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2i2dk1ny2i3
Joined: 26 Jun 2011
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 Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 1:24 pm Post subject: |
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EVERYONE at one point in their life, falls in Love (no matter what age)
when your young, its seen as kinda foolish compared to adults i.e. marriage, kids, etc.
nevertheless, you can't become so jaded by your past that you take such measures as lying wholeheartedly from the get go (this really shows what age you are, and not even actual age but more so on a maturity level)
some lies are acceptable or just simply say "i don't know" or "don't wanna give out that information" is better than lying constantly to someone you are dating and more so if you are in a relationship
some small lies are "ok" but where you draw the line is ultimately up to YOU (this goes back to your maturity level)
sadguy, all i can say is hopefully you don't become so jaded as some people but perhaps be more cautious and more secretive until YOU feel you can fully trust someone
i.e. i wouldn't be caught dead doing anything sexual in nature in any form that could come back at you:
taking Photos sexual in nature, writing sexual letters, message, etc.
hope you will live and learn and it is what it is...whatever doesn't kill you, can only make you stronger |
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sirius black
Joined: 04 Jun 2010
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 3:40 pm Post subject: |
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Another thing that may seem too hard to do but I've done this in America is NEVER tell someone Im dating where I work. In America when I'm asked what I do, I am vague 'I work for a media company', which one? 'Its a small company no ones heard of' If pressed warning signals happen. I will make up a company name. I also NEVER give my work number. You can change your cel number but you can't change your work number. I tell them that my family and friends have called too much in the past and I'm on last warnings so I can't take calls on my work phone.
In Korea, when asked where I work, I work for a hogwon (even if I don't). The name? ABC hogwon. Its a small hogwon in whateverdong. I never invite them to my school or let them know anyone I work with, this is any girl. Foreign or domestic. I've seen some crazy stuff happen to guys back in America when gf's show up at their job. Its easier for the company to just let you go. There are tons of resumes out there of people with less drama. I know...I know why go through all that. Make sure its real and the person is trustwothy before you give out that kind of info. |
So you lie to them just in case they're crazy then you spill the beans that you've been lying the whole time after you deem them trustworthy?
You're establishing some solid foundations for a healthy relationship, I can see. |
..and if sadguy did that he would still have a job wouldn't he? |
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TheUrbanMyth
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
Location: Retired
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 3:54 pm Post subject: |
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| sirius black wrote: |
| fermentation wrote: |
| sirius black wrote: |
Another thing that may seem too hard to do but I've done this in America is NEVER tell someone Im dating where I work. In America when I'm asked what I do, I am vague 'I work for a media company', which one? 'Its a small company no ones heard of' If pressed warning signals happen. I will make up a company name. I also NEVER give my work number. You can change your cel number but you can't change your work number. I tell them that my family and friends have called too much in the past and I'm on last warnings so I can't take calls on my work phone.
In Korea, when asked where I work, I work for a hogwon (even if I don't). The name? ABC hogwon. Its a small hogwon in whateverdong. I never invite them to my school or let them know anyone I work with, this is any girl. Foreign or domestic. I've seen some crazy stuff happen to guys back in America when gf's show up at their job. Its easier for the company to just let you go. There are tons of resumes out there of people with less drama. I know...I know why go through all that. Make sure its real and the person is trustwothy before you give out that kind of info. |
So you lie to them just in case they're crazy then you spill the beans that you've been lying the whole time after you deem them trustworthy?
You're establishing some solid foundations for a healthy relationship, I can see. |
..and if sadguy did that he would still have a job wouldn't he? |
It seems it was his picture that tripped him up. |
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