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luckylady



Joined: 30 Jan 2012
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 5:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was in Korea for over 3 years before I started handing out candy - the game thing came and went depending on the class.

what finally got me to hand out the candy was the overwhelming sympathy I began to feel for Korean students in general as more and more I understood the incredible, relentless pressures they were all under to perform. I knew that a LOT of the times they hated me, their teacher, just for the sole reason that their parents made them come to English class. that it was MY fault because Mom and Dad wanted them to speak English like me.

I simply got tired of it. If candy was what it took to soften the harsh reality of their lives, then by god, let them eat candy.

I don't pay the dentist bills, the kids are happy and I'm happy too.

OP, you let out a lot of steam in that rant of yours. don't take it all so seriously, you'll burn out years ahead of time. focus on the here and now, what you can and cannot accomplish and let the Koreans worry about their education system as a whole - it's their country, after all.
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Modernist



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 6:08 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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You seem to be suggesting there are only two ways of teaching. The 'fun' way of games and candy and the boring way of revising stuff to pass TOEFL tests. Kids generally don't have the motivation to learn languages in the way adults do so they're not going to want to do a boring activity for the joy or learning or because they think it'll get them a good job further down the
line. If they don't find the activity interesting they'll cut corners or start messing about. Yes you can try and make them do the activity with threats of discipline but that will probably turn them off the language learning
process completely and will still be fairly ineffective in making the stuff sink in.

A better way is to try and make the whole process interesting for them by designing the activities so that they are more kid friendly. That doesn't mean playing hangman all the time and giving out sweets. It means building kids' interest in a topic, giving them puzzles to, tasks to cooperate over, problems to solve, things to design and create. Some competitive element can be good as well but most kids will respond well to competition for competition's
sake. If the kids enjoy the lessons they will take part more actively, behave better and learn more. Coupled with this, as others have mentioned, you need strict guidelines and agreements as to appropriate behavior between the kids and the teacher and proper sanctions for those kids who will act up whatever the circumstances.

This is an EXCELLENT post.

The whole drill-sergeant routine from the OP--'Life isn't FUN! Life isn't some GAME! By God, you better work now, because it's all downhill from here!!' etc etc, is pretty much as ridiculous as the idea that all games and all candy all the time is a teaching method.

In my schools, I teach kids all the way from little 1st graders in ES up through the moody and sulking MS 3Gs. They like games and candy, like all children. Because they are Koreans, they act even less mature than their age in nearly every case, at every age.

That said, just because a kid says 'teacher GAME!' a couple of times at the beginning of class doesn't mean much. They are trying to see what they can get away with. They are pushing boundaries. That's what they do. Didn't you ever test a new teacher when you were a kid to see what you could get? You just say, no. It's about a third of being a teacher OR a parent. No, you can't play a game today, we are going to do work. No, you can't have a toy today, you got one last time. No, you can't switch teams because you don't like the boy across the table. No, you can't use the iPad until you finish your homework. This is part of the whole, you know, thing. We are trying to teach them behavior, not only knowledge. We are socializing them, or trying to.

I give some candies, but they are small and they have to be earned. In MS I have a chart and if they win a competition or do well in an activity, I give them stickers. After they get 8 or so, they get a candy. In ES I give cute stickers to the kids who go out of their way to try in my classes, as reinforcement. I'll use the bomb games maybe 2 or 3 times a semester, mostly for review--and they DO practice speaking. It's not a waste, they get them involved.

It's not so much 'look how much FUN Englishee is!!' as it is a recognition that what I am asking of them is often difficult, and I recognize that fact. They are not little soldiers. They did not sign on for a campaign or a values lecture or whatever. They are children. They are trying to figure things out. We are trying to help them do it. Small efforts to smooth the way are in everyone's best interests.
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soomin



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 10:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think some people are taking their job titles too seriously... there are real teachers out there, but for most of us, all our hagwons want is a body in the room who is fun enough that more moneybags-- I mean, students, attend. I want to teach and make my students learn, but quizzes are "too stressful" and lectures are "too boring" and as the foreign teacher, my job is to be the mascot of the school, not to teach.

One day I asked for a day off work so I could get on an airplane before Christmas day... it was "Christmas party day" so I figured it wouldn't be a problem, but my boss told me that it was my job to take pictures with the students and look pretty so the parents would have faith in the hagwon... This is my job. I make my own lessons and force the students to do quizzes and try to get the basics into their heads, but if there aren't games involved, I'm not doing my job, according to my boss. I've taught at a no-nonsense, no games allowed hagwon and the students were always bored and breaking into fights and blabbing... until the principal made his rounds with the stick. Students kind of learned there, but it was mostly, "do these pages and finish the book in this amount of time, no matter what," so, again, if a student didn't understand by the end of the 40 minutes... too bad for them. Maybe another teacher would explain it to them in their class? Again, not my job.

Even though I am an ESL teacher... I'm not really. In my upper-level classes, sure! I teach a lot and integrate fun without playing games all the time (or ever, for a lot of classes). But with a bunch of kids running around who don't even know basic words like "bathroom" or what the days of the week are... my only job is to not stress them out, and to make them (and thus my hagwon's wallet) happy. This was the job description given to me by my boss and it's what I have to do. If you want to be a real teacher in ESL, I think it would really depend on the hagwon/PS. They're the ones deciding what you have to do, and they're the ones you have to appease.
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blm



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2012 11:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Modernist wrote:

That said, just because a kid says 'teacher GAME!' a couple of times at the beginning of class doesn't mean much. They are trying to see what they can get away with. They are pushing boundaries. That's what they do. Didn't you ever test a new teacher when you were a kid to see what you could get? You just say, no. It's about a third of being a teacher OR a parent. No, you can't play a game today, we are going to do work. No, you can't have a toy today, you got one last time. No, you can't switch teams because you don't like the boy across the table. No, you can't use the iPad until you finish your homework. This is part of the whole, you know, thing. We are trying to teach them behavior, not only knowledge. We are socializing them, or trying to.


Saying "No game today" and seeing how much it crushes them is one of the highlights of my day.

Please don't try and take it away from me.
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Old fat expat



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 12:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Reinforcement is the most powerful tool in learning. This is a cornerstone of Behaviorism. Before you huff and puff about Chompsky, don�t worry�Behaviorism is alive and well BABY!

I get your point though. A powerful tool used wrongly is destructive indeed. Punishment is a powerful tool too, but the unfortunate truth is those who don�t know how to use reinforcement are also ignorant of how to use punishment. Too bad for the kids.

Still don�t believe me? Reinforcement schedules are what make computer games so compelling. Go to Las Vegas, bet on a game, play Lotto. How popular is Facebook? And man, haven�t you heard of behavioral economics? Cos� you�re living it. It�s all been figured out by your handlers.

HOW the reward is given is really the question you need to understand. This will also require you to understand reinforcer values and inflation. Ohh, I know! You can use candy on the short term and pair it through a better social reinforcer � like � like � encouragement. Have you heard of Pavlov? Pavlov is world famous (for those who have been here a while).

Which will get you to a class where participating is fun, natural and paired to the appropriate social rewards�which is what I believe you want. WITHOUT the use of punishment.

Geez, dude. Don�t you want that? Don�t you want that kind of teacher for your own children? The BEST teacher is the one who makes you enjoy working hard. Enjoyment and hardwork are not exclusive, that would be a silly argument (but talk to someone other than a Calvinest � they are sorta weird).

But you better know what you are doing. Otherwise you might be on the same road as that teacher you used to hate back in highschool because his classes were a real drag man (please replace �a real drag man� with appropriate generational terms, or � whatever � losers � yo?).
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northway



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 4:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Geez, dude. Don�t you want that? Don�t you want that kind of teacher for your own children? The BEST teacher is the one who makes you enjoy working hard. Enjoyment and hardwork are not exclusive, that would be a silly argument (but talk to someone other than a Calvinest � they are sorta weird).


I agree with your post, but I think it's worth pointing out that this doesn't necessitate playing games. Playing games can be a part of it, but it's possible to be a great, engaging teacher without ever playing games. The material you teach, and the way in which you teach that material, is far more important, and the more crucial skill to develop as a teacher. Games can be effective, but they can also be used as a crutch by bad teachers.
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YTMND



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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it's possible to be a great, engaging teacher without ever playing games


Yea yea yea, send us the year long videos proving this.
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pegasus64128



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:39 am    Post subject: Re: Holy mother of god stop giving candy and playing games. Reply with quote

Times30 wrote:
The philosophy of kids being kids is insanely flawed and permeates to this generation of children. And we, the teachers, are to blame. I've noticed this insane trend that kids who have parents and teachers who decided to buy their kids things, permit rude behavior, and play have absolutely none of the long term "likeable" or good characteristics of a good person.

So you may ask, why is this OP talking about this?

I've taken a huge undertaking to discover what has made my "good kids"... so likable and good. And why my "bad kids" are so bad. I ask a lot of personal questions and connect with their lives. Here's the trend. The "good" parents almost always did not bribe their kids. One in fact, did but ultimately never gave the reward. (Kind of like a real lesson about life lol). The other "bad" kids, apparently were rarely punished or not given high expectations to behave well in the home (not exactly Sherlock Holmes here). In addition, the parents almost ALWAYS gave in to a kids begging or complaints. Essentially, compliant parents... Sound familiar teachers?

As an example, my worst kid in all time history who also spoke English well, had an ipad and brought it to school. She never tried hard, never did anything but was disrespectful. She actually shared facts about her life and all of it was about getting something for doing nothing. Well, that was her expectation. Somewhere in her head she thinks "I don't have to work, it's all provided for me". I also knew her previous teachers and all had this trend for buying candy and allowing whatever the _______.

Which got the thought going in my head, Why do we let kids "be kids"? Essentially, why do we give kids permission to do the things they wouldn't be allowed to do as an adult? Why would you ever let a child tug my clothes or cry about candy? Would you accept this from any adult without smacking him in the face? Imagine how absolutely annoying it is to have a co-worker whine about work and say "no", it's all about ME! (Sounds like that show sweet 16) And know what? I HAVE seen it from 23ish year old kids in Korea. Are they ready for the workforce? Ready to make a great change on humanity? Jesus no.

Know who created these self-entitled maladjusted children?

We Did

All teachers need to start making a stand against all this games and candy. I'm sorry, but what the end effect is that we're keeping kids in a bubble of comfort. We're stunting growth. We're suspending adulthood and instead creating a new generation of "man children".

Have you ever wondered why Gen Y is the generation of man babies? Probably because we grew up with everything given on a silver platter and no work. We're essentially ruining children by giving them the expectation that life is about fun and games (literally).

I came in and subbed in for a teacher. Almost 10 minutes at the beginning of class I was asked, "Hangman teacher! Mafia game!" I was livid. These kids are middle school. Alright, games are ok once in a while, but if it gets to the point that children have EXPECTATIONS of games, they have some corrupted expectations of life. Games in a classroom is an expectation? Try working for Samsung and then ask your boss, "Hey yo, Boss MingSu, I demand we play Othello now". You don't expect a substitute teacher to start playing games. And furthermore, you shouldn't have the gall to even request or make such a demand. These are middle school kids, it's really not long until they hit high school and then college. Some argue, well... they are only kids for a short time, they will learn eventually. But that's not the case... if ever. We could make that argument for everything. Why learn English as kids? pfft, they can learn later. Why go to school? Pfft, they can learn it later. Make them strong, teach them the values they need NOW.

Life is not a game, there has never been a time where drawing a dying man and a whole bunch of missing words has ever given me skills for life. So why do we teach it? To fill up time? To make them happy? To keep your job?

The values are misplaced. Our focus as educators is to make sure the students are adapting for REAL life. A life with a job, a life with a family, and a life working for the betterment of human kind. We are not doing a good job. We are telling kids, hey... if you whine and are unhappy, teacher is going to give in, buy you pizza, candy and make sure you are happy... because that what really matters kids! We even go to such lengths is to make class entertaining. Think about it... Have you ever had a 9-5 job and your boss said, "It's important to me that you guys are entertained!!! So for all your reports I want you to draw me pretty pictures!!!" We are MESSING up kids. They go out into the real world, and suddenly it's not about them. How do they deal with it? They don't. They cry, they moan, and they have no idea how to deal with disappointment. They expect (because we made these expectations) that life is easy, and someone is going to bail them out. But guess what? No one will. And your kids, they ones YOU taught, will fail in future life. Because we spoiled them now. And for what? So you can feel like a good teacher? So you can get the pleasure of making them happy?

Teachers, do not ruin your students. If you truly care about them, then you don't care about their happiness or if they like you. Caring about being liked is a selfish act. The true goal is to get these kids ready for life. So don't paint fairy tale pictures of the future. Don't tell them that English is a bunch of games, candy or pizza. Stop it now and start teaching the real skills that make good workers. Produce CEOs, thinkers, harder workers, good employees, and managers.

As it is now, we're only producing babies, because that's how we treat them. So let's get some real work done. We need a movement, even as young as elementary.

No more games, no more candy, and no more "I want to keep my job so I will let your rude behavior slide".


I have only one bad-ass student - a girl. She's a clever one but has an attitude. She complains a lot about being tired and is not very enthusiastic - shock - she's a little bulkier than other girls. So I talk to her individually before class if I have time. "How are you today? Are you tired? Why? etc. (with a smile) and she responds. I think her attitude has improved lately.
I DO NOT give candy to students. Not for any lofty ethical reason really. It stems from a public school I worked at in Gyeonggido when I gave out candy to reward students (candy bought by my co-teacher I might add) and it was some kind of hard rocky toffee. One of the girls ate the candy and as I looked into her mouth I could literally see a whole gigantic silver cap or crown being lifted out of her mouth and blood gushing. She acted like it was normal. I took the candy from her. Since then I have never tolerated candy being given out in my class, except soft candy, and as long as I'm not the one buying it or giving it out. I'm not here to line dentist's pockets.
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YTMND



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 6:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Looks like people are building a precedent for being jerk teachers.

Teachers who are against this candy thing,

Can you come up with other reasons? Let's assume candy were like oranges or apples. Would you still be opposed to the idea of giving out oranges or apples?

You should. After all, in theory, all they would be doing is behaving in a way to get those apples and oranges. English would still have nothing to do with it.

So, whether or not it is a stalk of broccoli, a basket of apples, or a glass of freshly squeezed vitamin C orange juice, your wise old English lesson is not being received.

Address the lesson.
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northway



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 8:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

YTMND wrote:
Quote:
it's possible to be a great, engaging teacher without ever playing games


Yea yea yea, send us the year long videos proving this.


I'm sorry, does teacher's college suggest that you engage your students via games, first and foremost? Do you really think it's impossible to engage students if you don't play games with them?
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WadRUG'naDoo



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 10:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't play games, nor do I give out candy or anything else. The kids get stamps or stickers for their performance in class, but I'm not the one dishing those out. They get encouragement from stars by their names (usually given by the co-teacher and once in a while from me). I they get a certain amount of stickers, they can choose toys/prizes that we have on display. This, however, isn't their main goal to have fun in class. I use activities with flashcards and courseware on our interactive whiteboards. We sometimes draw pictures for usage of the unit languages. We sing songs. They go home and come back next week.

I don't do Bingo, Hangman, Snakes and Ladders, and any other such garbage.
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luckylady



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 20, 2012 12:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

spelling bees are excellent and actually work wonders.

I totally recommend them.

they actually have a history in the U.S. where, as some might be aware of, many immigrants from many different countries settled in the mid-19th century and continued to arrive. many students had difficulty then with English just as today Smile and the spelling bee became a way to encourage correct spelling and to learn vocabulary.

you can even do them in public school classes, which are very large. the kids have fun, get to practice pronunciation and parents like them as well. I've even made certificates for winning students at the end of the year.

btw, spelling is actually a national competition in the U.S. now

and yes, I was an interscholastic speller myself Cool
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Eedoryeong



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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2012 12:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

MALADJUSTED CHILDREN ARE NOT LINKED TO PLAYING GAMES!!!

Play is the work of children. I don't care you how rationalize whatever you think it is in your mind you need to do in the classroom, if you are not down with this basic of facts, get your corn-fed a*s back to Hicksville, USA.

It's possible that kids may be maladjusted from playing NO games, POINTLESS games, games that DON'T target the curriculum or offer evaluation methods through the objectives of the game's activity.

But you are serious forked in the head dude if you think kids need to stop playing games. Like, Pink Floyd's 'The Wall' style epic proportions of fail as a teacher.

Now, sugar spikes and not having proper breakfasts, that can fog up an attempt at education no question there.
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Squire



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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2012 2:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I like this thread. I don't understand why English should be fun when there aren't similar expectations on maths and science. Games (good games) can be useful for reinforcing language, but giving out sweets? I don't remember my best teachers at school giving out sweets. I don't remember playing silly games with them either. They taught their subject competently and didn't goof around
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YTMND



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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2012 4:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

northway wrote:
YTMND wrote:
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it's possible to be a great, engaging teacher without ever playing games


Yea yea yea, send us the year long videos proving this.


I'm sorry, does teacher's college suggest that you engage your students via games, first and foremost? Do you really think it's impossible to engage students if you don't play games with them?


I don't want to argue about this. My point was that you should do some games and give some kind of a reward in moderation. I wasn't advocating exclusively doing nothing but candy and games.

I think you took my stance and exaggerated it.
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