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dereklee003
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Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
I'm pretty sure you've never had a kidney stone. Say that again after you've experience one. (Unless you were trying to be funny, which it wasn't, or sarcastic, which isn't needed.) |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 5:30 pm Post subject: |
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| dereklee003 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
I'm pretty sure you've never had a kidney stone. Say that again after you've experience one. (Unless you were trying to be funny, which it wasn't, or sarcastic, which isn't needed.) |
You're right, I never have. However, I'm not going to lose 1/6 of my life to exercise nor will I stop indulging in food that has taste.
To break up with someone because they're not willing to dedicate their lives to kidney stone preventative measures is seriously insane. |
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NYC_Gal 2.0
Joined: 10 Dec 2010
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 6:13 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
When you're married, it's often shared money. As for kidney stones, I (knocks on wood) have never had them, but my cousin has been drinking a lot of water and eating healthily for about 7 years, since she had to go through them. I'd argue that it's a fair incentive for many to change their habits.
Also, several meals a day? Unless you're eating smaller meals, grazing in order to keep your metabolism running, that's excessive.
As for your comment on losing taste, plenty of healthier options are bursting with flavor. It doesn't all have to be deep fried garbage. |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 6:51 pm Post subject: |
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Also, several meals a day? Unless you're eating smaller meals, grazing in order to keep your metabolism running, that's excessive.
As for your comment on losing taste, plenty of healthier options are bursting with flavor. It doesn't all have to be deep fried garbage. |
Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner are excessive?
Or having all three of those being delicious is excessive?
Either way, I'll have to disagree. You can be healthy if you want, but if you're going to dump me because I enjoy unhealthy foods, that's excessive (unless you're afraid I will grow to be unattractive). |
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NYC_Gal 2.0
Joined: 10 Dec 2010
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
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Also, several meals a day? Unless you're eating smaller meals, grazing in order to keep your metabolism running, that's excessive.
As for your comment on losing taste, plenty of healthier options are bursting with flavor. It doesn't all have to be deep fried garbage. |
Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner are excessive?
Or having all three of those being delicious is excessive?
Either way, I'll have to disagree. You can be healthy if you want, but if you're going to dump me because I enjoy unhealthy foods, that's excessive (unless you're afraid I will grow to be unattractive). |
Three isn't the same as several. Three is a few. Several would be five more more.
I don't care if you eat unhealthily. I do, however, care if my husband eats unhealthily the majority of the time. A few (that's three, possibly four on a stretch, in case you're still confused regarding quantification) unhealthy treats a week are fine, but the majority should be healthy. If one knows how to cook, however, making healthy food taste great isn't difficult. |
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DejaVu
Joined: 27 Jan 2011
Location: Your dreams
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 7:29 pm Post subject: |
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| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
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Also, several meals a day? Unless you're eating smaller meals, grazing in order to keep your metabolism running, that's excessive.
As for your comment on losing taste, plenty of healthier options are bursting with flavor. It doesn't all have to be deep fried garbage. |
Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner are excessive?
Or having all three of those being delicious is excessive?
Either way, I'll have to disagree. You can be healthy if you want, but if you're going to dump me because I enjoy unhealthy foods, that's excessive (unless you're afraid I will grow to be unattractive). |
Three isn't the same as several. Three is a few. Several would be five more more.
I don't care if you eat unhealthily. I do, however, care if my husband eats unhealthily the majority of the time. A few (that's three, possibly four on a stretch, in case you're still confused regarding quantification) unhealthy treats a week are fine, but the majority should be healthy. If one knows how to cook, however, making healthy food taste great isn't difficult. |
sev�er�al/ˈsev(ə)rəl/Adjective:
1.More than two but not many: "the author of several books"; "Van Gogh was just one of several artists who gathered at Auvers".
You sound quite snobbish for being so wrong- this isn't new for you.
Anyways, I'm glad you have your husband on a leash. If I marry someone, I'll respect them enough to let them make their own choices in life. |
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dereklee003
Joined: 03 Jan 2009
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:07 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
| dereklee003 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
I'm pretty sure you've never had a kidney stone. Say that again after you've experience one. (Unless you were trying to be funny, which it wasn't, or sarcastic, which isn't needed.) |
You're right, I never have. However, I'm not going to lose 1/6 of my life to exercise nor will I stop indulging in food that has taste.
To break up with someone because they're not willing to dedicate their lives to kidney stone preventative measures is seriously insane. |
LOL trust me, if you ever get them, especially for guys, you will do ANYTHING to avoid getting them again. Most pain a man can ever feel. My first time I was in the Philippines and had surgery, second time in US and passed the stone in my toilet, 3rd time in Korea, stayed overnight at a hospital after throwing up just from the pain alone.
As far as the breaking up with someone for those reasons, yes, it's ridiculous. |
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dereklee003
Joined: 03 Jan 2009
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:09 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
| dereklee003 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
I'm pretty sure you've never had a kidney stone. Say that again after you've experience one. (Unless you were trying to be funny, which it wasn't, or sarcastic, which isn't needed.) |
You're right, I never have. However, I'm not going to lose 1/6 of my life to exercise nor will I stop indulging in food that has taste.
To break up with someone because they're not willing to dedicate their lives to kidney stone preventative measures is seriously insane. |
LOL trust me, if you ever get them, especially for guys, you will do ANYTHING to avoid getting them again. Most pain a man can ever feel. My first time I was in the Philippines and had surgery, second time in US and passed the stone in my toilet, 3rd time in Korea, stayed overnight at a hospital after throwing up just from the pain alone.
As far as the breaking up with someone for those reasons, yes, it's ridiculous. |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:29 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
Spoken like someone who has never faced serious health problems, believes that they'll live forever and serious disease will never happen, and thnks that they'll have money to pay for all of this why? Because they say so.
If you're just dating and fooling around, whatever, its a silly reason to break up. If you're serious and thinking about marriage, its a definate concern. Why should the kids college money go to pay for mommy's triple bypass and diabetes meds?
What about raising the kids? Is mom going to be angry all the time because eating unhealthy food makes her happy? Am I going to feed my kids pizza and chicken 7 days a week because that's what mommy wants for dinner and if she doesn't get it she becomes angry? Teaching kids to appreciate vegetables and healthy foods is a difficult enough task as it is.
I want my kids to look at a Denny's Grand Slam and a bowl of fruit and a bran muffin and be able to choose the fruit and bran muffin. To get a big smile at a big bowl of spinach. For the longest time I'd stare at my parents as though they were insane when they'd get a fruit bowl for breakfast and not a Farmer's Omelette. Why drink unsweetned ice tea? Why baked fish and not deep fried? Now I get it. Not only is it healthier, it actually tastes better. If they hadn't been there to teach that and occasionally force me to follow them (while still allowing me some freedom), I might never have learned it.
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Whenever I hear people talk like this, I just tell them that they are into the KPop of food. |
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fermentation
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life |
Pissing a rock out of your pecker isn't a big deal? There are probably few things in this world that are more painful. |
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NYC_Gal 2.0
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:40 pm Post subject: |
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Fair enough on "several," but when I worked in publishing, our style guide had it as at least 5. Type in "several vs few" on google and you'll see why I use this distinction. It's fairly common usage.
Still, it's not a leash to cook delicious food and do the food shopping and leave it available. My husband likes being fit. I'm not going to stop him from going out and drinking a few beers with friends, but if he starts getting unhealthy from it, like having high liver function and gaining weight, we'll have a serious talk about it. I'd expect the same if I started gaining weight or getting diabetes. In a couple, your health directly affects your partner. |
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Harpeau
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Location: Coquitlam, BC
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Relationships can be very complex. Change may be needed, but change is very painful. Wanting to change a partner might be seen as being codependent. One can only change themselves.
We tend to look much like the friends that we hang around with. They have a great influence on our lives. You are naturally concerned about her, but trying to change her might backfire against you.
Eating healthy foods most of the time, with some not so healthy foods here and there may be something to consider. I guess you could always cook for her.
I wish you the best! |
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DIsbell
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 9:22 pm Post subject: |
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| My wife has been in an employment situation for the last year or so that's pretty much left her very little time for physical activity, and it's led to her becoming a bit frail- tiring more easily, feeling exhausted, upset stomach, more prone to aches and pains and colds. She eats healthily enough though, and now that we're living together I've made a point to be really encouraging and supportive of exercise. It's been going well so far and entirely positive. |
So she has no job, yet she can't find 30 minutes 3 times a week to exercise? What? Surely she doesn't spend 10 hours a day, 7 days a week outside, looking for jobs? |
She has a job (notice that I said "has been", not "had been"). 9 hours or so in the office a day plus 3-ish hours of commuting. Keep in mind that life also has responsibilities outside of work and sleep. Doesn't leave a ton of time during the week for regular exercise, not to mention motivation. On the weekends we'd spend a lot of time together but that tended to be more typical date stuff- movies, museums, dinners, drinks with friends, etc. Not exactly 30 minutes of elevated heart rate. So she had some time here and there on the weekend. Since we've gotten married and started living together, though, it's been a little easier to make time for exercise and I try to be supportive and make it a shared activity. |
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The Sultan of Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 9:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Spoken like someone who has never faced serious health problems, believes that they'll live forever and serious disease will never happen, and thnks that they'll have money to pay for all of this why? Because they say so. |
Ah, to be 25 again!
Sadly, the man is right. That shizzle will catch up to you, does to all of us. I now have GERD and bronchitis from my years of daily tobacco, coffee and booze and whatever food I fancied whenever I fancied it.
The other guy is right too, change is painful. I tried going cold turkey on all that recently and was a bloody spaced out fruit cake for a cpl of days, literally off of my tree. I decided to be kinder on myself and do moderation instead. Now I have half as much coffee per day, only one cig in the workweek evenings with only one beer a night after dinner. Weekends, if socialising with friends that are smoking and drinking - well I know for a fact I either have to not hang out with them any more or only do that stuff once a week as an end of the workweek treat. I decided to take the latter option- and a Histamine1 inhibitor with hydrotalcide tablet to stop the acid pain keeping me awake all night- and let myself enjoy myself without limits once a week.
I exercise a little every day (calesthenics circuit mon / wed / fri - and walking / yoga / swim on the other days - all moderate intensity) instead of to full intensity 3 times a week and running my nervous and immune system down and feeling fatigued.
I eat two decent meals a day (a fried rice with meat and veg plus maybe noodles with meat and veg,) instead of three so as to allow myself my snickers and dove bar and other snack once each a day with my now weaker coffee (one stick of mix instead of two per small cup.)
If I had have lived like that all along I would likely not have the problem with my gut and eosophagus I do now.
Sigh./ |
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jdog2050
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 10:16 pm Post subject: |
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| DejaVu wrote: |
| dereklee003 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| DejaVu wrote: |
Why in the world is this thread this long?
Why in the world do people judge their partner's eating habits?
The poster above me broke up with his girlfriend because of this issue and no other (at least not mentioned).
If it doesn't effect how the physically look, how in the world could it so negatively affect you?
It seems to be that people who exercise lack the ability to appreciate pleasure in life. |
Having to spend time at the hospital because of stupid decisions. Shared medical costs due to stupid decisions. That affects the partner. There's more than just looks. |
So have them pay those bills with their own money. Or learn to enjoy food as well. I'm pretty sure a couple of kidney stones isn't a big deal when you get several satisfactory meals everyday of your life. |
I'm pretty sure you've never had a kidney stone. Say that again after you've experience one. (Unless you were trying to be funny, which it wasn't, or sarcastic, which isn't needed.) |
You're right, I never have. However, I'm not going to lose 1/6 of my life to exercise nor will I stop indulging in food that has taste.
To break up with someone because they're not willing to dedicate their lives to kidney stone preventative measures is seriously insane. |
OK bro. What about 10 or 15 years down the line when your SO's crappy eating habits catches up to them and they're in the hospital for Cancer, Kidney Stones, Diabetes...whatever...and you're footing the bill? |
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