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Who's Your Daddy?
Joined: 30 May 2010 Location: Victoria, Canada.
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 1:18 am Post subject: Re: "Support" for EPIK teachers in hostile work en |
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She's great with the students, but getting shouted down in front of them by the co-teacher in every class they teach isn't good any way you look at it.
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This is not acceptable. Walk out of the class and go to the teachers room. Tell the CT to never argue in front of the kids.
2nd the CT is a co-worker, and you should be treated respectfully. You are not a student to be bossed around.
Do not argue with the CT. If she starts yelling at you walk away. I know I'd walk out of the school and go home. Nobody talks to me like that. I don't care if they're paying me, I'd rather eat dirt. |
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swinewho
Joined: 17 Aug 2009
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 1:49 am Post subject: |
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Young FRANKenstein wrote:
She's great with the students, but getting shouted down in front of them by the co-teacher in every class they teach isn't good any way you look at it.
This is not acceptable. Walk out of the class and go to the teachers room. Tell the CT to never argue in front of the kids.
2nd the CT is a co-worker, and you should be treated respectfully. You are not a student to be bossed around.
Do not argue with the CT. If she starts yelling at you walk away. I know I'd walk out of the school and go home. Nobody talks to me like that. I don't care if they're paying me, I'd rather eat dirt. |
If it's really this bad:
A - don't walk out of a class - makes you look bad! At the end of class bring your concerns up with another co-teacher.....
B - Hopefully these concerns will be brought to the VP ---- DO not shout/be agressive ect ect - be firm but polite with your sentences, put it down in writing as well before hand as well if that helps compose yourself.
Walking out of the school is a bad idea - the CT can then turn round and say 'look this is what I have to deal with!'
Be smart - hopefully this person gets sorted out....
It would be interesting to see if this CT has any experiences of working with FT before btw............. |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008 Location: Korea
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 2:47 am Post subject: Re: "Support" for EPIK teachers in hostile work en |
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| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
Are there any groups or resources to help EPIK teachers with schools that have a hostile work environment? Options for what a teacher can do when in that situation?
My girlfriend is new to Korea. Her first day at her school was Feb.29th, so she's only been on the job 2 weeks (not including the week of EPIK orientation) and she's already so miserable and stressed by her co-teacher's hostility towards her, she's crying daily and has a constantly upset stomach from the stress.
She's not some young fresh-from-uni innocent with no job experience. She's in her 40's and has worked stressful jobs before--15 years as a nurse, so she's not exactly lazy or afraid of doing actual work. Plus, she got her TESOL well before even starting any hiring process (she looked at going to China as well). She's just new to teaching and needs guidance from her head co-teacher, and not the unending sarcasm, derision, belittling, heavy sighs, eye rolls, and out and out nasty tones of voice she is constantly receiving...
Two weeks in and she's already talking about quitting. She says her other two co-teachers, as well as the principal and vice principal, are all lovely and very kind to her, but the head co-teacher obviously has some "issue" with her and is impossible to be cordial to.
My gf's already started documenting everything, hoping to cover her backside if her co-teacher ever gets it in her head to get my gf fired with her nonsense**. She's trying to stay out of her way as much as possible, but between sharing and office and teaching 3 days a week together, it's not easy to avoid the problem.
Is there anyone she can talk to, or get help from, in her situation? Is it even possible to get transferred to another school this early in her contract? She's great with the students, but getting shouted down in front of them by the co-teacher in every class they teach isn't good any way you look at it.
I'm not in EPIK, so I have no idea how someone can deal with such a vile, toxic co-teacher.
**examples aplenty if you think they're necessary to this narrative |
I think your girlfriend has her expectations set too high if she was expecting support from her co-teachers. And it looks like her last job was one that actually mattered.
So that's one problem. Also, she 's on the older side and hasn't worked overseas. So might be set in her ways about assumptions and beliefs about doing a job (so, related to expectations).
That said, there are a couple things that can be done (in addition to what swinewho and ttompatz suggested).
1. If the co-teacher won't give your girlfriend the CD, then she can try asking another teacher.
2. (This one takes a while to learn, but,) you don't have to take nearly the crap in this job as it might seem when you're a newbie. But how you go about not taking crap is the key. And that varies from individual to individual. So much of this job is about interpersonal relations than it is about teaching.
I would suspect from what you've written here that maybe your gf is too needy for support and her co-teacher probably wanted someone more self-reliant and/or the coteacher is already under stress from administration work to help your gf for every little thing.
I think there is a process you just have to go through as a new teacher (especially an overseas teacher). Probably for starters, ttompatz has the best advice. It's hard at first. Your gf's experience reminds me of my first co-teaching experience in Japan. There's just something misleading about the use of the word "assistant" in "Assistant Language Teacher". But, gods at this point, it doesn't matter who my co-teacher is. I can deal.
As swinewho said, there should be EPIK coordinators who could advise her (or more likely help her to cope). But not all of them have strengths in counseling.
Two final thoughts... This was told to me before co-teaching in Japan; don't make work your primary reason for going there. You could be disappointed. Find something to do outside of school. Create a goal. Learn the language, travel, whatever.
The second thing...this is what my first recruit told me before coming to Korea. Don't try to change the system. Just collect your paycheck every month and go home after a couple years. |
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Squire

Joined: 26 Sep 2010 Location: Jeollanam-do
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 4:03 am Post subject: |
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The CT sounds look a cow. My CT last year was a bit iffy. Very set in her teaching style, which I actually didn't really have a problem with and eventually adopted as my own, and quick to criticise if I deviated even slightly from it. There were occasions when she'd walk over with a sigh and take over the teaching from me. I'd be raging about stuff like that, I wanted to throw her down the stairs at times. I never really felt I could complain though. I turned up with no experience and not a clue what to do, and she eased me in very slowly to her credit. She was also very precise and practically never made a mistake, and never put up with bad behaviour from the kids. I wish I could say the say for my new CTs.
I'm not sure what the point to this post is. I'd advise a new teacher to try their best to follow their CT, but this one we're talking about really does sound awful. KETs need to realise a lot of new PS teachers will be incompetent, I know I was, but that there is a lot to gain for them by bringing the NET along and easing them into the system. By the second semester of last year my CT would be doing nothing for 35 minutes of every class, and I was teaching exactly as she did herself. I think it's a stupid co-teacher who isn't willing to take advantage of that.
I hope things work out for your girlfriend. |
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Julius

Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 4:18 am Post subject: Re: "Support" for EPIK teachers in hostile work en |
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| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
| I have no idea how someone can deal with such a vile, toxic co-teacher. |
Years of practise, is how.
If you've been in Korea longer than a few years.. it starts to come to you real quick. |
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tideout
Joined: 12 Dec 2010
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 4:54 am Post subject: |
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There is no point in asking them to translate. They will only translate what they want you to hear. If you get picky about this it will only make things worse.
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Quite true. I had a conflict with a co-worker and we had to discuss it with the principal. In short, the principal was drunk and the translation of what I'd written was so terrible it would have taken an army of linguists to fix it.
Cluster**** does not begin to describe these situations. |
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some waygug-in
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 5:51 am Post subject: Re: "Support" for EPIK teachers in hostile work en |
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| Julius wrote: |
| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
| I have no idea how someone can deal with such a vile, toxic co-teacher. |
Years of practise, is how.
If you've been in Korea longer than a few years.. it starts to come to you real quick. |
Well with all that experience surely you could give at least one helpful tip?
I've had several KT's who were (not quite as bad) as the one described,
and I've still not found a way to deal with them. I finally gave up and left Korea because of it.
In the end, you couldn't pay me enough to try and work with someone like that again. It's just not worth it. |
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Julius

Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2012 7:33 am Post subject: Re: "Support" for EPIK teachers in hostile work en |
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| some waygug-in wrote: |
| Julius wrote: |
| Young FRANKenstein wrote: |
| I have no idea how someone can deal with such a vile, toxic co-teacher. |
Years of practise, is how.
If you've been in Korea longer than a few years.. it starts to come to you real quick. |
Well with all that experience surely you could give at least one helpful tip? |
It can be hard when you're in a vulnerable position (e.g. you desperately need the job / have no other options..) but you have to nip such hostile behaviour in the bud from the beginning, or it mushrooms. In other words...raise your voice the first time she raises hers..and so on. You have to match and repel the subtle war of gestures before they lead to a full on bullying. Project strength to deflect an attack.
In this case it sounds like its gone too far already, so she should start casting about for help. Call her recruiter, supervisor etc.
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| I went through this crap a bit when I first got here. Nowadays, not so much. |
Exactly.
This is the reason Koreans are scared stiff of old hands and always prefer to hire brand new newbies. Because they like foreigners to look clueless and inept. It makes them look better. Newbies don't know all the rules of their little games. |
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luckylady
Joined: 30 Jan 2012 Location: u.s. of occupied territories
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2012 12:26 am Post subject: |
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I'm surprised no one here mentioned talking to the head teacher about this. You state that her Co-T is the head Co-T - but I'm sure she's not the head teacher at the school. That's really the first step because the head teacher is the liason between the teachers and the principal/vp
Every head teacher I've ever dealt with spoke at least some English and was very supportive of my presence in the school. Your gf just needs to ask any of the other teachers who is the head teacher and then go in immediately and talk to her/him.
This is also a very good networking strategy when it comes to any other issues such as vacation, camps, parents, anything at all. Many Korean teachers complain about the NET not having to follow the same procedures as they do so when you bring questions to the head teacher and follow the same procedures as the other Korean teachers, you are also building respect because this is what they do as well.
give it a go and good luck. Her Co-T is probably pissed as hell because your gf's English makes hers look so pathetic. |
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YTMND
Joined: 16 Jan 2012 Location: You're the man now dog!!
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2012 1:08 am Post subject: |
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| I'm surprised no one here mentioned talking to the head teacher about this. |
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| She says her other two co-teachers, as well as the principal and vice principal, are all lovely and very kind to her, but the head co-teacher obviously has some "issue" with her and is impossible to be cordial to. |
Is there someone higher up they can speak with? At one hagwon, I could talk to a guy who hired me and worked with the owner. After 2 months, they didn't like what the manager was doing and fired her. The head English teacher was nice and I never had problems with her.
Always look up, but if it is a small school the head co-teacher is probably the manager. |
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some waygug-in
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2012 5:32 am Post subject: |
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Does she even know who the head teacher is?
It wasn't till my second year at a school that I learned that information.
The next school I worked at, I never did know.
Assuming that the head teacher will speak enough English to be able to understand what's going on is a big leap. Having someone come in who
misunderstands or misinterprets what is going on is not going to help.
It's nice that everyone is giving some advice, but these situations are never as easy as people make them sound.
Each co-teacher comes with their own set of challenges and you have to learn to deal with them as individuals.
I never was one for angry stand offs, perhaps that was my biggest downfall. Every time I tried that strategy, it ended up making things worse. |
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luckylady
Joined: 30 Jan 2012 Location: u.s. of occupied territories
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2012 5:49 pm Post subject: |
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the head teacher rarely will introduce her/himself to the NET.
you will find out about them (generally) in a round-a-bout way - because they deal with the Korean teachers as a whole, not directly with the English teachers, be they Korean or non-Korean.
the head co-teacher is NOT the head teacher - the head co-teacher would be dealing with all the other co-teachers and then be under the head teacher, who is over all the other Korean teachers combined.
the head teacher is someone who can directly intervene in these kinds of situations. it's been my experience that the head teacher is the most educated, experienced and generally very diplomatic kind of person, hence the position they are in, to liason between teachers and admin.
virtually all educated Koreans have studied English, btw, and most teachers speak at least a minimal amount. The head teacher would also, and chances are, may speak it very well.
a NET just won't immediately be aware of who does and doesn't speak English in their school simply because it's not the first language of choice. only upon asking, attending various events, and being in groups, over time will one learn who does and doesn't speak English and how well. of course, if there's a teachers' class after school, that helps as well.
again, if the NET in question would like to follow protocol and learn how to deal with professional issues in a Korean school the way the Korean teachers would do (highly recommended) she should seek out the Korean head teacher and speak frankly; take an interpreter if necessary but I'd be willing to bet it won't be. |
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YTMND
Joined: 16 Jan 2012 Location: You're the man now dog!!
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2012 6:03 pm Post subject: |
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I have always been aware and told of who the head English teachers were. I was told the day I walked into the hagwon. That's who I talked with most of the time, and they were the ones who gave me updates.
Chances are, the one teacher communicating the shots to you is the head English teacher, everyone else just stays quiet unless there is material for a class you need.
I never really had someone I thought of as a "head co-teacher". Each class either had a different Korean teacher and the NETs went around and/or we worked with a few co-teachers. If there was a head co-teacher in addition and I never knew about it, it had a null effect on my teaching or working experience.
The head manager working the front desk would be responsible for scheduling, so those were the two main people I worked with at a larger school. At a smaller school, my co-teacher was the manager and spoke to me about 100% of my scheduling issues. If we taught at a location far from the main office, then there was an office lackey who would come to our school and talk to us from time to time to make sure we were following "protocol". |
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luckylady
Joined: 30 Jan 2012 Location: u.s. of occupied territories
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2012 8:24 pm Post subject: |
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| YTMND wrote: |
I have always been aware and told of who the head English teachers were. I was told the day I walked into the hagwon. That's who I talked with most of the time, and they were the ones who gave me updates.
Chances are, the one teacher communicating the shots to you is the head English teacher, everyone else just stays quiet unless there is material for a class you need.
I never really had someone I thought of as a "head co-teacher". Each class either had a different Korean teacher and the NETs went around and/or we worked with a few co-teachers. If there was a head co-teacher in addition and I never knew about it, it had a null effect on my teaching or working experience.
The head manager working the front desk would be responsible for scheduling, so those were the two main people I worked with at a larger school. At a smaller school, my co-teacher was the manager and spoke to me about 100% of my scheduling issues. If we taught at a location far from the main office, then there was an office lackey who would come to our school and talk to us from time to time to make sure we were following "protocol". |
it's a very different environment and culture in a public school (or even a private elementary/middle school) than a hakwon where head teachers are appointed by a boss.
some things may be similar but overall, the teachers are part of a union and fundamentally a lot of procedures and protocols are different. mothers still rule the classroom, tho, of course. |
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YTMND
Joined: 16 Jan 2012 Location: You're the man now dog!!
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Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2012 12:48 am Post subject: |
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| luckylady wrote: |
| YTMND wrote: |
I have always been aware and told of who the head English teachers were. I was told the day I walked into the hagwon. That's who I talked with most of the time, and they were the ones who gave me updates.
Chances are, the one teacher communicating the shots to you is the head English teacher, everyone else just stays quiet unless there is material for a class you need.
I never really had someone I thought of as a "head co-teacher". Each class either had a different Korean teacher and the NETs went around and/or we worked with a few co-teachers. If there was a head co-teacher in addition and I never knew about it, it had a null effect on my teaching or working experience.
The head manager working the front desk would be responsible for scheduling, so those were the two main people I worked with at a larger school. At a smaller school, my co-teacher was the manager and spoke to me about 100% of my scheduling issues. If we taught at a location far from the main office, then there was an office lackey who would come to our school and talk to us from time to time to make sure we were following "protocol". |
it's a very different environment and culture in a public school (or even a private elementary/middle school) than a hakwon where head teachers are appointed by a boss.
some things may be similar but overall, the teachers are part of a union and fundamentally a lot of procedures and protocols are different. mothers still rule the classroom, tho, of course. |
I am talking about my experiences collectively. When I worked for GEPIK, a hagwon, after school program, etc... I ALWAYS knew the hierarchy. It's up to the teacher to find this out day one if they want to know what is going on. |
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