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[highstreet]

why would you put him down? give him to a shelter

[jacksthirty]

Is he a threat to your baby? I know plenty of people with children and dogs.

[ac3]

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[Poltergeist]

I really hope you can work on this problem so that Buddy doesn�t have to lose his home.

Here are a couple of sites you may want to check out:

http://positiveimpacttraining.blogspot.com/
- Training in English
http://cafe.naver.com/dogisdog
- Training in Korean and English. The site may be a bit difficult to follow depending on your Korean ability, but the owner speaks English fluently.

I know of at least one other English-speaking trainer in Korea and an animal hospital that could possibly help you arrange a boarding/training program. Some foreign trainers also offer Skype consultations.

Another resource is www.animalrescuekorea.org and the ARK Facebook page, where other dog guardians may be able to give you advice on how to manage conflicts between dogs and young children.

If after looking through all these resources you still can�t keep Buddy it would be best to post his picture on ARK and screen adopters carefully to make sure he doesn�t have to go through this again in another year or two. How is he with cats and other dogs? Is he neutered? How did he come to be part of your family?

[snowgoose]

To Poltergeist: good effort there, but wasted effort. Most of these families don't have real commitment to their pet. They always say they love them so much and stuff, but they seem to be very quick to boot out the pet the second their real family -their child - is "threatened." Most of the time, the way the parents fuss over their new baby and the pet becomes the forgotten dust-gatherer and annoyance, it's no surprise the pet gets angry at the baby. If the parents had adjusted their behavior from the beginning, it most likely could have been avoided.
These people never go to the effort of training or behavior adjustment - they are happy to tell themselves, their pet was happily adopted and will be even happier now. The first person that comes along, they throw their unwanted "loved" pet at, say: " adopted" and just wash their hands of it. They probably never even check up on how their pet is doing later. So much for "love our pet, can't bear to part with him..." I've seen lots of these same postings recently.

Truth is: pets are not REAL family members, when push comes to shove.

[ucfvgirl]

This is to snowgoose

I know this couple very well. I got to know them 5.5 years ago when they rescued a different dog and had to find a 'forever' home for him. I took the dog and the people and I have been friends ever since. They are not the kind of people you are describing. They rescued Buddy off the street years ago and provided a very loving home for him. Buddy and his owner had a very respectuful, loving relationship. Unfortuantely when the baby got older, Buddy, who is also older, did not appreciate the baby at all. He literally became a threat to the baby when he tried to attack more than one time. Some dogs are just not ment to be with babies or kids. And when you live in constant fear something is going to happen, then you need to make a change. And that's exactly what these people did. They did not WANT to give Buddy away and the thought of putting him down was so out of the question, but they needed to do something. And thankfully Buddy has found a new home where he can continue to live his life baby free. I am so happy this dog found a place where he can be himself.

I just needed to vent my frustration with people who like to judge others without knowing the entire story. Get the facts first before you opening comment on others.

[jacksthirty]

[snowgoose]

To Jacksthirty: Appreciate your comment!

The OP took great pains to explain the entire story because they care that much about Buddy - oh wait, they just wrote: dog has to be adopted or else, gonna have it put down.

Yes, the OP did not make much effort to explain about Buddy. No background about how Buddy came to them, just a short notice that they want the dog gone.

[snowgoose]

[snowgoose]

Reportedly, as a baby, my older sibling hit me. She was a jealous toddler. Luckily my parents did not have her adopted out - or put down.

Also UCVGIRL: where did I ACTUALLY SAY THAT THE OP was one of these families that I referred to that toss the pet out when the baby comes.

I merely said that this was something I'd noticed a lot lately on various forums.

Fine if they want someone to take the dog away - just cut the hypocrisy about it, and quit the "beloved family member" and "breaking my heart" kind of stuff. It's NOT a family member 'coz we don't give away our family - well okay, some people do but usually unwed mothers who can't support themselves and their baby.