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[Panda]

Sorry I have to edit this thread because I realized the old one might give out too much info.

Basically it is a situation I found one of my close girl friends smells really bad and it seems to be a gynecological problem , I wanted to tell her but it seems too embarrassing to point it out for her.

What is the best way to make a suggestion? ( I have thought of all the possible ways to tell, none seems going to work)

[radcon]

What ideas were you thinking of trying? Examples please.

[weso1]

There is no easy way to do this. I remember a coworker that had a similar issue. I think he just refused to shower and wash his clothes. Anyway, our boss got him a "Welcome to the team" basket filled with soaps, shampoos, detergent, cologne, and what not. Then gave it to him after everyone had left for the day. That seemed to work.

Another way might be to mention in conversation that you've scheduled a gyno visit for yourself soon. No need to go into detail, but do more than just mention it in passing. Maybe it will get her to thinking about making an appointment too?

There's also the old direct approach. Sit her down at home with no one else around and just say hey "as your friend I'm telling you this so you can get some help...." If I were on the receiving end of that, of course I would be incredibly embarrassed and half ashamed and might not have as much contact with you after, but at least I'd know it was becoming and issue and others were being affected and I'd try to do something about it so as to make sure a conversation like that never happens again.

[Panda]

My example. I thought of asking her directly: "hey, do you notice there is something smell strange?" and then walk away, looking all confused.

I know it's lame.

[radcon]

Since you are a medical professional, what do you think is wrong with your friend? What is your diagnosis?

[Panda]

[ZIFA]

[nero]

Just ask her if she accidently dropped fish onto her lap. If she says no, just smile sweetly whilst staring at her crotch and say; "really?"

[sadguy]

gardnerella.

god, that's awkward to bring up. maybe you need a group intervention. haha

[Zyzyfer]

[wishfullthinkng]

why do people feel the need to baby each other about things like this?

last week i noticed for the first time when one of my friends was at my apartment that when he took off his shoes it about knocked the wind out of me. so i told him "your feet smell like death and the remnants of a jiggae gone wrong. put your shoes back on." he actually thanked me because as it were most people don't notice the enthusiasm of their own odors. now he's actively paying attention to keeping fresh socks on and whatnot.

if i was smelling bad i would definitely want someone to tell me straight up as well. not in front of a group of people of course, there should at least be some tact used, but for the love of the flying spaghetti monster, just tell your friend.

[Underwaterbob]

Ditto the above. Be tactful yes, but to resort to deceit is just condescending, and quite possibly even more humiliating that just straight out being told.

[Captain Corea]

How would you like it said to you?

Personally, I'd like to be pulled aside and politely, but honestly told.

[Gorf]

A random note slipped into her mailbox stating as such.

[Zyzyfer]