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I-am-me
Joined: 21 Feb 2006
Location: Hermit Kingdom
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Me no love you long time!  |
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Julius
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Tue May 29, 2012 3:53 am Post subject: |
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| 12ax7 wrote: |
| Julius wrote: |
You married guys really make us single guys jealous, lol. |
Keep telling yourself you're single by choice.
Keep telling yourself that if it's comforting to you. |
I see I've hit a nerve??
I really didn't mean to, it was just a fun remark. |
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DaeguKid
Joined: 09 Dec 2006
Location: Daegu
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| Posted: Tue May 29, 2012 4:39 am Post subject: |
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read the OP's opening thread and that was it. Relax dude. First off, ignore what everyone else here told you.
I am going to tell you two things, and we will leave it at this.
1) Korean women throw the divorce card out as often as the sunrises in the morning. Bloody hobby.
2) Her hormones are out of whack! The woman is prego...She is going to say some crazy ass stuff to you. Let it go. Enjoy the sprog and future to come.
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jpe
Joined: 15 Aug 2011
Location: Seoul, SK
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| Posted: Tue May 29, 2012 5:06 am Post subject: |
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| I like that you tell him to ignore what everyone else said in this thread and proceed to tell him exactly what everyone else said in this thread. |
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Eedoryeong
Joined: 10 Dec 2007
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Tue May 29, 2012 5:28 am Post subject: |
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| Moondoggy wrote: |
so you're one of those men who bash their wives on internet discussion boards. how would she feel if she found out? it's really a shame. |
This reply is not fair or accurate (the quoted person never mentioned his wife in the reply) or helpful. Would not saying anything critical or not reaching out for help be the requirement for the end of your shame? |
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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Tue May 29, 2012 5:32 am Post subject: |
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| crosbystillsstash wrote: |
| yes if she's threatening now it's only gonna get worse . I have been through it. Don't take shit from her. If you were Korean she wouldn't try it. |
Yes she would. |
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Enrico Palazzo
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Joined: 11 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 8:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Swampfox10mm wrote: |
Here's how you handle it. Just tell her, "I don't want a divorce. If you want a divorce, go ahead. You'll have to sue me for it, though."
Basically, Korean divorce rates skyrocketed a few years back. The gov't became so alarmed by it, they saw the solution as basically making it really freakin' hard to get divorced, unless both sides agree that's what they want. But here's the catch... that's hard to do because most couples are divorcing over money, and money is the issue that they fight about. That, or one screws around and gets caught. So to get divorced without mutual consent, it's a year-long or more process that costs millions of won -- basically, a lot of money. And what do Koreans care more about than anything... you guessed it... MONEY.
I've heard that the courts, when ruling about who gets most of the money, will look favorably on the person who does not want the divorce. This also acts as a deterrent to those who want to divorce for money (you see, this is how the gov't is trapping thousands of Koreans into dead marriages, all to keep divorce rates from looking bad internationally).
So the next time your wife says, "I want a divorce!" Tell her "I don't want one. You're going to have to sue me for one!"
She'll then go check with a lawyer, learn about how she'll be dumping millions of won to divorce, and then have to face the court and explain why she wants a divorce when you don't. Without a good reason, she'll learn that she'll lose a lot more money. She will then freak out and learn to shut her arrogant Korean female pie-hole.
But be careful that she doesn't try to set you up as a bad guy so she can claim she was abused or something like that..
I am sorry to tell you, too, that life as a married couple becomes far, far more difficult with a child involved. |
Your time on Dave's has expired due to your very ugly comment. |
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soulofseoul
Joined: 23 Mar 2010
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 9:45 pm Post subject: |
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| Thats an ugly comment??? So different than a lot of other comments in other threads on here?? :roll: |
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Enrico Palazzo
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Joined: 11 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 10:02 pm Post subject: |
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| swashbuckler wrote: |
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| Julius wrote: |
| You married guys really make us single guys jealous, lol. |
There are joys in marriage, too. The topic was divorce, though. |
Yes! The joys of dealing some bitch-ass nagging you 24/7 for every small thing, the complete lack of freedom, and (my personal fav) banging the same body 40+ years.
Can I please trade places with all you married guys?  |
Unprofessional. This language violates the TOS. This isn't the street, folks. If it was the bar, fine. You're not at the bar. |
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litebear
Joined: 12 Sep 2009
Location: Holland
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| Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 1:11 pm Post subject: |
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Swamp has been banned then eh? Shame IMVHO, actually didn't think he was all that bad a poster.
Surely a warning in this case would have sufficed? |
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definitely maybe
Joined: 16 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 5:03 pm Post subject: |
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| litebear wrote: |
Swamp has been banned then eh? Shame IMVHO, actually didn't think he was all that bad a poster.
Surely a warning in this case would have sufficed? |
Right. While I understand that his choice of words were somewhat distasteful, I don't think anything written his post was cause for major offense or concern. |
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Enrico Palazzo
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Joined: 11 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 10:19 pm Post subject: |
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| litebear wrote: |
Swamp has been banned then eh? Shame IMVHO, actually didn't think he was all that bad a poster.
Surely a warning in this case would have sufficed? |
He got a warning. We decided to be somewhat understanding and take it as if it's an exception. He's on vacation for a few weeks.
Can you folks tune it down (those doing it) with very offensive language. He'll be around. No worries. |
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kimchi_pizza
Joined: 24 Jul 2006
Location: "Get back on the bus! Here it comes!"
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| Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2012 7:44 am Post subject: |
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| isitts wrote: |
| Weigookin74 wrote: |
| I have heard from friends that some Korean women threaten their husbands with divorce all the time. A type of phycological tool of control, I think. A buddy said his K wife threatened him all the time but then he got his F5, she shut up and never made the threats again. Anyways, just look her firmly in the eye and tell her never to threaten you like that again. Ask her if she really wants to suffer the stigma of being a divorced woman and single mother in Korea? Does she really want to work extra hard to have to support herself and the child. Tell her it may be part of her culture, but you're from another culture and that you won't listen to it. You'll be out the door. Enough said. |
+1 |
+2 I was married to a woman of another nationality and she, too, often voiced the 'divorce card' in the most simple of arguements. I looked her straight in the eye and said if that word was ever mentioned again, she would get her wish. She never mentioned it again.
In the end, well, I did my best and it was never good enough. I didn't threaten, I just did it: Divorce. Know your rights, think it through and I sincerely do hope you both take a deep breath and find that lost spark and make it work. Specially with a child on the way, the stress is high so find a nice 'escape' for the both of you, together. Good luck.
I'd recommend, take'n a car to the east coast, don't say a word to each other, but simply walk the beach, hand-in-hand, let the waves sweep out the stress, BUT YOU gotta man up and take control, be confident, that's all she's worried about. |
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madoka
Joined: 27 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2012 10:16 am Post subject: |
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| Swampfox10mm wrote: |
| So the next time your wife says, "I want a divorce!" Tell her "I don't want one. You're going to have to sue me for one!" |
I find it ironic that a guy who solicited advice on divorcing his Korean wife is giving advice on how to stay together:
http://forums.eslcafe.com/korea/viewtopic.php?t=204814 |
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madoka
Joined: 27 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2012 10:31 am Post subject: |
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| Enrico Palazzo wrote: |
| He'll be around. No worries. |
I don't think he will ever leave. He's already had derek, bassexpander, and swampfox accounts now. Plus one or two that I'm forgetting. Like many other banned users, they just come back with another account. |
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