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flashguns



Joined: 20 Sep 2011

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 2:00 am    Post subject: What are my options - term time wedding at home Reply with quote

I am hoping to find work in a Public School starting March 2012, however I have one small (possibly large?) problem.

My sister is getting married on the 23rd June (a Saturday) and of course, this is during term time. Now there is no chance I will be missing the wedding, but where does this leave me as far as Public school work? I would need at the very least to take the Friday off work and most likely the Monday also (24 hours travel time).

Should I:
a) Be completely honest from the start (I know, there�s not much worse you can do in an interview than ask about holiday!)
b) Assuming I find work, keep quiet for a couple of months and �prove my worth� before enquiring and cross my fingers.
c) Feel that I have a bad case of Man flu coming on 9 months in advance and not breathe a word to anyone of the wedding, my least favourite option.

Is it very much dependant on the individual school? Really I would like to go with a)... But if there's not a hope in hell of that going anywhere then I need to rethink my options.
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nathanrutledge



Joined: 01 May 2008
Location: Marakesh

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 2:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Public school job, you can't take the time of. Period.

Sure, there will be someone who knew someone who had a friend who did.

But you tell them you want that time off in the interview, no job. You come here and do a fantastic job, they still won't give you that time off.

You could call in sick on Friday and Monday. Hopefully they won't come looking for you. Odds are, they WILL and you'll have some explaining to do. Not too hard to do - I was really sick so I stayed with my gf/bf so they could look after me. My phone died, that's why I didn't answer when you called.

Of course, the trick is calling in on that Monday...

Really, the ONLY way you could really pull it off is if you have a coworker who you are cool with. Someone who you can tell this too and they'll say "oh, yeah, they called earlier and are sick, won't be in." Good luck trying to find someone like THAT.

Long story short, come here and work, or stay there for the wedding.
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ttompatz



Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 2:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

1st contract, 1st term in a public school (3 months into your new contract) and 4 weeks before the end of term your chances of a 4-day weekend are SLIM at best.

If you pull a "fly out and back flu" and it is discovered you risk your job (grounds for termination without notice and loss (from your deposit/outstanding pay) of your inbound flight and settlement allowance.

A= won't get hired (there are 20 more applicants for that PS position).
B= VERY slim but not entirely "0".
C= 4 million reasons not to risk it.
D = hagwan job it may be slightly more possible but still unlikely.

Trying for the August intake of EPIK (usually bigger than spring anyway) is also an option.

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flashguns



Joined: 20 Sep 2011

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 10:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Not the replies I wanted, but probably what I expected.

I may have a go with finding a position that would consider letting me go from the outset, possibly Hagwan, but not hold out much hope, and I guess look to more likely start next August instead.

Thanks for the responses.
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litebear



Joined: 12 Sep 2009
Location: Holland

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 1:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

flashguns wrote:
Not the replies I wanted, but probably what I expected.

I may have a go with finding a position that would consider letting me go from the outset, possibly Hagwan, but not hold out much hope, and I guess look to more likely start next August instead.

Thanks for the responses.


There is an elephant in the room here that I don't want to be the sicko who brings it up in the public forum...so I'll drop you a PM! Very Happy
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rayray123



Joined: 27 Jan 2010
Location: korea

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 1:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have a similar situation... brother's wedding that I have to attend in the US in May. I'm looking for a hakwon job, is it better to bring this up from the start? Or to wait a while before mentioning it?
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allan of asia



Joined: 17 Mar 2009
Location: Here, there, everywhere

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 7:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

People who come overseas need to realize that there are things you are going to have to miss when you live overseas. If you think you cannot accept missing out on family events its not the thing for you to be honest. You should stay home.

Im not saying the OP is like this in any way - but I do know people who have tried to get time off for what I would class as trivial things like a cousins wedding or a brother in law's birthdays or Thanksgiving - it simply in most cases is not possible to do this! If you think its NOT trivial and you simply must be at everything - move back home or better still dont come to work abroad. The first Christmas was hard but after that, it gets easy!

I work in PS and truthfully I DO KNOW someone who was given a week off during term time for his brother's wedding BUT everyone else who has asked for time off for anything in term time other than a very close family death has been a flat out refusal.
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Deranged Ranger



Joined: 13 Sep 2011

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 9:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

nathanrutledge wrote:
Public school job, you can't take the time of. Period.


Not True at all, sorry.

I'm most cases this is the case, but its not set across the board.

Last Christmas and the one coming up I asked if I could leave for Canada a week early so that I could spend more time at home.

My school said sure no problem, I also "volunteer" an hour a week ( I teach 23 instead of the contracted 22 classes) specifically so that I can get that favor.

So to the OP, bottom line is that most of the advice you are getting is pretty accurate, but I assure you, the odds arent in your favor, but they are by no means zero. Thay may not even be that bad

If you walked into the class and said "Hey I will volunteer to teach an after school program for free if you give me X days off......" I have known many teachers, myself included, who have done just that. My good freind worked afterschool programs entirely for free so that he could get the first 2 weeks in February entirely off. So he would start his camps after Christmas day, do his 3 weeks of camp, leave for America on January 15th and then come back from America 6 weeks later to start his new contract.

If you worked 40 hours for an afterschool program and said, I want to trade this for 5 days off so I can go to my sisters wedding and you promised to leave plans for your teachers ( who have to teach at that time anyway) many schools will take that offer no problem. But many won't

It all depends on your school and how much your willing to scratch their backs for the favor.

Lastly, this is all assuming there are any jobs in SMOE come February anyway, the government just instituted a free lunch program that is killing the public schools budget, and ditrict supervisors have already announced that there will be no more Native English speakers in public schools by the 2013 school year.

So far though SMOE has refused to confirm this officially, as far as I am aware, and even if they confirmed it, this is Korea, and that could change
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radcon



Joined: 23 May 2011

PostPosted: Wed Sep 21, 2011 11:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Two words: DEAD RELATIVE
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ttompatz



Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea

PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2011 1:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Two words: DEAD RELATIVE


PS - If you want the bereavement leave you will have to show the death cert.
(or a photo of you at the funeral)
.
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jurassic82



Joined: 21 Jun 2006
Location: Somewhere!!!!

PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2011 2:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Deranged Ranger wrote:
nathanrutledge wrote:
Public school job, you can't take the time of. Period.


Not True at all, sorry.

I'm most cases this is the case, but its not set across the board.

Last Christmas and the one coming up I asked if I could leave for Canada a week early so that I could spend more time at home.

My school said sure no problem, I also "volunteer" an hour a week ( I teach 23 instead of the contracted 22 classes) specifically so that I can get that favor.

So to the OP, bottom line is that most of the advice you are getting is pretty accurate, but I assure you, the odds arent in your favor, but they are by no means zero. Thay may not even be that bad

If you walked into the class and said "Hey I will volunteer to teach an after school program for free if you give me X days off......" I have known many teachers, myself included, who have done just that. My good freind worked afterschool programs entirely for free so that he could get the first 2 weeks in February entirely off. So he would start his camps after Christmas day, do his 3 weeks of camp, leave for America on January 15th and then come back from America 6 weeks later to start his new contract.

If you worked 40 hours for an afterschool program and said, I want to trade this for 5 days off so I can go to my sisters wedding and you promised to leave plans for your teachers ( who have to teach at that time anyway) many schools will take that offer no problem. But many won't

It all depends on your school and how much your willing to scratch their backs for the favor.

Lastly, this is all assuming there are any jobs in SMOE come February anyway, the government just instituted a free lunch program that is killing the public schools budget, and ditrict supervisors have already announced that there will be no more Native English speakers in public schools by the 2013 school year.

So far though SMOE has refused to confirm this officially, as far as I am aware, and even if they confirmed it, this is Korea, and that could change


Yeah, it is not impossible to get time off for a wedding as I have known 2 public school teachers who have done it. THe thing is though both of the teachers were on their 2nd year at their school and were already on good terms with there administration. I think bringing it up in an interview will most definitley prevent you from getting the job. Especially considering it would be within the first few months of your contract.

As far as the free school lunch program, I am pretty sure that didn't pass last month. Feel free to prove me wrong as I am a little out of touch with what has happened in local politics. Also, the whole thing with SMOE getting rid of native English teachers sounds like paranoid rhetoric to me. I have been hearing this since I got to Korea in 2006. I know there is a push to minimize foriegn teachers as more of the new Korean English teachers are becoming just as fluent (and in my opinion more qualified) and antive speakers. There was the situation with GEPIK but that had to do with budget issues. As far as I know almost all the public schools in Seoul still have native English teachers and I don't think this will change anytime in the near future.
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Deranged Ranger



Joined: 13 Sep 2011

PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2011 7:01 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

1) You'd be wrong about the Free lunch thing, it's a go. They had an election August 24th to vote to stop it, and only 23% of Seoul voted, so it passed. I have heard nothing differnt since then.

2) You may have been hearing these rumors since 2006, but have you ever heard the head district supervisor confirm that it was happening? Mine did, she said " Our district will not re-sign you come February 2012, and by Feb 2013 There will be no more NSETs in SMOE" So she was either off her rocker, high on something, or is correct.

3) If you go to the SMOE website it says that Jon Pak is hiring positions directly, he's hiring TWENTY, (and he says and I quote " that's for elementary and Middle school positions, High School is not available") Now he also say that you can apply through EPIK ( buit not through both) for an SMOE job, still Jon hiring out only twenty is either a sign that that he is not wanting to do the job, or there's a hiring freeze and only many schools are forgoing an NSET (seeing as though usually 3-400 are hired in February)

4) Bottom line is that it may hinge on this free lunch thing, if it goes through there will not be a budget for NSETs anymore, there simply won't. IF and I say IF That falls though then what you are saying may be accurate, and NSETS may continue,

However a large portion of NSETS are useless for the following reasons:

1)Every school principal is free to run the school as they see fit, and many of them simply let overbearing control freak teachers run the English classes, these teachers underutilize the Native speakers who in my opinion should have complete control over the plans and the class ( with assistance, not a shared role perse) from the korean teacher

2) They rely heavily on CRAP texts and multimedia and often hindering our independant teaching,

3) MANY NSETS are basically teaching in the Korean style, mandated to teach in such a way that has been shown in every study not to work for learning, or being inspired to learn English, and are nothing more than a fancy tape recorder in class.

So unless this changes, even without factoring in the budget issues in the lunch program thing, SMOE is waking up to the fact that unless the control is in the hands of the NSETS to run the class ( which basically can't or won't happen, and would be a logistical impossibility to enforce let alone moniter) the NSET program is essentially useless and too much of a cash sink hole to continue.

This is just my opinion, but considering the NSETS havent even been around all that long and the talk has been there for over 5 years as you say ( from the very start of the NSET program) and they have lots more data now that shows we are by and large useless in the current system, the program is more like to be cut soon enough without the free lunch going through, and is certain to die out when it does.
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flashguns



Joined: 20 Sep 2011

PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2011 10:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

rayray123 wrote:
I have a similar situation... brother's wedding that I have to attend in the US in May. I'm looking for a hakwon job, is it better to bring this up from the start? Or to wait a while before mentioning it?


I'm going to try the being honest about it from the start route combined with offers of making the hours up with an after school or something.

Would need Friday + Monday, damn me living so far away!

And yes, I realise moving away = missing things, I've TEFL'd for a year already abroad, but my Sisters wedding is a pretty big deal to me, not really comparable to Christmas/Thanksgiving etc. Smile

Not so sure I'd be comfortable about the dead relative route, I'm terrible at lying for a start!
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calendar



Joined: 22 Sep 2011
Location: being a hermit

PostPosted: Thu Sep 22, 2011 6:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

ttompatz wrote:
radcon wrote:
Two words: DEAD RELATIVE


PS - If you want the bereavement leave you will have to show the death cert.
(or a photo of you at the funeral)
.


I thought the bereavement leave was just time off and that you didn't have to travel home. Do you really have to show the death certificate since most people wouldn't be given it?
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shifty



Joined: 21 Jun 2004

PostPosted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 1:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

flashguns wrote:
I'm terrible at lying for a start!


On top of this, Koreans are past masters at face-reading. You'd be staring at both barrels.

If you overhear the term 'kojitmaljangi' coupled to your name, you'll know you've been rumbled.

Sure.
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