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[dcozzi]

Back home I dabbled in some side research on domestic violence and equality of women internationally. I know how Korea conceptualizes it, but I just find it so hard to turn a blind eye when I have such strong feelings about it. I love Korea and openly accept so much of their culture, but I'll never accept abuse and ideology of inequality (especially when it leads to violence) in any culture.

But, a lot of you make a valid point that the police probably won't due anything. And, if I get involved and to becomes a potential altercation I'll probably be the one being blamed. I don't need that sort of fiasco right now.

My main issue is the woman. She never leaves the apartment so I haven't seen her. But the other issue is obviously that these events are obnoxiously loud and very disturbing. I have had many sleepless nights because that's all I can hear, all night long. I try listening to my iPod, but it hardly muffles her screams. Some crazy shit is going down in there. I'm getting the impression that if I call the police for a noise complaint that it may potentially help? Is this worth a try?

Now, if I do this who do I call? The local police station doesn't answer late (I've tried) and they only speak Korean. I heard that I can call 112 (the Korean equivalent to "911"), but interpreter services aren't available past 10pm. The abuse usually starts at 11pm, and goes until sometimes 5am. Suggestions?

Thanks for the posts!

[PeteJB]

Go to your landlord and complain about noise. Forget the useless cops.

[cj1976]

I love these threads because they always bring out the Cyber Knights in White Armour. Before you think about getting involved you need to find out if she is actually getting knocked around. You have no idea what the noises actually are. Go knock on the door and take a look at her, but remember if she has a black eye, she's already been told once so go easy on her..

[ghostrider]

I think that equality is a relatively new concept, even in the West. It started out with the idea a few hundred years ago that all white men are equal. It was eventually expanded to include women and minorities. That being said, I am not here to force my western values on Koreans. I was hired to teach English not to be a cultural imperialist.

[Steelrails]

[Munniko]

[Mix1]

[Stan Rogers]

[cj1976]

Even if you know she is getting beaten on, what can you do? If she's not willing to leave him or do something about it herself, then that's up to her. This strongarm macho BS of 'go and beat him up' is hilarious and pathetic at the same time. Doing that will really not help matters. She's harldy going to stand there and watch you bash her fella around then thank you for it.

[Panda]

Ask your coworker to write a note for you, print several out and stick one on their door or on the billboard of the building each day for a few days.

"The whole building knows you are beating your woman, police will show up if we hear it again.

Men: you are a piece of trash and a psychopath, go to see a doctor.

Woman: wake up, he doesn't care of you, leave this man or he will keep beating you until you die."


Sadly but honestly, this kind of tragedy will never disappear, this guy will keep on beating women.

[Zyzyfer]

[dcozzi]

haha - the porn idea is pretty funny and amazing, but I'd never do it. My walls are paper thin and I'd hate to disrupt the other neighbours. I already suspect they know me from my pre-drink get-togethers I have Fridays/Saturdays.

I actually got a friend's coworker to write me letters I can put up on the main building bulletin board. I'm also going to find out who my landlord is so that I can make a noise complaint if it happens and I can't fall asleep.

Thanks for all the responses.

[Squire]

Bang on the wall first to see if they quiet down

[PatrickGHBusan]

[Malislamusrex]

Bide your time, this kind of thing was happening for 2 months, I did scream be quiet but that didn't have any affect. But one day I saw the guy and her outside and he was pushing her... lets say the problem was solved there and then. Don't be a hero, the opportunity will come.