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isitts
Joined: 25 Dec 2008
Location: Korea
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| madoka wrote: |
| Swampfox10mm wrote: |
| So the next time your wife says, "I want a divorce!" Tell her "I don't want one. You're going to have to sue me for one!" |
I find it ironic that a guy who solicited advice on divorcing his Korean wife is giving advice on how to stay together:
http://forums.eslcafe.com/korea/viewtopic.php?t=204814 |
Not ironic. He was able to work things out.
You gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure... |
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jfromtheway
Joined: 20 Nov 2010
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| Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2012 6:02 am Post subject: |
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| Writing two posts in a row trashing a guy who you know won't be able to respond to your words = you being a poon. |
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recessiontime
Joined: 21 Jun 2010
Location: Got avatar privileges nyahahaha
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| Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2012 6:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Yeah the whole divorce card is thrown around in Asian culure but it's usually attention seeking behavior. I know in Western culture the D word is taken a lot more seriously than in Asian/Korean culture, the same with the word "love" |
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litebear
Joined: 12 Sep 2009
Location: Holland
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| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2012 2:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Enrico Palazzo wrote: |
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Swamp has been banned then eh? Shame IMVHO, actually didn't think he was all that bad a poster.
Surely a warning in this case would have sufficed? |
He got a warning. We decided to be somewhat understanding and take it as if it's an exception. He's on vacation for a few weeks.
Can you folks tune it down (those doing it) with very offensive language. He'll be around. No worries. |
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plhanlon85
Joined: 27 May 2011
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| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2012 5:36 pm Post subject: |
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| jimmyjames1982 wrote: |
| Psychology major here |
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| Psychology major here |
| jimmyjames1982 wrote: |
| Psychology major here |
Oh man a psycho major |
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dg7104
Joined: 15 Sep 2013
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| Posted: Mon Sep 16, 2013 9:49 pm Post subject: |
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DIVORCED KOREAN WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED TRASH! It's a stigma in Korea, and it will be FAMILY SHAME on their public record for anyone else to see.
But despite that, Korean women manipulate their husbands this way by threatening divorce 2 or 3 times a week, like petulant babies.
Does this sound familiar?
A: "Why don't you just use the microwave oven to boil water?"
B: "Because the gas burner is better."
A: "The gas burner takes 10 minutes, and uses a lot of gas, just use the microwave and it takes 2 minutes."
B: "I WANT A DIVORCE!"
Best advice is DON'T MARRY A KOREAN WOMAN. -even a nice one. All the people I know who are foreigners married to Korean women all share the same stories. Yeah, yeah, yeah, docile, helpful little Korean woman before marriage, Green-card-demanding, money-hoarding, divorce-threatening monster after marriage. And after you have a baby? You are just a figurehead who earns money. You will never be fully accepted into the wife's Korean family, you are an outsider, and the prejudice will seep through. Keep looking no matter how tempting and beautiful the flower is, because they wilt after marriage. |
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jvalmer
Joined: 06 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Mon Sep 16, 2013 10:44 pm Post subject: |
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| dg7104 wrote: |
| DIVORCED KOREAN WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED TRASH! It's a stigma in Korea, and it will be FAMILY SHAME on their public record for anyone else to see. |
Not anymore, close to 50% baby. More people than you realize are divorced, especially among younger Koreans. And even a lot of older couples are splitting, but for them that stigma is still there, so they might not even tell their grow up children. That's until the son comes home and wonders why daddy is living in a different home... lol... happened to one of my CT's a few years ago. BTW that CT is also divorced, wife left both kids to him, luckily they are both in high school.
And divorcees tend to look for other divorcees in Korea. |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Mon Sep 16, 2013 11:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Two of my wife's three brothers are divorced. Both divorces were instigated by the wife. |
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wooden nickels
Joined: 23 May 2010
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 12:24 am Post subject: |
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| dg7104 wrote: |
DIVORCED KOREAN WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED TRASH! It's a stigma in Korea, and it will be FAMILY SHAME on their public record for anyone else to see.
But despite that, Korean women manipulate their husbands this way by threatening divorce 2 or 3 times a week, like petulant babies.
Does this sound familiar?
A: "Why don't you just use the microwave oven to boil water?"
B: "Because the gas burner is better."
A: "The gas burner takes 10 minutes, and uses a lot of gas, just use the microwave and it takes 2 minutes."
B: "I WANT A DIVORCE!"
Best advice is DON'T MARRY A KOREAN WOMAN. -even a nice one. All the people I know who are foreigners married to Korean women all share the same stories. Yeah, yeah, yeah, docile, helpful little Korean woman before marriage, Green-card-demanding, money-hoarding, divorce-threatening monster after marriage. And after you have a baby? You are just a figurehead who earns money. You will never be fully accepted into the wife's Korean family, you are an outsider, and the prejudice will seep through. Keep looking no matter how tempting and beautiful the flower is, because they wilt after marriage. |
Your description of being married to a Korean woman is the opposite of my experience. My wife has been wonderful. |
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Died By Bear
Joined: 13 Jul 2010
Location: On the big lake they call Gitche Gumee
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 1:56 am Post subject: |
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| wooden nickels wrote: |
| dg7104 wrote: |
DIVORCED KOREAN WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED TRASH! It's a stigma in Korea, and it will be FAMILY SHAME on their public record for anyone else to see.
But despite that, Korean women manipulate their husbands this way by threatening divorce 2 or 3 times a week, like petulant babies.
Does this sound familiar?
A: "Why don't you just use the microwave oven to boil water?"
B: "Because the gas burner is better."
A: "The gas burner takes 10 minutes, and uses a lot of gas, just use the microwave and it takes 2 minutes."
B: "I WANT A DIVORCE!"
Best advice is DON'T MARRY A KOREAN WOMAN. -even a nice one. All the people I know who are foreigners married to Korean women all share the same stories. Yeah, yeah, yeah, docile, helpful little Korean woman before marriage, Green-card-demanding, money-hoarding, divorce-threatening monster after marriage. And after you have a baby? You are just a figurehead who earns money. You will never be fully accepted into the wife's Korean family, you are an outsider, and the prejudice will seep through. Keep looking no matter how tempting and beautiful the flower is, because they wilt after marriage. |
Your description of being married to a Korean woman is the opposite of my experience. My wife has been wonderful. |
Yeah me too, 14 years and no major issues. They nag a lot, but very good person thank god. I feel sorry for some of these people though. |
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ttompatz
Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 2:30 am Post subject: |
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Newbie poster digging up a few necroposts to whine about k-ladies ...
I see a fast disappearing act in his future.
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wooden nickels
Joined: 23 May 2010
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 2:34 am Post subject: |
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| Died By Bear wrote: |
| wooden nickels wrote: |
| dg7104 wrote: |
DIVORCED KOREAN WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED TRASH! It's a stigma in Korea, and it will be FAMILY SHAME on their public record for anyone else to see.
But despite that, Korean women manipulate their husbands this way by threatening divorce 2 or 3 times a week, like petulant babies.
Does this sound familiar?
A: "Why don't you just use the microwave oven to boil water?"
B: "Because the gas burner is better."
A: "The gas burner takes 10 minutes, and uses a lot of gas, just use the microwave and it takes 2 minutes."
B: "I WANT A DIVORCE!"
Best advice is DON'T MARRY A KOREAN WOMAN. -even a nice one. All the people I know who are foreigners married to Korean women all share the same stories. Yeah, yeah, yeah, docile, helpful little Korean woman before marriage, Green-card-demanding, money-hoarding, divorce-threatening monster after marriage. And after you have a baby? You are just a figurehead who earns money. You will never be fully accepted into the wife's Korean family, you are an outsider, and the prejudice will seep through. Keep looking no matter how tempting and beautiful the flower is, because they wilt after marriage. |
Your description of being married to a Korean woman is the opposite of my experience. My wife has been wonderful. |
Yeah me too, 14 years and no major issues. They nag a lot, but very good person thank god. I feel sorry for some of these people though. |
My wife does some things that sometimes strikes me as odd, but she really never nags. She doesn't nag and doesn't care for shopping, knock on wood.
I have two close foreigner friends who have Korean wives. They always seem to be happy and prosperous. Another foreigner friend of mine, who is married to a Korean seems to always be having problems. I think he got a princess. Like many things here, it often comes in extremes. |
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Who's Your Daddy?
Joined: 30 May 2010
Location: Victoria, Canada.
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 3:32 am Post subject: |
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Yeah me too, 14 years and no major issues. They nag a lot, but very good person thank god. I feel sorry for some of these people though. |
I've only been married 3.5 years. I have a two year old son. But my wife nags like that's her job, and she's rarely happy. It's pretty miserable, and if I didn't have the son I'd have divorced her, and left the country. And if we were a Canadian couple in Canada I'd have divorced her too. The fact that we're in Korea with a child makes it much more difficult.
I told my wife to stop nagging, that I wouldn't put up with it. Honestly, I think that's a cultural difference. That Korean men will put up with it. But I now understand why the men are always "working late", because they don't want to go home.
Honestly, I'm not sure what I'm going to do. |
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Old fat expat
Joined: 19 Sep 2005
Location: a caravan of dust, making for a windy prairie
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 4:06 am Post subject: |
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^ Wow 
Too bad and my condolences.
Hope you're not planning on going into inspirational speaking cos I feel kinda uninspired now. |
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The Cosmic Hum
Joined: 09 May 2003
Location: Sonic Space
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| Posted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 4:28 am Post subject: |
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^ Wow
Too bad and my condolences.
Hope you're not planning on going into inspirational speaking cos I feel kinda uninspired now. |
Actually, pretty inspiring in its honesty.
More marriages are acting as cautionary tales than ever before.
People should really start thinking about this more.
Perhaps the marriage machine is broken. |
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