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[rapier]

This whole Koreans marrying foreigners fallacy is a crock of shit. No mainstream korean is about to marry a foreigner, thus sacrificing the approval of her family and society, not to mention risk raising a mixed- race child in a life of misery. they still have too much to lose.

Koreans are image/appearance oriented people. They might marry a japanese, Vietnamese, or chinese, because their kids will be virtually indistinguishable from regular koreans...
But marrying a westerner is an outlandish, nay crazy, idea to them, generally speaking.
In my experience, the only Korean women who've been interested have been
a) past korean marrying age ie, over 30
b) somehow keen on a new life overseas, because they've fucked up here in some way.
c)Divorced and with a child/ children
d) looking for a long free course in english with a bit of sex thrown in as compensation
Not to say i view my former Korean flings as somehow substandard people: they were wonderful... but my point is, racism is a fundamental cornerstone of the dating game here... do not underestimate it.
I've met some very attractive and successful Korean women, single, and in their 20's. No matter how well we've clicked and gotten on, ultimately, they're not prepared to branch off from the Han master race when it comes to getting serious.

If you've had different experiences, I'm happy for you... but this is mine so far...

(p.s.: this was meant to be tacked onto the other thread, but it messed up and I wasn't about to re-type it all again...)

Edited once by Harpeau, 10:02PM, Sat. April 17, 2004.

[kangnamdragon]

I am sorry this has been your experience, but I have had a Korean woman interested in marrying me who was none of the above.

[crazylemongirl]

[rapier]

I suppose my problem is that i chase after stunners, who appreciate me as a temporary fling- but not as serious marriage material- because I'm not rich, just a wandering esl teacher.

[dutchman]

Maybe women are turned off not by the fact that you are a foreigner but from your lack of stability. "Hey, marry me! I've got no definite plans for the future. I have a deadend job that I hate. No savings. Not sure what country I'll be moving to next. But hey I'm a swell guy! Hmmm...why can't I attract a nice girl?"

I and plenty of other foreigners I know have married Koreans that don't fit the categories you listed.

[weatherman]

I know what you are saying. I have often thought about it as anybody who will marry a westerner, their thinking has had to changed, in somehow, someway. That their perspective on life is different, so that they can comfortable marry and live a happy life away from the Korean box. How this happens and why is different for each individual. Usually it is overseas exposer and/or education.

And like you said, any stunner is going to want to take advantage of the system here in Korea, and play it for all it is worth, for they WILL be better off. Us esl teachers have nothing in what they are looking for in the long run, we don't really register with them. Being a stunner in other countries is a good thing, but in Korea, being a stunner really has it advantages, and they way marriage works, can really pay off. By stunner, I mean not only looks but the attitude and way of thinking that goes with it.

[Zyzyfer]

[Homer]

Rapier,
Sorry man but this time your way off base.

As many have pointed out in here your list relates to your personal experiences and the perception that stems from it.

It does not apply to the general topic of mixed mariages.

I could cite my wife as an example that does not fit your list.

Many others could do the same.

Finally, I do not think that my kids will be raised in a 'life of misery'....thats a exageration on your part I think.

My wife does not think so, neither does her family.

[Cthulhu]

dutchman wrote:

[hellofaniceguy]

The original poster is out in left field!
I know of many, many korean women who married westerners and who don't fit the sterotype that you posted!
Just because you have not been lucky in finding someone to settle with does not mean others have to accept the same fate.

[Gollum]

[rapier]

[Corporal]

[just because]

Rapier, my current g/f is none of the above.
It doesn't matter what nationality to me. just character and she has it in spades.

We will definantly marry, she doesn't really care about her parents opinion, we will have children and live in Korea and she is only 25.

[danyuk]