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[akcrono]

I feel like the kind of times we live in now marriage is seen like the serious decision that it is. If Gorf and his girl are committed to each other, but feel marriage is not the appropriate step at this time, kudos to them. They shouldn't have to get married just so they can stay together. marriage is a big deal, and should be treated as such; it's not always as simple as "if you love her, marry her".

[Troglodyte]

[PatrickGHBusan]

As someone who did move to North America (Canada) with a Korean wife (and our kids) here is my take for what it is worth....

1- You ABSOLUTELY need to have something set up BEFORE you make the move. That means a job or at least interviews. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for a lot of stress and added pressure on what will be a bit of a rough ride anyway.

2- Your GF will have to adapt as an expat and until she actually lives through this you cannot know how she will react. She may not be close to her family (you hinted as much earlier) but in Korea remember that she has a support network of friends and operates within her own culture and language. In the US she will have NO ONE except YOU. Repeat that a few times because it is CRITICALLY important. Initially and for a while after you move to the US she will rely on you as her network, her spouse, her friend. That can take many forms but it will put pressure on you to be there and to deal with her own culture shock.

3- She will want to connect with whatever Korean community exists where you move. That is normal. Sometimes this takes the form of a Korean church when there is nothing else. I know a couple (American guy married to a Korean woman from Suwon) who moved to a smaller US city a few years ago. That particular city had no significant Korean community and she had a real rough time. They moved to a larger city and she joined a Korean church there. Not for religious reasons but for that community connection.


Best of luck to you!

[allovertheplace]

Just move to centreville virginia

http://www.spaworldusa.com/

I fail to understand why people move to small, insular communities when moving with a Korean spouse I understand that this might be where you are from but it seems incredibly selfsh.

Essentially, follow me around in a community that I know you will hate. If she is willing to move to the US, or Canada, why not move to one of the places they can enjoy. So if your spouse hates the cold would you move to Alberta? Move to Vancouver for her. If she hates the heat, well don't move to Florida, move to Seattle.

This is not directed at the OP but rather a general observation.

[Yaya]

[PatrickGHBusan]

Yaya,

A person can set things up for themselves if they planned the move to the US/Canada or wherever they are going and acted on that plan in advance.

Lining up work or interviews can be done from abroad, especially in today's world. Do your research, figure out a plan and work towards it. This will not guarantee success but it will remove a lot of unknowns and stress from the move.

If you have the savings that enable you to take it easy while you look for work after you move that is great but frankly speaking that is also something that can be planned for...for exampe: Lets see, we want to move to the US and my spouse will not be able to work initially...what are the startup costs (housing) and how much do we need to have in savings to last us during the settling period?

Find that number and make the move only when you have the target savings.

Of course, unexpected things will happen. We all know mixed couples of made such moves and for some it turned into a complete disaster! The common denominator for those who transitioned successfully however is that they prepared for the move in advance.

[Adam Carolla]

[allovertheplace]

They are indeed very expensive locations. Doesn't take away from my point though.

If you want cheap life why leave korea in this first place? i just think that guys bringing korean gfs of wives back should think much more about their partners happiness over their own desire to live near friends and family.

Also DC and NYC (two of the most expensive cities in NA), are the locations with the most employment opportunities - for you and your spouse.

[transmogrifier]

[hack]

Why would you want to complicate your life by taking her back? At some point you are going to split up, probably she's going to leave you when she gets a taste of the good life. Then you're going to be on the financial hook for her and there isn't a thing you can do about it because you have to guarantee her financial existence if and when you can finally get her there. It's irrelevant who leaves who-you are responsible for her.

I've got 2 teachers right now who married in Asia and after a lengthy process brought them back-1 from Korea and 1 from China. Both are bugging me now for extra shifts as they have both split from their wives and now they have to support them.

If you feel the need to get married, find someone who is already a qualified resident or citizen. You're probably still going to split up but you won't get as badly screwed over as you will if you are the reason they immigrated.

You can thank me now or you can wish you had listened to me when the inevitable happens.

[Modernist]

[Mix1]

[PatrickGHBusan]

[Adam Carolla]

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