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Who's Your Daddy?
Joined: 30 May 2010
Location: Victoria, Canada.
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 Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:11 am Post subject: From Winner to Loser |
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I came here in the early 2000s. Me and my friends were cool; aged around 30.
I have some friends from that time still here. Now we're approaching 40. I got married, had a child, bought a house, car, etc. But I've got friends still living like college.
If you're 40 years old living like college (no family, no real assets), you're not cool any more. You've become a loser. You should really go home, and get going with your life.
It's too sad for me to say to my "was-cool" friends, but really at a certain age you become a loser (like those Sex the City 40+ singles).
I remember when I got here, passing some old-timer thinking; "what a loser." Now I see that look on people I know |
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weso1
Joined: 26 Aug 2010
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Sounds to me like you were a bit of a late bloomer yourself.
You got started at 30?? Most people just do this for a few years or so in their 20s. If you were 32 living like most people I know in their 20s live here now, I'd say you were a loser then.
I'm still 2 years (and a bit) shy of 30 and I feel like I've outgrown this already. Yeah I know "30 is the new 20" and all that, but if I'm living like I do now when I'm in my early or mid 30's, I'd feel like I failed at life. For now it's cool. My one room studio, English-monkey job, pizza and beer weekends, new girlfriend every other month or so is all well and good in your 20s. But by the time 30 gets here, it's time to put this game to rest. |
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No_hite_pls
Joined: 05 Mar 2007
Location: Don't hate me because I'm right
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:20 am Post subject: Re: From Winner to Loser |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:22 am Post subject: |
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It makes me sad how widespread this idea is.
Live your life and let others live theirs. Stop thinking your wife, child, house, and car should be important to everyone. |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:22 am Post subject: |
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I guess Bukowski, James Joyce, Van Gogh were losers then huh?
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:25 am Post subject: |
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I guess Bukowski, James Joyce, Van Gogh were losers then huh?
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Word. All famous are those without the OPs boring, mundane ideas of how to properly live. It's not the fame that matters to me, it's the idea of being passionate about living (through whichever form one chooses).
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No_hite_pls
Joined: 05 Mar 2007
Location: Don't hate me because I'm right
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:26 am Post subject: |
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BTW The President of the United States mother taught overseas almost her entire career. I guess she was loser too?
Thank you. Good by! |
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furtakk
Joined: 02 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:38 am Post subject: |
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I guess Bukowski, James Joyce, Van Gogh were losers then huh?
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yes because living the dream teaching esl for 2.1 million won at 40 is comparable to their likes. |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 2:41 am Post subject: |
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I guess Bukowski, James Joyce, Van Gogh were losers then huh?
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yes because living the dream teaching esl for 2.1 million won at 40 is comparable to their likes. |
Bukowski, Burroughs, many other lived like losers until or after 40 before they published their major works.
No saying the OP's mates are or ever will be literary geniuses, just an example though. Who knows, maybe they'll pull their fingers out one day soon and surprise everyone....
Who knows?
Who cares?
Live your own life and be happy with it, they seem happy with theirs so who gives a damn?
Comparing youself to other's and other's standadrs, now THAT is the behaviour of a loser in my book. |
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PatrickGHBusan
Joined: 24 Jun 2008
Location: Busan (1997-2008) Canada 2008 -
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 5:35 am Post subject: |
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OP your post was simplistic and just meant at insulting a group of people. In that respect, maybe you succeeded.
However the REALITY is far different as judging someone based on his or her age and where he or she is is pretty stupid.
How the heck do you know how that 40-something guy you see in Korea is doing?
The loser term is something most of us dropped after graduating highschool. I mean its pretty darn childish as a term.
Good luck out there OP...wish you all the best and I am sure those people you knew back then who you know consider LOSERS really appreciate your judgement of their existance.... |
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cheezsteakwit
Joined: 12 Oct 2011
Location: There & back again.
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| Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 7:49 am Post subject: Winner to loser |
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To me , a loser is someone who will look back on their life with regret and say-
" I shoulda , woulda, coulda .... " but never did.
To me, it's all about creating new memories , trying new experiences , making new friends & keeping the old .
It's NOT all about acquiring more 'stuff' ... unless that 'stuff' is pictures & mementos from all the places I've been & the people I've been there with. . |
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