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ghostrider
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 Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 6:45 am Post subject: Korean Women Complain About Their Marriages to Migrant Men |
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"The woman, who asked to be identified only as Oh, 38, is part of an Internet group with thousands of members who have suffered as a result of marriages with Pakistani and Bangladeshi men. The Korean women writing there have shared stories of being tricked into marriages with migrant workers from the two countries as well as verbal and physical abuse....
" 'There are so many women who have similar stories as mine. Most of us were hesitant to marry a migrant worker, but all of the TV shows and news stories beautifying multiculturalism and the stories of multicultural families living happily in Korea comforted us,' Oh said. 'But now, all of us are suffering from broken marriages. I just don�t want to see any more victims like myself.' "
http://koreajoongangdaily.joinsmsn.com/news/article/Article.aspx?aid=2948900 |
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The Cosmic Hum
Joined: 09 May 2003
Location: Sonic Space
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| Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 9:10 am Post subject: |
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| Oh met her ex-husband, identified as �M,� in 2006. At the time, M was a migrant worker staying in the country illegally but the two grew close and he tried numerous times to propose. |
This story is all kinds of fail.
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| 'There are so many women who have similar stories as mine. Most of us were hesitant to marry a migrant worker, but all of the TV shows and news stories beautifying multiculturalism and the stories of multicultural families living happily in Korea comforted us,' Oh said. |
Yes...all the tv shows that beautify marrying illegal migrant workers are certainly to blame.  |
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Allthechildrenareinsane
Joined: 23 Jun 2011
Location: Lost in a Roman wilderness of pain
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| Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 12:00 pm Post subject: Re: Korean Women Complain About Their Marriages to Migrant M |
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| ghostrider wrote: |
"The woman, who asked to be identified only as Oh, 38, is part of an Internet group with thousands of members who have suffered as a result of marriages with Pakistani and Bangladeshi men. The Korean women writing there have shared stories of being tricked into marriages with migrant workers from the two countries as well as verbal and physical abuse....
" 'There are so many women who have similar stories as mine. Most of us were hesitant to marry a migrant worker, but all of the TV shows and news stories beautifying multiculturalism and the stories of multicultural families living happily in Korea comforted us,' Oh said. 'But now, all of us are suffering from broken marriages. I just don�t want to see any more victims like myself.' "
http://koreajoongangdaily.joinsmsn.com/news/article/Article.aspx?aid=2948900 |
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happiness
Joined: 04 Sep 2010
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| Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 10:54 pm Post subject: |
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| Is this really a thing? I mean, they have to import foreign men? Isnt there a big gap between men and women. I thought I read itll be like 5 to 1 in a few years! |
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nukeday
Joined: 13 May 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 2:23 am Post subject: |
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The only multicultural marriages Korean media have ever beautified are those between Korean men and peasant southeast Asian women.
Show me a single show about foreign men from Pakistan or Bangladesh adapting to Korean culture (learning to cook, learning the language) in order to fit in with their Korean wives' family. Used to see shows like that about foreign women all the time, but there's just no way Korean TV would celebrate Pakistani male-Korean female marriages. I'd eat my shoe if they did. |
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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 9:18 am Post subject: |
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| nukeday wrote: |
The only multicultural marriages Korean media have ever beautified are those between Korean men and peasant southeast Asian women.
Show me a single show about foreign men from Pakistan or Bangladesh adapting to Korean culture (learning to cook, learning the language) in order to fit in with their Korean wives' family. Used to see shows like that about foreign women all the time, but there's just no way Korean TV would celebrate Pakistani male-Korean female marriages. I'd eat my shoe if they did. |
I can't imagine Korean TV encouraging marriages between Pakistani males and Korean females. Perhaps, in the West, there has long been this idea of accepting all cultures and turning a blind eye to any negative aspects of those cultures. |
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radcon
Joined: 23 May 2011
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| Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 2:51 pm Post subject: |
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| happiness wrote: |
| Is this really a thing? I mean, they have to import foreign men? Isnt there a big gap between men and women. I thought I read itll be like 5 to 1 in a few years! |
5 to 1 men to women ratio? Where did you hear that? Impossible. That would bring on armageddon. |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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| nukeday wrote: |
The only multicultural marriages Korean media have ever beautified are those between Korean men and peasant southeast Asian women.
Show me a single show about foreign men from Pakistan or Bangladesh adapting to Korean culture (learning to cook, learning the language) in order to fit in with their Korean wives' family. Used to see shows like that about foreign women all the time, but there's just no way Korean TV would celebrate Pakistani male-Korean female marriages. I'd eat my shoe if they did. |
Don't know the name of it but there ARE shows like this from time to time, I've seen them.
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| The Korean women writing there have shared stories of being tricked into marriages with migrant workers from the two countries as well as verbal and physical abuse.... |
Seriously, how on earth does one get tricked into marrying someone? How stupid would you have to be? That's not rhetorical, I really want to know just how stupid you'd have to be.... I mean if you really fell in love and he acted like he was too and then it turend out he just wanted a visa and acted differently after he got it - yeah I guess I can see that... ok, my own question answered. |
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minos
Joined: 01 Dec 2010
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I'm middle eastern looking. You'd be surpised how many korean women desperately want to visit India or the Middle east.
I've had some women practically chase me down....if they have a major in Middle eastern studies, I don't even have to try to sleep with them.
Migrants is a little vague; I know plenty of rich ones who make ESL salaries look like chump change.
They're not all Kebab guys or factory workers. Same for Nigerians. |
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Konglishman
Joined: 14 Sep 2007
Location: Nanjing
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| Posted: Wed Feb 29, 2012 6:41 am Post subject: |
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| nukeday wrote: |
The only multicultural marriages Korean media have ever beautified are those between Korean men and peasant southeast Asian women.
Show me a single show about foreign men from Pakistan or Bangladesh adapting to Korean culture (learning to cook, learning the language) in order to fit in with their Korean wives' family. Used to see shows like that about foreign women all the time, but there's just no way Korean TV would celebrate Pakistani male-Korean female marriages. I'd eat my shoe if they did. |
I can't imagine Korean TV encouraging marriages between Pakistani males and Korean females. Perhaps, in the West, there has long been this idea of accepting all cultures and turning a blind eye to any negative aspects of those cultures. |
Actually, I know one Pakistani guy/Korean lady couple living in Gwangju. They are indeed happily married. In fact, the guy in question learned how to speak Korean in part by watching the soap operas. Actually, he is quite open minded. |
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ed4444
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| Posted: Wed Feb 29, 2012 7:53 pm Post subject: |
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One common scenario is that men from certain countries try to tone down the cultural implications of marrying into their beliefs / traditions while dating and then push the agenda after marriage.
When this is combined with the Korean habit of marrying quickly without living with or sometime even knowing their partner well, it could be a recipe for a very unpleasant marriage. |
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ajosshi
Joined: 17 Jan 2011
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| Posted: Wed Feb 29, 2012 8:31 pm Post subject: |
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One common scenario is that men from certain countries try to tone down the cultural implications of marrying into their beliefs / traditions while dating and then push the agenda after marriage.
When this is combined with the Korean habit of marrying quickly without living with or sometime even knowing their partner well, it could be a recipe for a very unpleasant marriage. |
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ED209
Joined: 17 Oct 2006
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| Posted: Wed Feb 29, 2012 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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Korean women complain about marriage  |
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StudentInKorea
Joined: 29 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Thu Mar 01, 2012 7:46 am Post subject: |
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| nukeday wrote: |
The only multicultural marriages Korean media have ever beautified are those between Korean men and peasant southeast Asian women.
Show me a single show about foreign men from Pakistan or Bangladesh adapting to Korean culture (learning to cook, learning the language) in order to fit in with their Korean wives' family. Used to see shows like that about foreign women all the time, but there's just no way Korean TV would celebrate Pakistani male-Korean female marriages. I'd eat my shoe if they did. |
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dT_M6zZaFLU&feature=related |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here
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^^
That's the show I saw. The episode I saw had an Eastern European guy.
Where are the tkts to the shoe eating show to be purchased.  Ha ha, just jesting... |
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