and holidays, but other than that I have never taken cash or a loan or anything from my parents. Not to get all off topic, but if I had a kid, I wouldn't give them money unless they were about to live on the street, and I'd make them pay me back with interest (at least half of it anyway, just to make them squirm a little).

[Louis VI]

When I graduated high school my father said I was a man now and responsible for myself. I always had a home with a roof over my head and food in my belly if I wanted, but it was time for me to grow up and pay for things myself. It was not tough love, it was matter of fact respect for what a man is, as per older standards. I paid my way through university entirely without parental financial support. I cannot fathom having the family pay for my airfare after I have finished university. A 22 year old or older relying on their parents to give them money? I was not raised that way.

[offtheoche]

No: I pay for them to come and visit me.

[cyui]

Iam also positive none of you are Korean..( at least not fully)..

Ummm...whoms' denying whom? No, people are whom they say they are.

Would tell you if I was someone else.

[PatrickGHBusan]

My Korean in-laws tried to pay for our last tickets when we visited Korea. We refused.

When we lived in Korea, we paid for my parents tickets to visit us but not the reverse (it would have felt wrong).

We paid for my wifes parents tickets last time they visited. We bought the tickets from a Korean agency and had them delivered to my wifes parents as a surprise.

We did fly our 3 nieces over last year as they spent the summer with us in Canada.

If you are gainfully employed, I do not see why your parents should buy your airfare home.

[Livewire]

When I first came here I was brokearse so the hakwan paid for the ticket as per the contract.

2nd contract after a yr and a half break back home, I paid the airfare and the hakwan reimbursed me the 1st week at the job.

If they hadn't I would've gone into my credit card and used that, or gone into my overdraft.

Though I am independant in that sense, if your folks can and want to help you out - why not, they're family.

[cyui]

yeah..thats why my boss refused to pay my flight ( he said to just put it on the credit card).Even though I paid 4 times to/from Korea.

Even though, the contract wasn't finished; it still didn't feel right.

Those parts of Korea are hard to understand..I mean would any of you get it?

[West Coast Tatterdemalion]

I've never understood people who take money from their parents. Even when I was a kid, I never asked my parents for money. In my opinion, anyone over the age of 20 that asks their mother or father for money should be ashamed of themselves. It is mindboggling for me to hear about people(especially Koreans) that live with their parents well into their 30's and 40's and who get an allowance. . It definitely is a cultural thing, to be sure. I would be embarrassed if I was living at home in my 30's and my parents were giving me cash. Learn to be independent, people.

[madoka]

[silkhighway]

I don't see the problem with parents giving their son or daughter a loan or springing for a plane ticket. Why have them pay interest rates to banks when they don't need to?

Most people in Korea are single and earning relatively good wages, so I agree if your family is important to you, it's selfish to expect them to pay your ticket home. On the other hand, it's different when you have a family and you're paying for 3, 4 or 5 tickets instead of 1.

I've noticed a lot of people on Dave's seem to be fiercely independent and debt averse. That's fine, and overall a good way to live, but at the same time taking on good debt as long as it's manageable, or accepting a hand once in awhile (or lending one when you can) can make things happen. Otherwise another Christmas rolls by without your family together, or a few more years pass and you never do pursue that graduate degree. You only live once.

[Died By Bear]

My dad is an airline pilot (International), so my wife and I fly for free wherever we go. It's a small upgrade to business class, but I would fly business anyway just to get away from the herd.

Anyway, we both work a lot so it's not like we can fly more than five or six times a year.

[isisaredead]