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Buddah's Slipper
Joined: 12 Mar 2012
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Not fat, she wieighs 52 kg, was 60kg when I met her, before that she was 44kg |
Pics or you don't have a girlfriend. |
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Leon
Joined: 31 May 2010
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:55 am Post subject: |
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I'm not really sure that kidney stones are what you think they are. My dad has had them several times, and yeah its because he drinks too much coffee. That's what the doctors have told him. It is also genetic in that some people are susceptible and some are not. My dad doesn't over eat, and is in great condition otherwise.
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/stonesadults/
Maybe she eats bad, but I wouldn't attribute the kidney stone to it as much as you. |
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Poker
Joined: 16 Jan 2010
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:18 am Post subject: |
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| Leon wrote: |
I'm not really sure that kidney stones are what you think they are. My dad has had them several times, and yeah its because he drinks too much coffee. That's what the doctors have told him. It is also genetic in that some people are susceptible and some are not. My dad doesn't over eat, and is in great condition otherwise.
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/stonesadults/
Maybe she eats bad, but I wouldn't attribute the kidney stone to it as much as you. |
Read this. I don't know what else to say.
1. http://www.livestrong.com/article/121126-bad-foods-kidney-stones/
2. http://www.scribd.com/doc/11526112/Foods-That-Cause-Kidney-Stones-Moderation-is-the-Key
3. http://www.comprehensive-kidney-facts.com/causes-of-kidney-stones.html
This 3rd link lays out all the causes. 1st on the list is poor diet.
Also, the case about your father having re-occuring stones.
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Hereditary genetic disorder can increase the risk of developing kidney stones. This condition could result in the body's inability to properly absorb substances such as calcium. Consequently a build-up of calcium can lead to the formation of kidney stones. Of all the kidney stone causes, this is probably one of the few that is not preventable, but with proper dietary and lifestyle choices it can be managed.
This is why a person whose relatives have been afflicted with kidney stones is at greater risk of also developing kidney stones. To some extent, this also helps to explain why people who have been previously affected by renal calculi are likely to have a recurrence.
Inherited genetic disorder may not be preventable, but with good dietary habits and medication, the risk of developing kidney stones can be reduced.
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4. http://www.kidney.org/atoz/content/diet.cfm
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I had a calcium stone. What type of diet should I follow? Will I have to avoid high calcium foods?
If you have had a calcium stone, your doctor may ask you to cut back on the salt and sodium in your diet. Extra sodium causes you to lose more calcium in your urine, putting you at risk for developing another stone. Your doctor will probably advise you to limit sodium to 2,000 milligrams each day. There are many sources of �hidden� sodium such as canned or commercially processed foods as well as restaurant-prepared and fast foods. A dietitian help you understand food labels and make changes in the amount of sodium that you eat.
You may not need to avoid calcium in your diet. It is important that you learn from your doctor and dietitian the right balance of calcium to eat. Following a diet low in calcium for a long period of time can lead to a loss of bone mass, or osteoporosis. In general, you can include two to three servings daily of good sources of calcium such as milk products and cheese. Including a source of calcium at each meal may actually help prevent oxalate stones from forming as the calcium binds with oxalate in food and thus prevents the oxalate from being absorbed into the body. For a good source of calcium, choose � cup of milk, yogurt, pudding or ice cream or � oz cheese.
Your doctor or registered dietitian can help determine if you need more or less calcium and help you plan a diet that is healthful.
I had an oxalate stone. What type of diet should I follow? Do I need to avoid foods high in oxalate?
If you have had a kidney stone that contains oxalate, research suggests that limiting high oxalate foods may help reduce your chance of forming another oxalate stone. The oxalate content of food can vary due to differences in such things as soil quality and state of ripeness. There may be variation in published data, too, as different methods may be used to determine the oxalate content of food.
Given these variables and the confusion that may be caused by comparing one available list with another, it is difficult to come up with an all-inclusive list of foods to avoid. However, as there is some agreement on the following foods, it is suggested that these foods be avoided as they are high in oxalate: peanuts, tree nuts (such as almonds, cashews, hazelnuts), soybeans, soy milk, wheat germ and wheat bran (including cereals), spinach, black tea, instant tea, rhubarb, beets, most dried beans (e.g., black, navy or Great northern), chocolate, and sweet potatoes. Based on a 24-hour urine collection study, your doctor may be able to give you guidelines on how strictly you need to avoid oxalate-containing foods. Many high oxalate foods are healthful so it is wise to not overly restrict your diet if not necessary.
Because the stone contains calcium and oxalate, be sure to follow the calcium recommendations from the last question.
Is there anything else I can do with my diet to help prevent kidney stones?
Reducing the amount of animal protein may help. Sources of animal protein include beef, chicken, pork, fish and eggs. Most people need only four to six ounces of high protein foods and three servings of milk or cheese a day. Check with your doctor or dietitian to be sure your protein intake is enough, but not too much.
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Linda868
Joined: 16 Nov 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:37 am Post subject: |
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I agree with lead by example and to talk to her. Explain how important her health is to you and should be to her. You do not want to marry this person and have them sick or die of some health related problems that were preventative. Also, try and do things together like workout together, eat healthy together, etc. Help her come up with workout plans that suit her needs and taste and same with food. That is what I have doing with friends and they are slowly changing their lifestyles to become healthier. If she makes small changes each week it is also easier to stick to (for example, one week eat more vegetables, another week drink at least 8 glasses of water, etc) And it is about a lifestyle change that she can stick to while still having fun and a social life.
In addition, she has to want to do it for her not for you. Explain to her you care about her and are attracted to her whether she is 44kg, 52kg or 60kg, but that you are worried about her health (hope that makes sense).
Also, health problems are easier to prevent then to fix once it is present. |
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Squire
Joined: 26 Sep 2010
Location: Jeollanam-do
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:34 am Post subject: |
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Aren't kidney stones a result of eating too much meat? Wladimir Klitschko had a kidney stone about a year ago and he's an athlete in his prime. I doubt lack of water was the major issue there
Anyway. I had a girlfriend who started getting fat. I noticed she ate nothing but crap- a truly awful diet. I started making sneering comments at her when I saw what she was eating in order to shame her into getting her act together, but it didn't work. The last time I saw a picture of her she was huge, and will probably stay that way forever |
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travellingwilly
Joined: 19 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 6:52 am Post subject: |
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My God...
you sound like a complete whining p*ssy. Grow a set of balls and accept that she eats a bit of fried chicken every once in a while. If you can't accept it, leave her alone and find some bird that you can control, like you seem to want to do.
If you ask me, she would be better off without you!! |
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travellingwilly
Joined: 19 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 6:54 am Post subject: |
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Anyway. I had a girlfriend who started getting fat. I noticed she ate nothing but crap- a truly awful diet. I started making sneering comments at her when I saw what she was eating in order to shame her into getting her act together, but it didn't work. The last time I saw a picture of her she was huge, and will probably stay that way forever[/quote]
I can bet that you are hardly a looker yourself!! |
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:00 am Post subject: |
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| travellingwilly wrote: |
My God...
you sound like a complete whining p*ssy. Grow a set of balls and accept that she eats a bit of fried chicken every once in a while. If you can't accept it, leave her alone and find some bird that you can control, like you seem to want to do.
If you ask me, she would be better off without you!! |
what's your problem, are you drunk?
The man is genuinely concerned about his gf and possible future wife because she has medical problems with her diet.
OP, I would strongly consider finding a new GF without the health risks. She could pass that on to your babies. |
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PatrickGHBusan
Joined: 24 Jun 2008
Location: Busan (1997-2008) Canada 2008 -
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:59 am Post subject: |
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Dodge that was pure comedy!!!!
Clever way of contradicting yourself or of providing some of crassest advice after trying to cover your butt and trying actually sound concerned....!
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1- what's your problem, are you drunk?
The man is genuinely concerned about his gf and possible future wife because she has medical problems with her diet. |
awwwww, concern and empathy for the OP and his GF. The "I care message" dressed up in just te right dose of chivalrous defense of the OP.
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| 2- OP, I would strongly consider finding a new GF without the health risks. She could pass that on to your babies. |
The ole dump her, she is not worth it and she could pass on her "defects" to YOUR babies.
Wow. |
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travellingwilly
Joined: 19 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 9:53 am Post subject: |
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Gorf
Joined: 25 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 11:25 am Post subject: |
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| My wife has been in an employment situation for the last year or so that's pretty much left her very little time for physical activity, and it's led to her becoming a bit frail- tiring more easily, feeling exhausted, upset stomach, more prone to aches and pains and colds. She eats healthily enough though, and now that we're living together I've made a point to be really encouraging and supportive of exercise. It's been going well so far and entirely positive. |
So she has no job, yet she can't find 30 minutes 3 times a week to exercise? What? Surely she doesn't spend 10 hours a day, 7 days a week outside, looking for jobs? |
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jeremydc808
Joined: 16 Apr 2012
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:57 pm Post subject: |
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My gf for two years is the most unhealthiest fit person I know. I'm guessing its her Chinese genes but she her eating habits are horrible yet she looks like she works out 5 times a week.
At first it wasn't a problem because she barely eat in front of me for maybe the first 3 months. As soon as she got comfortable, here came the Mcdonalds, Italian, Mexican and Hawaiian food. I used to fight and train MMA so I always made the healthier choices just because I was so used to it. But she was another story.
I tried my best to involve her in physical activities but she was not having it. She is the type of person who sleeps till 2 in afternoon and watches tv. Of course I had a problem with this because when you care about someone, you do your best to make sure they are not hurting themselves.
After a while I got used to the way she was because I liked her. I figured that you have to accept a person for who they are. Over time, I realized that her lifestyle began to take it's toll on mine. No matter how much I liked her, I couldn't see myself with someone so unhealthy so we split. We talk almost every other day but being friends was the best option. I still had a friend I cared for but did not have to deal with the stress of worryin about her lifestyle. Do I want her to make better choices, of course I do but I have no say in it. |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 4:11 pm Post subject: |
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Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
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NYC_Gal 2.0
Joined: 10 Dec 2010
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 4:32 pm Post subject: |
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Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:00 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
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