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bee · Joined: 12 Mar 2013

My long-term boyfriend and I are about to begin applying to Korea together. We aren't married, although we are seriously committed. I don't want to philosophize on why we don't see marriage as crucial to our relationship. I want to know if we should simply lie to potential employers and say that we're married, or, if we should actually get married before leaving.

The real question is, would they ask for a certificate? We have different last names, of course. We are definitely going to tell potential employers that we're married, but should we worry about being found out if we're not?

I apologize if this is a repeat question, but I searched Dave's and could only find awful problems about marrying Koreans.

Who's Your Daddy? · Joined: 30 May 2010 Location: Victoria, Canada.

Employers won't ask for evidence, you can lie. I have friends that have done it, and worked for public school. One took the provided accommodation, one took the housing allowance.

If you have say 10K in savings, you could arrange you own accommodation and take two housing allowances, and get a nice place.

War Eagle · Joined: 15 Feb 2009

LOL at awful problems marrying Koreans!! Only unhappy people typically post about their marriages.

Please, please don't get married just because you are coming to Korea. No one cares.

Please, please don't ask for advice on marriage from a message board, particularly this one.

Looking forward to some of the replies though.

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ttompatz · Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Location: Kwangju, South Korea

markness · Joined: 02 Jan 2013

I don't want to make you a worry-worm OP, but Asia is a place that can cause some serious infidelity. I know I am going to get torn apart for this comment, but don't say I didn't tell you otherwise.

Lucas · Joined: 11 Sep 2012

War Eagle · Joined: 15 Feb 2009

wishfullthinkng · Joined: 05 Mar 2010

markness · Joined: 02 Jan 2013

goat · Joined: 23 Feb 2010

I say get married. There are a lot of beautiful, in shape Asian women here. In fact, most of the Korean girls will fit this description. I am aware of many western girls having their boyfriends drop them for the cute Korean girl.

Being married doesn't mean he won't have a few flings, but at least you can take him back home with you when your contracts are finished.

ttompatz · Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Location: Kwangju, South Korea

and HORSE CRAP.

If he is going to cheat then he will cheat and it won't matter if you are in Seoul or Podunk and it won't matter if he is surrounded by almond eyed beauties or coyote ugly types. He will cheat.

If he is going to be faithful then it won't matter if he is in Seoul or Podunk either.

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randall020105 · Posted: Mon Jun 10, 2013 11:00 pm Post subject: Re: Western relationships

Hi - I hear you... tell them the truth and that you want one apartment. Tell them to pay your 400 000 won in cash to the other partner.
My wife and I did that and it worked perfectly before we got married.
They would ask q's about why you're not married and living together - I just told them it doesn't concern them!!! They kept quiet after I told them Westerners do it that way. When in Korea, DO IT YOUR WAY!!!

Hope that helps.

ibeattheborg · Joined: 17 Dec 2010 Location: the deep blue sea

Hell's Bells, Good God, may the angels have mercy on my soul BUT WTF! People are considering marriage in order to get a job in Korea??? If marriage is not CRUCIAL to your relationship, why would you do it to come and teach here? My mind is boggled by the questions of potential teachers yet again! Mianhamnida, I wish I could be more understanding.