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I have my very own Neuman(seinfield)....except she's kinda hot, but crazy.

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I work in an after school program. The school has a separate English center from the main classroom staffed by a foreigner and korean(non regular teacher).

It's next to mine and I used to hang out during breaks with the foreigner who was a friend of mine. His Korean co-teacher....for some reason....had some pathological hatred of me. This isn't a problem since she's fairly cordial and we don't seen each other often. Honestly, there is no prior reason for such hatred(I don't work with her and have talked to her for a grand total of 10 minutes in a year).

For example, He would let me borrow some teaching stuff. Later on she claimed the rules have changed and our company cannot borrow any equipment for no reason whatsoever(and bullied him into denying my requests). He later claimed she had OCD and was a little loony. He also quit far earlier than expected...and said watch out for her on the last day.


Fast forward a few months later, she's become more controlling and questions why I enter her room to talk to the new foreign teacher(on her first day, she questioned why I visited her "room"...I said it's because I wanted to say "Hi"). My company supervisor is replacing my regular korean teacher during her honeymoon. I needed a small, important favor done which she handled fine. Then preceded to whine to my supervisor that I'm to never to talk to her ever again or enter her classroom (again...pathological hatred with no basis).

My supervisor thinks it's a big problem.....I go to the crazy nut job and ask why she hates me....she ignores the questions and say the new school rules state our company is not to enter her classroom nor talk to the foreign native teacher. I'm allowed to only phone call them. I tell her I'm going to talk to the real English head teacher about these new rules(she claims she receives them from above....as opposed to making them on the spot...such rules mysteriously appear conviently). She proceeds to complain to my head company which immediately calls my supervisor.


Now my company thinks we have bad relations with school staff and wants to mediate the situation...truth be told, the woman has no power and is a bit nutty. She's the korean version of a NET. The whole fiasco makes me look bad over some powerless nutter I rarely ever see.

I figured I'm screwed either way....now the company AND the public school thinks we're having some sort of conflict...However, there isn't a conflict since we don't even work together.

[koreatimes]

Just ignore her. You aren't there to talk to her. You aren't there to listen to her. Do your job. If you want to talk to another foreign teacher then do it.

Don't make drama out of stuff that isn't there. If the school addresses you on anything then address it. Worrying about it now just makes you look like a fool.

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[koreatimes]

You can only worry so much. Unless they come and address a problem to you it's not worth it.

Also, I would just find another school for a new experience.

[sing81]

I used to work in an after school program. Some Koreans are crazy even racist. Just be glad they didn't have one of the students call you a gorilla after you give him candy bought with your own money, and then the school pays you late and have you live in a moldy apartment. I am from the South Carolina so racism is nothing new, especially in an academic environment.

[sulperman]

Doesnt sound like racism to me. Sounds like she doesn't want the afterschool monkey using the schools stuff and talking to/bothering the real foreign teacher. Being the afterschool
teacher puts you in the same class as the guy who
cleans the toilets. The regular PSNSET is a hero, someone to be fawned over, to be taken out to to drink, a minor celebrity in their school. The afterschool teacher is a leach, a pariah, human scum. Stay invisible. Nobody wants to see you.

[ThingsComeAround]

Hmm..

The regular NET left and warned you of her...
When the last NET did leave, it became 'her domain'. You gave her more strength by acknowledging the bitterness.

What you should have done was (A) ignore her as another poster said, (B) lightly insult her or (C) follow her recommendation.

And you are right to believe this could bite you in the ass as you are working at her school- the program you work for is the afterschool program right? Guess who stays if your program is cancelled? She probably is nuts, starving for friendships and attention- you threaten that when you talk to the new NET.

IMPORTANT:
Don't tell her your future plans. She will just do something more drastic (like call your company). Good luck

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[thegadfly]

If I understand correctly, OP, you are going "next door" to encounter this woman -- that is, if you go to work, you will not see her. You took it upon yourself to stop by a different workplace, because you were friendly with a person that worked there. You borrowed lessons and materials from this person at a different workplace, and when this friend of yours quit, you CONTINUED to frequent this other workplace, where you are not employed, to talk to the new foreign teacher?

Um...just stop it. Socialize during social hours in a social setting. This woman may not be right, but it sounds like she isn't far wrong....

[sulperman]

Oh, I see. Sorry, I was assuming too much. Yeah, then she just sounds nuts or annoying. Yeah, just stay away if you can. Better to be bored at work and not socialize than to play to close to the hornets nest.

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