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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
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 Posted: Wed Jun 13, 2012 8:39 pm Post subject: |
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Double Post
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Wed Jun 13, 2012 8:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Dodge7 wrote: |
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| TheUrbanMyth wrote: |
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Ignore the xenophobic idiots. |
You can't always ignore them UM. I mean how do you ignore upsetting comments? You don't. You have give it back.
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Walk away.
How does escalating the situation help? Most sensible couples who are really in love can ignore an idiot. I'd say that someone who breaks up with you because someone mumbled something under his breath was just waiting for an excuse anyway. Most women I've dated would be mortified/horrified if I got into a shouting match with some jerk on the street.
In my view there are really only two situations (dealing with THIS particular issue) that warrant confrontation.
1) If the guy gets directly in your or her face/continues the harassment.
2) If the guy decides to get physical with either you or her.
Otherwise why give some ignorant jerk the pleasure of knowing he's ruined your day? Snubbing him cold sends the message that's he's not even worth that amount of time required to deal with him. |
Because they probably get off on the fact that no one--not even the mighty foreigner--stood up to him and it gives him a sense of power and a little bit adrenaline to do it again to the next couple. Plus you look like a pansy.
Put some fear into him and maybe he'll stop. |
I don't waste my time worrying about what jerks think. My self-esteem/ego is not validated by that. I really could care less if some idiot thinks I'm a "pansy". He'll have an extremely unpleasant surprise if he continues being abusive on that assumption.
Attempting to put some fear into him may have the exact opposite effect on him. Like I said it's not worth my time unless he gets physical/more verbally abusive.
Screaming "You see these rocks?" doesn't tend to be the best strategy... |
but that old man didn't want to see his rocks, and I bet he will cease from further foreigner bashing in the future. |
Yeah, he'll just support some politician that spews anti-immigrant rhetoric. Whereas if no one got all uppity he might go out the next day and meet a very nice foreigner and have a completely different view.
Can't live in the moment.
Great result. |
well you obviously take the beta male appraoch. No shame in that rails. |
No, I'm saying that guy will. That and it strikes to me that if you don't want to be thought of as some violent lowlife, you don't act like a violent lowlife. All that guy did was confirm every negative stereotype that is probably out there regarding African-Americans.
But no, I don't go for Rambo. I go for Humphrey Bogart or Dean Martin. Just because you're not an enforcer doesn't mean you don't fight.
Get a clue, its 21st century society, not the prison yard.
Thank goodness you can be an alpha male on Dave's!
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fermentation
Joined: 22 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Wed Jun 13, 2012 8:50 pm Post subject: |
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| I didn't know adults actually concerned themselves over being "alphla" or "beta." Seems like a rather "beta" thing to do. |
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joeteacher
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Wed Jun 13, 2012 8:54 pm Post subject: |
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When I'm with my wife and a stare is obvious, I blow a kiss. I've gotten some fun results doing that.
But the other day, some f***er selling fruit decided to call my wife a *beep* and make fun of her English. It got her pretty upset, I turned around and started after the guy and she had to hold me back. I wanted to drop kick him and all of his fruit into the street. Luckily she has more sense than me and stopped it. Not the right reaction on my part but sometimes that BS gets under my skin. I would have not been too pleased with myself if it got physical. |
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joeteacher
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Wed Jun 13, 2012 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Really? I got *beeped* for using a derogatory term to describe a woman who sleeps with a lot men. Starts with an S and ends in T, has a L and a U in the middle. C'mon, I think we can handle that. |
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2012 3:09 am Post subject: |
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| joeteacher wrote: |
When I'm with my wife and a stare is obvious, I blow a kiss. I've gotten some fun results doing that.
But the other day, some f***er selling fruit decided to call my wife a *beep* and make fun of her English. It got her pretty upset, I turned around and started after the guy and she had to hold me back. I wanted to drop kick him and all of his fruit into the street. Luckily she has more sense than me and stopped it. Not the right reaction on my part but sometimes that BS gets under my skin. I would have not been too pleased with myself if it got physical. |
What did the fruit guy do? Was he ready to fight you? I would have loved to have been there. I don't take that shiii anytime anywhere. |
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joeteacher
Joined: 11 Jul 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2012 3:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Dodge7 wrote: |
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When I'm with my wife and a stare is obvious, I blow a kiss. I've gotten some fun results doing that.
But the other day, some f***er selling fruit decided to call my wife a *beep* and make fun of her English. It got her pretty upset, I turned around and started after the guy and she had to hold me back. I wanted to drop kick him and all of his fruit into the street. Luckily she has more sense than me and stopped it. Not the right reaction on my part but sometimes that BS gets under my skin. I would have not been too pleased with myself if it got physical. |
What did the fruit guy do? Was he ready to fight you? I would have loved to have been there. I don't take that shiii anytime anywhere. |
He immediately backed down and gave us a clearly insincere apology. I should not have even given that guy a second look. Just ignore it and leave it alone. |
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