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[kiwimchi]

Hi everyone. How many of you are currently in long distance relationships and were you with your partner before you decided to teach in Korea?

My partner is currently planning on moving over to teach and I'm a bit scared and don't know what to think.

Help, advice?

[s.tickbeat]

Good luck. I've heard of it working out, long-distance. I've heard even more often of it NOT working out.

I decided to come WITH my partner.

[Sireno]

Truth be told it sucks. The scholarly academic research on long distance relationships says the same things. It sucks, and often fail. However I am doing it now and managing... okay. My advice for both of you is to keep busy doing something and have plans to meet or goals to at least visit each other.

[Yaya]

I'd give a long-distance relationship a big thumbs down. I know of a few that worked out but mostly, they are doomed.

Go with her if you can.

[Konglishman]

And the other problem is that sometimes, the girl doesn't exist... Sorry, I had to put in a Manti Teo joke.

[kiwimchi]

Problem is I can't go with since I didn't finish my university degree. I've not really got the guts to take the illegal route and risk going without or with a fake one.

[oppa637]

Mine didnt' work. Ton of girls here to soothe my pain tho.

[markness]

Well, OP, good luck, that's all I have to say.. haha. I am sorry if I sound like an ass, but a lot of times they long-distance relationships fail. I have seen guys cheating on their girlfriends and vice versa, no one is safe. Or, maybe I am just too paranoid.

[giraffe]

My long distance relationship Worked. We are now married. We did the long distance thing for 3 years. We met in Canada, she came back to korea. I would go to Korea for a few months in the Summer time and She would come to canada for her 2 month winter vacation. So we were together at least 4-5 months of the year... Until we married in 2009...

IT wasnt "easy" but we made it work. Lots of phone calls/skype calls ( 2 times a day), text messages, emails. She had to finish university and I had my job in Canada. Eventually we married, she moved to Canada. ANd then a after 2 years we moved to korea Together.

all worked out, were happy.

Still, I think most long distance relationships fail. Ours worked for some reason. There were ups and Downs as you can imagine... But being able to be together at least 4-5 months of the year helped ALOT!

[Squire]

Girls cheat like mad. If it isn't possible to come with her, then tell her that leaving the country would be the end of it. It might be tough, but better than being the one left at home

[Yaya]

[ktkates87]

I used to think long distance relationships were super crazy, but since I've been here I've met two different people who had significant others back home and managed to make things work.

I hate to be cliche but if its meant to be......

[kiwimchi]

I personally really dislike the whole "if it is meant to be" argument. I find it too fatalistic and defeatist.

"I know this is going to be hard on you and isn't entirely necessary, but if its meant to be"

lol

[Yaya]

[Swampfox10mm]

I'd tell her you love her, but break it off -- clean.

There's a pretty good chance she'll get a crappy job here and want to come home after a year.